Feb. 23, 2026

Yes You Can: Desire, Dream, Do

Yes You Can: Desire, Dream, Do

When life changes in an instant, who are you without the identity you built? In this episode of Quick Before You Forget, host Ty Schmidt learns from Jeff Griffin, Paralympic medalist, speaker, and resilience expert, about rebuilding your life after adversity, overcoming self-doubt, and rediscovering who you are when everything feels lost. After a devastating accident left him paralyzed from the waist down, Jeff had to face the ultimate identity crisis. What he discovered wasn’t just resilience. It was perspective. If you’re feeling burned out, uncertain, disconnected from your purpose, or stuck in self-doubt, this episode will remind you of what’s still inside you.

We talk about:

  • How to shift your mindset when life falls apart
  • What to do when your identity is stripped away
  • The power of perspective in hard seasons
  • Rebuilding after burnout or disappointment
  • Why “impossible” might not mean what you think
Because sometimes the only thing standing between you and your next chapter is remembering who you are.

Meaningful Moments

00:00 – You Are More Capable Than You Think
Jeff’s belief that we all have “God DNA” — and the power to create miracles in our own lives.

02:12 – A Childhood Lesson That Shaped Everything
The manure metaphor: turning challenges into growth.

06:15 – The Danger of “You Can’t” Thinking
How limiting beliefs get wired into our identity.

11:30 – Quitting on a Dream (and Lying About It)
Jeff shares the moment he walked away from football — and what it taught him.

24:26 – The Accident That Changed His Life
A 40-foot fall. A broken back. An identity crisis.

29:12 – “Why Are You Crying?”
The prison inmate who changed Jeff’s perspective forever.

32:00 – Perspective: Your Power or Your Prison
Shifting from what you can’t do to what you can.

34:51 – Writing Your Own Obituary
A powerful exercise to rediscover your purpose.

38:59 – The Daily Dime Habit
Five minutes that can change your mindset.

43:34 – Inch by Inch Is a Cinch
How to rebuild your life one small step at a time.

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You do have the ability to achieve your dreams and desires.

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You come from infinite intelligence. You have that God Dna

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inside you to be able to create, to be able

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to do, to be able to accomplish and perform miracles

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in your life, and so you do have the ability

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to achieve your dreams and desires.

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Jeff Griffin, welcome to Quick Before you forget.

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Thank you for having me time. I am so excited

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to have this conversation. I'm so excited to be edified

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from you and your questions and your comments, and I'm

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excited to maybe you shine a little light. It's in

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love with your audience today.

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I am so grateful you're here. So listen. The first

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few guests I'm having on the show, I'm having on

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the show as a thank you, as a gratitude moment

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to say thank you for believing in me and for

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helping me go after my big crazy dreams. So you

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guys don't even know what you have to look forward

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to with Jeff today. So I just need to tell

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you buckle up. Because some people teach possibility, others become

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proof of it. Jeff Griffin, known to friends as Griff,

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was paralyzed in college, rebuilt his life, became a Paralympic medalist,

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and has spent the past two decades helping people move

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past doubt and into action. This one's about remembering what's

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still inside you and moving forward with that. Jeff, thank

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you for being here today. I really appreciate it, and

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I'm wondering as you've done and lived this life. The

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most important tool I think we all have is our story,

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especially in moments of strength and struggle, and how they

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lead defining our purpose through intentional and personal growth. Let's

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go way back. What is a childhood memory that shaped

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who you are today?

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I would have to say, you know, you know my mother.

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If I were to write a biography, it'd be called

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you know, my Mother's son. You know, my mom grew up.

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She was born in between the Great Depression and World

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War Two. She didn't see a balloon like, yes, that

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little balloon that you hold, and as a little kid

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tell she was thirteen years old because of the rationing.

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learned her life lessons knee deep in cowpoop as she's

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shoveling the cowman ord to get it too ready to

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spread onto the fields to where the crops will grow.

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And a specific experience that really shaped my life for

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me was I was probably ten years old and I

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went into my mom's office and she was working on

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the computer, and I was probably going in there to

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complain that I don't want to do the chores, or

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you know, I was going to say, hey, I'm done

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with the work that I'm really not done with. And

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I go in there, and before I could even say anything,

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little sticky note, and I remember pausing, stopping and looking

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at that sticky note and reading what it said on there,

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and my mom wrote to remind herself the challenges are

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like minore, they sure do stink, but they certainly help

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things to grow. And so that moment right there, I'm like, okay,

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I'm like that makes sense, but I want to make

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it even more simple for me, for a ten year

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old kid, and so I'm like, okay, I get this,

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take your crap and turn it into a crop, and

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and so ever since that, you know, at that moment,

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it's like, I'm like, okay, how can how can I

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look at things as an opportunity instead of you know

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a challenge and or how do I take my mess

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and turn it into my message? And just that simple

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little tool and technique of being able to flipped the

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switch and reframe things. But yeah, my mother had a huge,

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huge impact on who I am today. And if I

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were to write a biography, you would be titled my

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Mother's son.

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you at ten years old hadn't yet really faced the

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real kind of challenges, right, so the real challenges were

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not that far off. Talk us through how you were

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able to put that mindset shift into action when things

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got really challenging a few years later.

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been this you know, hopeful Griff? Have you always been

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this positive? And the answer is no, no. And so

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you know, I've had my moments, I've had my times

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and whatnot, you know, And my book is called I'm Possible, Desire,

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Dream to Do. I think those three those three d's

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are the foundation of every solution and every challenge that

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we're faced with. And if we understand, you know, what

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a desire is and how to you know, take a

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look at the anatomy of dream and how to dream

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leave and then actually go and do the things that

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are actually going to give us some results. That lies

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at the foundation of of of everything. And h And

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another one of my bottle cries, as I as I

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call them, because we all need battle Christ is just

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don't quit. Capital D O capital I T. And so

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you know you can see the do it inside the

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just you know that don't quit. And and so people

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are like, So I go around and I teach people

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how to like tap into that and how to develop

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a peace square mindset to where you don't quit, to

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where you do it even even in those times of difficulty.

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And but what's interesting here, ty is you know I

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went from okay, learning this valuable lesson from my mother

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on taking your crap and turn it into a crop,

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and you know, learning how to be resilient in those

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in those moments. But knowing what to do and doing

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what we know are two different things.

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Amen.

