The Ashley Berges Show

Clients have asked me, Why did I fall for a narcissist? How does this happen? There are a lot of reasons we fall prey and fall in love with someone who eventually takes their mask off and is a true narcissist. Whether it began in our childhood due to our parents narcissistic tendencies, the commonality that can be felt when meeting someone with similarities we may not be aware of, the love bombing and the attention we receiving from the person in the beginning, and countless others reasons for w

Self-awareness and a lack there of is your big determination to honestly understand if someone has significant signs and symptoms of narcissism or not. When dealing with these people, you will find yourself on a very uneven playing ground. The rules do not apply to them! They make up the rules for the relationship and you must follow them. If not, there will be a problem. However, they are immune to the rules - the rules do not apply to them - You learn this over a period of time- in the beginni

There are real reasons why people with borderline personality disorder, signs and symptoms connect with people who are narcissistic and have narcissistic signs and symptoms. The attraction is very deep-seated and somewhat primal. Primal in the sense that the relationship is fast and furious, the borderline getting wrapped up in the narcissist’s persona. The narcissist feeds the borderline what they want and then the love bombing and constant attention stops and then the intermittent reinforcemen

Why do narcissistic relationships feel so incredible in the beginning and so painful later? In this episode, Ashley breaks down the cycle of narcissistic relationships, from love bombing, idealization to devaluation, gaslighting, receiving the silent treatment, and emotional control. Discover why we stay, why we try to get. back the beginning of the relationship, people stay, and why the beginning was not real. Learn how childhood conditioning, codependency, borderline personality disorder, and

Are you currently dating? Trying to meet the right person? Are you currently on a dating app and working to meet someone who you connect with? In today's podcast, I am breaking down the 10 biggest dating red flags that can lead to manipulation, heartbreak, and unhealthy relationship patterns. From too much attention and love bombing to bringing up marriage on the second date, to jealousy, emotional manipulation, and hidden emotional baggage. Join me as I explain what these red flags look like, w

There’s a specific type of narcissism that goes under the radar. It goes under the radar because it’s the opposite of what you think of when you think of narcissism. Overt narcissism is the most known type of narcissism where someone is the center of attention, extremely arrogant, and overpowering others. However one specific type of narcissism is even more toxic because it goes under the radar and surfaces when you are already deep into a relationship, partnership, or friendship. These people w