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And so as a ten year old kid, I grasped

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the concept, but now I'm going to have to implement

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it and close that gap. And so in that journey

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of you know, my life, I've had some amazing moments,

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and I've had some really really low and and and

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ugly moments. And one thing that's really really galvanized and

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shaped me who I was, and I think prepared me

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for the accident that changed my life forever was an

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event that took place my freshman year in college. You know,

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my dream was to play football in college. That was

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the song that sang inside my soul. I'm like, yes,

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this is what I want to do. I want to

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play on the big stage. I want to play for

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Lavelle Edwards at BYU. I grew up in Cash Valley,

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where they breed him to hate them. But I was

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a receiver and I loved football. That was the song

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that sang inside of my soul. And I played in

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the springtime, I played in the summertime. I played it

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in the winter time. And on Sundays when I couldn't

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play it outside, I'd go down in the basement and

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play it in my mind, and I just dream about

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making catch after catch after catch from the next All

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American quarterback at YU. And and I'd been told my

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whole life all the reasons why I couldn't like Griff.

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You can't play football. You're too short, you can't play

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football in college. You're too slow, you can't play football

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in college. You're too white. I'm like, Okay, I get it.

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Too short, too slow, too white. I'm like, it's all

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stacked up against me. But I'm like, I don't care.

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I just knew I had a song inside my soul

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and I wanted to chase it down. I wanted to

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orchestrate and conduct that song that sang inside my soul.

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And fortunately for me, I didn't realize it at this

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younger age that most people base our possibilities on their limitations.

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Again, most people base our possibilities on their expectations, their

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limitations exactly, and so we.

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Do it ourselves, right, We base other people's possibilities on

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our limitations. And yeah, you really can't do that. You

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you you can't, Joey maybe, Jennifer maybe, And I don't

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know if you experienced this before, where you've experienced this,

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boy like, I can't do this. I know that Ty

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can do it, I know that Tommy can do it,

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but oh I can do it. And so for me, I,

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as a little kid, I'm like, I didn't understand that.

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And I continue to chase down my dream. And one

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day after practice, I came home and there was a

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letter on the table from the school that I wanted

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to go to, and just to make sure I wasn't dreaming,

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I went to touch the embossed helmet that was on

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the envelope. And because I'd heard that word I can't,

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you can't so many times. In fact, I even told

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myself that Italy. But I'm like, there that song, here's

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that song. I continue to chase that that song, and

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can taste chase down that dream. And you know this

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word I can't, I'm just going to just throw it

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out there, eliminate it from your vocabulary. Just eliminate from

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your vocabulary. It is poisonous, is debilitating, and it is

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it's limiting. And as soon as you tell yourself you can't,

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your mind accepts the fact that you can't come up

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with a solution. And so for every minute you doubt

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it's possible, you give up sixty seconds in finding the solution.

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contributor contributing factors to you know, why we we we

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don't get to accomplish our dreams. And so going back

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to this moment. Here's this envelope, here's you know. I

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wasn't sure if I was a dreaming or not. I

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touched the embossed helmet. I opened up the envelope. I

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pulled out the letter and there was a letter address

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from the legendary Hall of Fame code which Leavelle Edwards

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inviting me, the short, slow white guy, to go play

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at at his on his team and so here. And

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so I thought he was given this to everybody, like

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he must be given this there. But because I've heard

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that word, you can't grift, you can't do that. And

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so I took it to practice. I'm like, hey, guys,

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did you guys give this letter as well? And they

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thought I was like rubbing it in their face, like hey,

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look what I got. I'm like, you guys suck, but

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look at me. I've got the I've got a letter.

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So they tried to take my head off and practice

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that day. But long story, short time, And this is

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what I'm getting at, this idea of knowing what to

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do and doing what you know, there's a gap. And

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I showed up on campus my freshman year and I

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was excited and stoked, and you have, it's a little

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bit of trepidation as well. But what happened quickly was

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catches that I typically caught. I drop routes, I ran

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with Christmas, I stumbled and fell. Teammates that once encouraged

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me were now discouraged me because they were hoping to

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get a spot on the team as well, and the

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pressure was too much, or at least I thought it

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was too much for me, and I quit. And to

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make matters worse, when I called my parents up, I

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told him that I was cut. I was cut from

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the team. I was so embarrassed that I quit.

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Was that you fibbed to your parents?

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Called a fib call it whatever, a white lie, whatever

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it is. It was a lie, I told you because

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I was so opry.

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Why why do you so? Your mom was like your

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number one fan, So why did you feel like you

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had to lie to her? What made you lie?

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she was like my agent. She was like my biggest cheerleader.

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She encouraged me to do these things. She'd bring me

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articles about the you know Karl Malone, the great uh

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you know all star play for the Utah Jazz and

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saying how he worked out during the off season and

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and and so yeah, I was just you know that

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moments of weakness where first of all, that moment of

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weakness where I went into the coach's office and quit.

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The second moment of weakness was getting onto you know,

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the call with my parents and letting them know that, hey, listen,

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I won't be playing football this year because I quit.

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You know, I was cut. I was cut from the team.

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And and but here's what I've learned this that moment

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right there, and to think about it to this day

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embarrasses me, it really does. But at the same time,

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it was a lesson of a lifetime that kind of

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galvanized and helped prepare me for the moment that was

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coming in the in the in the future. And the

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lesson that I learned was is when our desires and

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dreams do not match up, we allow that demon of complacency, doubt,

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and fear to creep in to our mind. And uh,

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eventually what's going to happen is we're going to quit.

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We're gonna quote on our dreams, We're gonna quote on

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our friends, we're gonna quit quote on our families. And

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some people quit on their themselves and quit on life.

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They take their lives. And so one thing that I've

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learned here, ty is when are we going to stop lying?

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When are we going to stop lying to ourselves? When

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we're going to stop lying to our friends and families

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and start start living and start realizing that, you know what,

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I do need a little bit of help. I do

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need to maybe change and to shift a few things

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in my life. And there's tools and techniques, and so

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fortunately for me, the coach gave me a way out.

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He's like, Griff, I know you're going to go serve

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it to your mission when you come back and you

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want to play, giving another shot, And I'm like, okay.

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So for two years I went and developed this piece

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grid mindset I developed, you know, I closed the gap

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for me on knowing what to do and doing what

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I know. And I learned so many valuable lessons during

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those two years, and I developed what I call the

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Peace Cort mindsets, and I call it the possibility principle.

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But that right there prepared me to come back. After

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those two years. I made the team. I got to

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experience two plays, and I got to experience what it

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would be like to be on the first team, to

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be in the huddle and on the field, not just

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on the sidelines, because as successful leaders and leaders of success,

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we even got to get people not just to the

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stadiums into the stands. We got to get them out

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of the stadium and out of their seats and onto

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the sideline to put a jersey on their backs so

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that they can go and play in the game called life.

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Because once you play this game full out, you turn

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your gray into four K.

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Well that's beautiful, and thank you for sharing that whole story.

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I have so much to unpack from what you head.

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So one of the things that is it just sounds

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it's like says easy does hard is working through that

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gap and what it means when people say you can't.

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So you talked about how you worked through it, but

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I want to know, like, how would you advise people

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who hear that you can't. You can't. You can't and

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it starts you and I both know that it starts

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to rewire the way that you're thinking. So how do

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you work through that at like a very high level.

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One one thing that you can do to step in

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the right direction against that you can't mindset one hundred.

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Percent you can't. And what I do is I have

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little a little I call the battle cry and my

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battle cry bracelet. And I've got four battle cries that

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I personally love and use. This one I hear is

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I'm possible, because how do you take the impossible and

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turn into the possible without changing your circumstances, because so

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many of us want to just blame our circumstances, blame

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our upbringing, blame the color of our sky, and blame

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where we went to school or didn't go to school,

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whatever it is. And so we all have we all

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come with this programming. I call it poor programming. And

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and so you know, sometimes I have to remind myself

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by reaching down and snapping myself out of out of

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that mindset and we'll all and so again. So that's

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what I that's why I use.

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You guys can't see it if you're listening, But so

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I'll explain what he's doing. He's got his bracelet, which

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is pink, by the way, and I love that, and

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it says I'm possible on it. So he's literally snapping

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it to snap himself out of it physically and mentally

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at the same time, which is very powerful and definitely

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something that people could can you know, learn from in

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terms of the physical and the mental working together for

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good to change, to change things. So I didn't mean

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to interrupt you, but I do want to know more

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about this P squared thing. So I know about it,

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but I know that the listeners and viewers would love

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to know more about that too. Can you can you

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walk us through what that is and how you can

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use it in your life?

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Yeah, one hundred percent. And so so again that the

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battlecry place is kind of like gets your realigned. It's

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like it snaps you out of this. And so one

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thing that we need to realize is that we can

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flip the switch. We can change our thinking. I think

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Wayne Dyer said that when you begin to change the

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way you think, the things that you think about begin

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to change. I probably butchered at sorry Wayne, love your stuff,

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but anyways, you get you get the idea there. And

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so it's like, okay, first of all, we have to

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just admit that we have the ability to flip the switch.

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And I'm give you an example because how many guys

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have been, you know, arguing with with a love one

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somebody that you love or whatnot you're going out of

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your you're arguing. Also, the phone rings and you have

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to pick it up. It's somebody that you got to

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talk to you. So you look at the phone, you're

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you're just going at a hard and all of a

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sudden you click that button, click hello, yep, uh huh

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yeah absolutely everything. Yeah, everything's okay, everything's great, and yeah

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we're doing great. It's on click and you're just going

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back out again. So we have this ability to flip

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the switch. We all have done it before. And so

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you know when your lights go out in your house

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because from the breaker you know, we don't get on

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the ground and kick our feet and throw a tantrum

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because the lights went out. No, we get up, we

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go find the breaker box, we open it up, and

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we find the fuse that has broken, and we just

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flip it and the lights come back on. No big deal.

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And so that's what the Piecequare mindset is. It's like, Okay,

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how do we flip the switch and turn the lights

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back on. How can we start to consistently and persistently

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do those things that are going to change that poor

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programming or I think is zig Zigler says, the stink

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and thinking.

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Stinking thinking, Well, I think it's a little easier when

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you have that song that singing inside your soul, which

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is what you kept talking about when you were telling

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the story before. Can you walk us through what that

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sounds like? Is there is there an actual song? How

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does how does that come to life for people? Because

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I personally, and you know this, I have a soundtrack

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for my life at all times. I love music. Music

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brings my soul a live music helps you process things

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that words can't. So when you're speaking about the song

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inside your soul, that speaks my language. So talk to

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me more about that and how that sounds and how

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that kept you going when you were going after everything

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and being told repeatedly over and over again that you

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couldn't or that you can't.

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Yeah, I love that, and so for me, music is

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the bridge. It translates your feelings into words, and it

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gives you imagery that you can't quite get to. And

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so that's why I use this. You know this phrase.

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You know you've got to start listening to the song

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that sings inside your soul because we all have that

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song that needs to be heard by the world, but

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for whatever reason, we've turned it off, we've shut it down.

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We've stopped listening because of all the boo birds and

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everyone else out there. They're saying, listen, you can't do this,

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you can't do that. It's impossible, it's impossible to do.

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And so, you know, we have the outside world telling

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us that we can't. We even have the inside world

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because we listen to the outside world telling us that

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we can't. And so we've stopped dreaming, we've stopped listening

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to that song. And you know, with music, you've got

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that conductor, you know, with the one hundred and thirty

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piece orchestra. I don't even know how much is in

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an orchestra, but can you imagine be that conductor that gets, like,

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you know, tell the trumpets to quiet down a little

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bit and the strings to bring it up a little

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bit more, and the guy who does the triangle, it's like,

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you know what, you got to get that right? You

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just got to hit up perfect and uh. And so

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most people don't know what they want, but the majority

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of us know what we don't want. And there's that

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problem because where our focus goes, the energy flows and

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we continue to get the same thing that we don't want.

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And so we have to understand how to conduct and

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orchestrate that song. And I call it dream weaving. How

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do you open up the flowgates of imagination and dream

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new dreams? How do you dream? I get? How do

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you dream and color? How do you slow down enough

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to read that tapestry of dreams? It's going to hang

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on somebody else's social media wall. And we're always told

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you got to know your dreams, you got to know

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your why, but no one teaches you how to do that.

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And so part of this process you know that I've

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gone through, you know, we call I call it dream

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weaving to where that's the first step that we need

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to understand is what is it that I want? What's

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that song that sings inside of my soul? Where's the

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direction that I need to go? And where's the desk

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nation I'm going to end up? And most of us say,

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you know, don't take the time, or we don't know

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how to do it. We're told we need to do it,

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but it's just like like, what do you want? What

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do you want? I don't know if you've seen the

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movie the Notebook? What do you want? What do you want?

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What do you want? I don't know, and so most

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of us know what we don't want on a visceral level,

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and so part of dream weaving is we take a

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look at what you don't want, just for a moment,

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and then we flip it on its head to identify, Okay,

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then what is it that you do want? Because if

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this is what you don't want on a visceral experience,

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then that's what it means that you want on a

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visceral experience on a subconscious level, and so that's the

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technique we use. And then of course you have to

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rip up and tear tear up that list of things

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that you don't want, because you've just transposed them onto

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another piece of paper and it's crystal clear by the

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time we're done working with each other that first ninety

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minutes to two hours, we like, oh, on a subconscious level,

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and it's like we touched, We touched the nerves, we

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touch what it is that lights you up. And and

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then you just have this list. It's like, okay, now

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I don't want to do Okay, just pick one, pick another,

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pick another, pick the one that excites you the most.

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And basically what's what we've done here with dream leaving

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is We've given you one hundred different options and hundred

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different songs to choose from, and the world needs to

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hear your song. Let the music outs. We need the world.

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The world needs to hear your song. And so so

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that's what we get to that's what we get to do.

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Well, that was a beautiful description, and I hope that

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people really lean in and take that to hurt because

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there's there's so much power in sharing your story. And

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that's you know, one of the things that I really

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want to lean into here on quick before you forget

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is the power of story and help helping people feel

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seen in other people's stories. So thank you that. I

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want to pivot a little bit. And it's kind of

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a two part question because you said you weren't always

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an optimistic guy and then now you are, and sometime

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between there you had the accident that changed your life.

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Can we talk through that and how that has impacted

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your mindset for the better, because I think that that

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is super powerful for people to hear.

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Yeah, because sometimes I'm too much for people. My wife

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wants told me, she's like, Jeff, can you bring it down?

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I made the mistake and said can you bring it up? Oh, no, yeah,

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not the wisest thing to say the moment. But I'm like, hey, listen,

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why not If you can say it, why can't I

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say it? Apparently, I apparently there's something that I can't say,

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but she can. But yeah, and so I do have

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00:24:53.519 --> 00:24:58.599
low moments. I do have bad days. But there was

458
00:24:58.640 --> 00:25:01.880
a moment that happened. And just for your listeners, you know,

459
00:25:01.960 --> 00:25:06.000
I found myself next to an unpainted barn in the

460
00:25:06.039 --> 00:25:09.200
fields of Napoleon died in my country there, impressed in Idaho.

461
00:25:09.200 --> 00:25:11.319
It was just north of where I grew up. It

462
00:25:11.359 --> 00:25:13.640
was in between seasons. I had just finished my first

463
00:25:13.720 --> 00:25:18.720
year of college after my two year mission, and I'm like, okay,

464
00:25:19.039 --> 00:25:21.160
I needed enough money to go back and focus on football.

465
00:25:21.160 --> 00:25:22.720
I need enough money to buy a bullet bike. Because

466
00:25:22.759 --> 00:25:25.319
every time I saw a guy on a bowl bike

467
00:25:25.359 --> 00:25:27.599
there was a lady on back, and it was like, Griff,

468
00:25:27.640 --> 00:25:28.880
you really don't want a bolt bike. You just want

469
00:25:28.880 --> 00:25:31.519
the ladies. You're like, you're right, You're right, I just

470
00:25:31.519 --> 00:25:36.480
want the ladies. But there I was next to an

471
00:25:36.519 --> 00:25:41.160
unpainted barn, broken bruised in batter I had just fallen

472
00:25:41.200 --> 00:25:43.799
forty feet from some scaffolding in the ladder that I

473
00:25:43.839 --> 00:25:47.400
had set up to paint that barn. That's what I

474
00:25:47.440 --> 00:25:50.759
was doing for, you know, to make some money. And

475
00:25:51.200 --> 00:25:53.799
I fell forty feet stuck the landing perfect If I

476
00:25:53.799 --> 00:25:55.480
was a gymnast, I wasn't. My legs came up, my

477
00:25:55.480 --> 00:25:57.680
back came down, my ellen verd brake exploded inside me,

478
00:25:58.119 --> 00:26:01.559
leaving me paralyzed from the waist down. And so my

479
00:26:01.680 --> 00:26:04.599
identity of being able to jump higher, run faster, and

480
00:26:04.680 --> 00:26:09.000
catch better was just stripped for me immediately. It was like,

481
00:26:09.119 --> 00:26:13.160
in an instant, in a moment, my life turned upside down.

482
00:26:14.079 --> 00:26:16.960
And understand right like here I am chasing my dreams.

483
00:26:17.000 --> 00:26:20.000
I show up freshman year, I quit, I go away

484
00:26:20.039 --> 00:26:23.559
for two years, learn to develop this Peacequare mindset, come

485
00:26:23.599 --> 00:26:26.680
back and I get to experience and taste the sweetness

486
00:26:26.680 --> 00:26:28.000
of success and what it would be like to be

487
00:26:28.079 --> 00:26:30.680
on the first team and not the scrub team. And okay,

488
00:26:30.759 --> 00:26:33.559
here I am building my business for you know, three

489
00:26:33.599 --> 00:26:36.240
months period of time, business is booming.

490
00:26:36.480 --> 00:26:38.640
I've got this project. I'm like, okay, this is my

491
00:26:38.759 --> 00:26:43.880
last project before I go back to school. And in

492
00:26:43.880 --> 00:26:48.839
an instant, I fell forty feet and I broke my back,

493
00:26:50.519 --> 00:26:54.279
and so my identity was wrapped up in my physicality,

494
00:26:54.319 --> 00:26:56.799
and so I went into a telspin. I answered that

495
00:26:56.880 --> 00:26:57.920
sauna of self pity.

496
00:26:58.119 --> 00:27:01.160
And I'm walling around, you know, syrpie sticky son of

497
00:27:01.240 --> 00:27:03.839
self pitying them, and I'm having this biggest pity party.

498
00:27:03.839 --> 00:27:05.480
And all I could do is focus on all the

499
00:27:05.480 --> 00:27:08.839
things that I couldn't do. You know, I couldn't even

500
00:27:08.880 --> 00:27:10.559
roll over. I had to have nurses come and roll

501
00:27:10.559 --> 00:27:12.799
me over every two hours so I wouldn't get pressure swords.

502
00:27:13.200 --> 00:27:15.480
I couldn't even put on my pants without any help.

503
00:27:16.440 --> 00:27:18.640
I you know, it took me an hour just to

504
00:27:19.119 --> 00:27:22.039
get dressed in the morning with the help of other people.

505
00:27:22.079 --> 00:27:25.079
It took me. It took me half an hour to

506
00:27:25.119 --> 00:27:27.160
just get out of my bed into my chair with

507
00:27:27.200 --> 00:27:30.400
the other two nurses. You know, I had to have

508
00:27:30.559 --> 00:27:34.240
help using the restroom. How humiliating it is that. And

509
00:27:34.279 --> 00:27:38.160
so I'm like, okay, life is over. Life is over.

510
00:27:39.559 --> 00:27:42.039
And you know, as as a twenty two year old,

511
00:27:43.000 --> 00:27:44.759
I'll just say, twenty two year old virgin, you know,

512
00:27:44.799 --> 00:27:48.480
somebody who has not had any sexual relationships. That was

513
00:27:48.519 --> 00:27:50.839
one of the hardest things for me to deal with

514
00:27:50.880 --> 00:27:53.279
it as well, because they're like griff, You're never gonna

515
00:27:53.279 --> 00:27:55.000
walk and you're gonna stand in your move your legs again.

516
00:27:55.039 --> 00:27:57.519
I'm like okay, and then like you'll never gonna have

517
00:27:57.599 --> 00:27:59.359
kids because it's the first function that goes the last

518
00:27:59.359 --> 00:28:03.400
to come back. And I'm I'm like, what, oh my god,

519
00:28:03.960 --> 00:28:07.279
that's taken away as well. And so you can imagine

520
00:28:07.279 --> 00:28:11.680
like how like ominous life was for me, and and

521
00:28:11.839 --> 00:28:14.519
I was. They stopped feeding me in bed, so I

522
00:28:14.559 --> 00:28:16.920
had to go go to the cafeteria to eat. So

523
00:28:16.960 --> 00:28:18.720
it took me forever just to get out to you

524
00:28:18.759 --> 00:28:21.440
know there, and I was rolling down the sterile halls

525
00:28:21.440 --> 00:28:23.799
of the hospital just having the worst pitty party and

526
00:28:23.839 --> 00:28:28.119
feeling sorry for myself forgetting forgetting about that Peacequare mindset,

527
00:28:28.160 --> 00:28:31.599
forgetting about the optimism that I learned, forgetting about the

528
00:28:31.720 --> 00:28:35.680
mindset that I had developed to not quit and to

529
00:28:35.759 --> 00:28:39.079
keep on going to just do it because I'm possible.

530
00:28:39.599 --> 00:28:45.359
And you know, I didn't have my battle bracelet at

531
00:28:45.400 --> 00:28:49.359
the time, but there was a moment that that snapped

532
00:28:49.359 --> 00:28:52.559
me out of it better than anything else could have

533
00:28:52.599 --> 00:28:54.480
ever happened. And so I got my food. I went

534
00:28:54.480 --> 00:28:55.960
to the corner of the cafeteria because you know, how

535
00:28:56.000 --> 00:28:58.480
you want to be left alone when things are crappy,

536
00:28:59.400 --> 00:29:01.160
worst time to be left alone. But I'm like, I

537
00:29:01.160 --> 00:29:02.480
want to be left alone. Go to the corner of

538
00:29:02.480 --> 00:29:06.440
the cafeteria, pop my trade down, and I'm flavoring my

539
00:29:06.480 --> 00:29:11.200
food with my tears. And also this tray just plops

540
00:29:11.240 --> 00:29:15.640
in front of me. And I look at this person.

541
00:29:15.720 --> 00:29:17.160
I'm about to tell him to go take a hike

542
00:29:17.200 --> 00:29:19.400
with some words that I'm not going to repeat on

543
00:29:19.440 --> 00:29:25.720
this And he asked a question that set me free

544
00:29:25.720 --> 00:29:28.839
from my prison. Now here's the irony tie. The person

545
00:29:28.960 --> 00:29:33.160
sitting across from me was a prisoner at the local prison.

546
00:29:33.319 --> 00:29:35.920
He was lifting weights, had an aneurysm paralyzed from the

547
00:29:36.000 --> 00:29:37.400
right side of his body, and so he was doing

548
00:29:37.480 --> 00:29:41.519
therapy at the hospital. And so here's this prisoner sitting

549
00:29:41.519 --> 00:29:43.920
in front of me, a person who we as society

550
00:29:43.960 --> 00:29:49.039
deems as unvaluable, just doesn't have anything to give to

551
00:29:50.839 --> 00:29:54.160
the community and to society. And he looks at me

552
00:29:54.160 --> 00:29:55.400
and I'm about to tell him to go to take

553
00:29:55.440 --> 00:29:57.119
a hike. When he asked the question that changed my

554
00:29:57.160 --> 00:29:59.799
life forever, that set me free from my prison, He's

555
00:29:59.839 --> 00:30:02.279
like Griff and he didn't say Griff He's like, why

556
00:30:02.279 --> 00:30:06.200
are you hiding it? Dude? And I'm like, what he's like,

557
00:30:06.359 --> 00:30:10.759
right hind And in his third speech, I understood the

558
00:30:10.839 --> 00:30:12.279
question that he was asking me, and the question that

559
00:30:12.319 --> 00:30:14.640
he was asking me was why are you crying? Dude?

560
00:30:16.640 --> 00:30:18.440
And that was like a two y four just being

561
00:30:18.599 --> 00:30:22.680
cracked across the side of my head, snap me out

562
00:30:22.680 --> 00:30:26.559
of ads And instantly I asked myself why am I crying?

563
00:30:27.519 --> 00:30:31.279
And things that I didn't see previous. I began to

564
00:30:31.319 --> 00:30:35.160
see where I once focus on the things that I

565
00:30:35.200 --> 00:30:37.079
couldn't do, I started to focus on the things that

566
00:30:37.119 --> 00:30:40.000
I could do. And I didn't even realize that I

567
00:30:40.000 --> 00:30:44.680
had passed two individuals on the table that were paralyzed

568
00:30:44.720 --> 00:30:47.839
from the neck down. One was paralyzed from the neck down.

569
00:30:47.839 --> 00:30:49.400
He had a halo screw to his skull. He couldn't

570
00:30:49.400 --> 00:30:51.480
even feed himself, he couldn't even move. So here he

571
00:30:51.559 --> 00:30:58.000
is having somebody feed himself and and I am able

572
00:30:58.039 --> 00:31:00.400
to feed myself. I'm like, I can do that. I

573
00:31:00.400 --> 00:31:03.119
can feed myself and I can give hugs. This person

574
00:31:03.119 --> 00:31:04.839
can't even do that. The next person next to him

575
00:31:04.880 --> 00:31:06.920
was paralyzed my waist from the neck down as well,

576
00:31:07.240 --> 00:31:09.400
had some movement in his arms. So they taped a

577
00:31:09.440 --> 00:31:13.440
fork in, you know, to his thumb and finger, and

578
00:31:13.920 --> 00:31:20.079
he's struggling just to get the fork to his mouth,

579
00:31:20.119 --> 00:31:21.720
and by the time he gets the fork to his mouth,

580
00:31:21.799 --> 00:31:24.920
the morsels had fallen off and he was just struggling.

581
00:31:24.960 --> 00:31:27.279
And I'm like, you know what, I'm able to feed

582
00:31:27.319 --> 00:31:34.079
myself and instantly and immediately I'm like, okay, the switch

583
00:31:34.200 --> 00:31:37.799
flipped and I started to focus on what I could

584
00:31:37.880 --> 00:31:39.400
do so what I couldn't do, And that was been

585
00:31:39.519 --> 00:31:42.119
the difference that has been all the difference, is just

586
00:31:42.160 --> 00:31:44.400
being able to focus on what I can do instead

587
00:31:44.400 --> 00:31:46.920
of what I can't do. And every one of us

588
00:31:47.039 --> 00:31:49.519
who are who's still with us, every one of us,

589
00:31:50.400 --> 00:31:53.680
there's no excuse. Every one of us has the ability

590
00:31:53.920 --> 00:31:57.160
to work on the greatest tool that we have in

591
00:31:57.240 --> 00:32:02.079
between our ears, and unfortunately most of us don't do

592
00:32:03.319 --> 00:32:08.440
the heavy lifting that's required with slowing down, being still

593
00:32:09.880 --> 00:32:13.799
and thinking about what is it that I need to

594
00:32:13.799 --> 00:32:15.480
give to the world, What is it that the world

595
00:32:15.559 --> 00:32:18.440
needs from me? What is that song that sings inside

596
00:32:18.519 --> 00:32:21.559
my soul that the world needs to hear. There's eight

597
00:32:21.599 --> 00:32:25.039
billion people. Not everyone likes the same music and that's okay.

598
00:32:25.839 --> 00:32:29.680
But everyone there's somebody that's going to need to hear

599
00:32:29.920 --> 00:32:33.119
your music, to hear your song, to see your dream,

600
00:32:33.440 --> 00:32:37.200
to see that light in your eyes, and that will

601
00:32:37.599 --> 00:32:41.920
spark something inside them that will turn their gray into

602
00:32:42.000 --> 00:32:42.400
four K.

603
00:32:44.279 --> 00:32:47.839
Jeff, you said so many powerful things there, And something

604
00:32:47.839 --> 00:32:51.759
that I heard in your words was Trent Shelton, who

605
00:32:52.440 --> 00:32:55.240
one of his quotes is your perspective is either your

606
00:32:55.279 --> 00:33:00.400
power or your prison. And that's so true. And then

607
00:33:00.440 --> 00:33:04.400
there's the connection side of everything there, because you found

608
00:33:06.000 --> 00:33:09.880
you found your door to working through a hard thing

609
00:33:10.640 --> 00:33:13.559
with the help of a friend that sat down and

610
00:33:13.599 --> 00:33:18.279
asked you a question. And isn't that just very It's

611
00:33:18.400 --> 00:33:22.720
powerful because we never know. You know, you needed his

612
00:33:22.839 --> 00:33:25.799
song that day, You needed him to smack you in

613
00:33:25.839 --> 00:33:27.839
the face and say, why are you crying? Dude? You

614
00:33:27.880 --> 00:33:31.119
know so I just think there's so much there. But

615
00:33:31.519 --> 00:33:34.680
the two things that resonate so much for me is

616
00:33:34.960 --> 00:33:38.279
the shift in your perspective and how much that matters.

617
00:33:38.599 --> 00:33:41.720
But then how much it matters to be the guy

618
00:33:41.759 --> 00:33:44.640
who sat and asked you that question for other people

619
00:33:45.319 --> 00:33:48.160
and to be the light for other people because you

620
00:33:48.240 --> 00:33:50.880
never know. I mean, obviously you were in a situation

621
00:33:50.920 --> 00:33:53.680
where everybody knew what was going on and everybody was

622
00:33:54.079 --> 00:34:01.039
in various states of challenge, and somebody reached out and

623
00:34:01.039 --> 00:34:03.599
that's just such a beautiful thing. So I just needed

624
00:34:03.599 --> 00:34:06.759
to acknowledge that and and work through that a little

625
00:34:06.799 --> 00:34:09.519
bit out loud, because that's that's everything, you know, the

626
00:34:09.559 --> 00:34:12.920
connections in this world. We were so distracted by technology

627
00:34:13.519 --> 00:34:16.760
and by the world. The world is you know, on

628
00:34:16.840 --> 00:34:20.400
fire and heavy, and we're we have the gift of

629
00:34:20.480 --> 00:34:23.440
connection to so many people that we tend to kind

630
00:34:23.440 --> 00:34:26.840
of get so focused on everything else and forget that

631
00:34:26.880 --> 00:34:29.599
the people around us are who can honestly bring us

632
00:34:29.599 --> 00:34:31.639
out of the darkness and into the light. So thank

633
00:34:31.679 --> 00:34:34.960
you for sharing that story with all all the heart

634
00:34:35.000 --> 00:34:38.000
and soul that you did. I want to ask you,

635
00:34:38.239 --> 00:34:42.679
what do you want people to remember about this season

636
00:34:43.159 --> 00:34:46.480
of your life? That like, what what do you want

637
00:34:46.480 --> 00:34:49.000
them to remember before this moment passes?

638
00:34:51.159 --> 00:34:55.960
Yeah, So there's some work that I do with individuals

639
00:34:56.000 --> 00:34:59.440
because clarity, you know, dream weaving. You got to understand

640
00:34:59.440 --> 00:35:01.079
what your vision is and a lot of people how

641
00:35:01.119 --> 00:35:02.719
do I do that well? One way is to focus

642
00:35:02.719 --> 00:35:05.079
on what you don't want. Another way is to this

643
00:35:05.400 --> 00:35:08.199
may sound morbid is to write out your obituary. I

644
00:35:08.320 --> 00:35:12.440
put people in that rocking chair eighty years old. They're

645
00:35:12.480 --> 00:35:15.719
in that rocking chair, They're contemplating their life, and like, Okay,

646
00:35:16.119 --> 00:35:19.920
what will people remember me by? You know, what will

647
00:35:19.920 --> 00:35:23.760
people say about who I am and what I did?

648
00:35:25.000 --> 00:35:27.679
And so, you know, one way is to write your obituary. Like,

649
00:35:27.719 --> 00:35:30.719
write your obituary. I know it's so difficult to get

650
00:35:30.760 --> 00:35:32.559
into the future. Because if we can go as far

651
00:35:32.599 --> 00:35:34.440
into the future as we possibly can, and we can

652
00:35:34.480 --> 00:35:36.519
see our greatness and we can see our potential and

653
00:35:36.559 --> 00:35:40.599
our power, then then okay, it's like, okay, right now,

654
00:35:40.760 --> 00:35:44.920
my presence circumstances not a big deal. And I didn't

655
00:35:44.960 --> 00:35:46.920
get to that conclusion until, you know, I was just

656
00:35:46.960 --> 00:35:50.119
trying to write down. I've identified some of my roles

657
00:35:50.159 --> 00:35:52.840
as an individual. A lot of us wear a lot

658
00:35:52.880 --> 00:35:59.119
of hats, and sometimes we get so thin and so

659
00:35:59.280 --> 00:36:02.599
pold from different directions that were useless in every area.

660
00:36:03.280 --> 00:36:06.760
And so I've identified five roles, five areas in my

661
00:36:06.800 --> 00:36:08.719
life that I want to focus on, and you know,

662
00:36:08.760 --> 00:36:10.920
the first one is myself. And I'm like, okay, what

663
00:36:10.960 --> 00:36:13.639
do I want? What do I want for myself? And

664
00:36:13.639 --> 00:36:16.559
then I'm like, okay, my role as a family, family, friends,

665
00:36:16.559 --> 00:36:20.920
and neighbors. What I want my neighbors and friends to

666
00:36:21.000 --> 00:36:24.159
remember me as and what's the vision for them? Another

667
00:36:24.159 --> 00:36:29.480
one is a husband, Like what kind of a husband

668
00:36:29.480 --> 00:36:31.440
do I want to be? That's that's that's a major

669
00:36:31.519 --> 00:36:35.039
role for me. Another one is my business. I'm like, okay,

670
00:36:35.400 --> 00:36:37.599
what do I want for my business? And how what

671
00:36:37.639 --> 00:36:39.519
do I want? How do I want to impact the world,

672
00:36:39.960 --> 00:36:42.400
you know, through my business? And the last one is

673
00:36:42.480 --> 00:36:46.639
humanitarian because I believe that every great man and woman

674
00:36:46.679 --> 00:36:49.679
of history is a man of service. And so I'm like,

675
00:36:49.880 --> 00:36:52.280
how can I serve? How can I serve others? And

676
00:36:52.320 --> 00:36:54.440
so I've just gone through those five areas, those five

677
00:36:54.519 --> 00:36:57.079
roles in my life and gotten really crystal clear on

678
00:36:57.519 --> 00:37:00.159
what it is. What's my dream, what's my vision, and

679
00:37:00.199 --> 00:37:02.239
what's my avarice? What is it? You know, what are

680
00:37:02.239 --> 00:37:05.519
my dreams and desires in this area? And so you know,

681
00:37:05.559 --> 00:37:07.320
the question that you ask is how do I want

682
00:37:07.400 --> 00:37:12.039
to be remembered? Well, I want my friends and neighbors

683
00:37:12.320 --> 00:37:14.800
to remember me as a man that lightened their loads,

684
00:37:15.280 --> 00:37:20.599
lifted their spirits, and loved them. Because I have learned

685
00:37:20.599 --> 00:37:23.760
from myself that I am a god fearing, powerful, authentic,

686
00:37:24.719 --> 00:37:30.639
lovable and playful man, and through my lights and love

687
00:37:31.199 --> 00:37:36.480
I inspire others to shine. That's that's the essence. That's

688
00:37:36.519 --> 00:37:39.960
it's all boiled down to that simple those simple phrases there,

689
00:37:40.400 --> 00:37:45.400
and and so if I don't leave this podcast lightening

690
00:37:45.440 --> 00:37:48.559
your load or lightening the loads of your listeners and

691
00:37:48.559 --> 00:37:56.239
and you know, you know, giving them this power and inspiration,

692
00:37:56.400 --> 00:37:59.559
then I failed. And so that's what that's why, that's

693
00:37:59.559 --> 00:38:02.159
why I that's my intention. That's what I intend to

694
00:38:02.159 --> 00:38:04.280
do everywhere I go and everything I do. So I mean,

695
00:38:04.360 --> 00:38:07.599
how can I lift your spirits? How can I lighten

696
00:38:07.639 --> 00:38:11.800
your loads? And how can I love you? And so anyway,

697
00:38:11.880 --> 00:38:13.480
that's that's how I want to be.

698
00:38:13.400 --> 00:38:17.320
Remembered well as a friend. Now for about a year,

699
00:38:17.440 --> 00:38:20.960
I can say that every every single interaction that I've had,

700
00:38:21.000 --> 00:38:23.880
you've checked all three of those boxes. So I know

701
00:38:23.960 --> 00:38:26.480
and have all the faith in my and my soul

702
00:38:26.599 --> 00:38:29.280
that the listeners and viewers will feel it too. So

703
00:38:29.320 --> 00:38:31.880
thank you for that. I really, I really truly appreciate it.

704
00:38:31.920 --> 00:38:34.920
And I could talk to you for hours, but we

705
00:38:34.960 --> 00:38:37.519
don't have hours. So I want to wrap with our

706
00:38:37.880 --> 00:38:40.599
like my I'm trying to do these five questions with

707
00:38:40.679 --> 00:38:43.920
each guest and have them be a little bit more

708
00:38:44.000 --> 00:38:47.000
quick hitting, Like you know, one one or two sentences

709
00:38:47.360 --> 00:38:49.000
the first thing that kind of comes to your head.

710
00:38:49.079 --> 00:38:57.840
So one small, ordinary habit that quietly changed your life daily.

711
00:38:57.639 --> 00:39:01.000
Die talking all the time.

712
00:39:02.199 --> 00:39:04.920
Tell me a little more about it because I'm familiar.

713
00:39:05.159 --> 00:39:07.719
I know I said one sentence, but I need everybody

714
00:39:07.719 --> 00:39:08.800
else to know more about that.

715
00:39:09.280 --> 00:39:11.599
Yeah, the daily dime. So I kind of got the

716
00:39:11.639 --> 00:39:14.440
idea from Napoleon Hill his book Think and Grow Rich.

717
00:39:14.760 --> 00:39:17.079
He has this the faith formula as he calls it

718
00:39:17.119 --> 00:39:19.519
in his book, and I see, I think it's step

719
00:39:19.639 --> 00:39:23.039
number three where he talks about devoting ten minutes a

720
00:39:23.119 --> 00:39:26.239
day to demanding of yourself the development of auto suggestion

721
00:39:26.360 --> 00:39:29.039
or self suggestion. And on my ten minutes, I'm like,

722
00:39:29.159 --> 00:39:31.119
I can't sit still for ten minutes. Ten minutes is

723
00:39:31.199 --> 00:39:33.360
way too long. All these excuses, I'm like, ten minutes,

724
00:39:34.199 --> 00:39:37.960
I can't do ten minutes. But one thing that I

725
00:39:37.960 --> 00:39:40.079
love is finding the simplicity on the far side complexity

726
00:39:40.840 --> 00:39:43.079
to make this simple. I'm like, what I can do

727
00:39:43.119 --> 00:39:44.920
is I can spend five minutes in the morning and

728
00:39:44.960 --> 00:39:47.920
I can spend five minutes at night, and that's been

729
00:39:48.000 --> 00:39:50.760
all the difference, just five minutes. Sometimes those five minutes

730
00:39:50.800 --> 00:39:53.480
turn into fifteen minutes and sometimes thirty minutes or whatever

731
00:39:53.519 --> 00:39:56.159
it is. And I'm really starting to enjoy the stillness.

732
00:39:56.159 --> 00:39:58.599
I'm really starting to enjoy the silence. So I know

733
00:39:58.639 --> 00:40:00.760
that the silence can be definite for mos. But you

734
00:40:00.760 --> 00:40:04.079
know in the Bible says you know in Psalm's forty six',

735
00:40:04.119 --> 00:40:07.920
ten be still and know THAT i am.

736
00:40:08.239 --> 00:40:12.119
Amen thank you for. That if someone is listening right

737
00:40:12.159 --> 00:40:16.239
now that's rebuilding their life or a situation from the ground,

738
00:40:16.360 --> 00:40:19.880
up what is the first thing and most important thing

739
00:40:19.920 --> 00:40:20.719
that you want them to?

740
00:40:20.800 --> 00:40:24.199
Hear you do have the ability to achieve your dreams and.

741
00:40:24.239 --> 00:40:30.519
Desires you come from infinite. Intelligence you have That God

742
00:40:30.639 --> 00:40:33.079
dna inside you to be able to, create to be

743
00:40:33.119 --> 00:40:35.960
able to, do to be able to accomplish and perform

744
00:40:36.000 --> 00:40:38.079
miracles in your. Life and so you do have the

745
00:40:38.119 --> 00:40:41.239
ability to achieve your dreams and. Desires and that p square,

746
00:40:41.280 --> 00:40:44.360
principle that possibility principle is that the footings of the

747
00:40:44.360 --> 00:40:46.239
foundation we've talked about in the three, D's but that

748
00:40:47.440 --> 00:40:50.159
possibility principle is the, footings and so we can put

749
00:40:50.199 --> 00:40:52.000
a link in the, description you guys can go and get.

750
00:40:52.039 --> 00:40:54.199
It and if you put IN p two in the

751
00:40:54.280 --> 00:40:56.519
shop gift for those who are still with.

752
00:40:56.639 --> 00:41:00.079
Us thank. YOU i really appreciate, That, jeff and they will.

753
00:41:00.119 --> 00:41:04.920
Too what would you tell your past, self now that

754
00:41:05.000 --> 00:41:07.559
your present self understands.

755
00:41:09.559 --> 00:41:12.800
You are so much more than you, think stop beating

756
00:41:12.880 --> 00:41:16.440
up on yourself and know the power that you have.

757
00:41:16.559 --> 00:41:19.280
Within thank?

758
00:41:19.320 --> 00:41:21.840
You what is the what is your song of survival

759
00:41:21.880 --> 00:41:25.840
when things get really? Hard what song Does Jeff griffin

760
00:41:25.880 --> 00:41:29.239
put On spotify Or apple or THE cd player or

761
00:41:29.280 --> 00:41:30.000
whatever you listen.

762
00:41:30.079 --> 00:41:35.199
With this may sound silly and, stupid But Cole, Williamson

763
00:41:35.360 --> 00:41:40.280
Cole wilkinson the voice Of Le miz And Don quixote

764
00:41:40.519 --> 00:41:42.760
And man Of La, mancha you, know back in the.

765
00:41:42.800 --> 00:41:48.159
Eighties JUST i love listening to. Him To dream The

766
00:41:48.199 --> 00:41:52.880
Impossible dream is one of my favorite, songs just to

767
00:41:52.920 --> 00:41:56.400
turn it up and just drive down to the, road

768
00:41:56.559 --> 00:42:00.400
or listening to it in my, room but to to

769
00:42:00.480 --> 00:42:03.679
hear him specifically sing that, SONG i just love. It

770
00:42:03.880 --> 00:42:05.400
To dream The Impossible.

771
00:42:05.480 --> 00:42:09.599
Dream, well that makes sense and is very on brand

772
00:42:09.920 --> 00:42:13.960
because we believe that impossible is just a big word

773
00:42:14.079 --> 00:42:18.400
thrown around by small. People so we believe THAT i am,

774
00:42:18.440 --> 00:42:21.599
Possible you are, possible we are. Possible i'm. Possible thank, You.

775
00:42:21.679 --> 00:42:26.000
Jeff and, finally the one thing that you hope you

776
00:42:26.119 --> 00:42:31.880
never forget as you keep. Becoming that's a great.

777
00:42:31.960 --> 00:42:34.440
QUESTION i would, say remember is the most important word

778
00:42:34.639 --> 00:42:41.559
in The english. Dictionary because we, forget we forget where

779
00:42:41.559 --> 00:42:45.639
we came, from we forget who we, are and we

780
00:42:45.760 --> 00:42:51.960
forget where we're. Going and so for, me the thing

781
00:42:51.960 --> 00:42:54.079
THAT i never want to forget AND i always want

782
00:42:54.079 --> 00:42:58.039
to remember is that you, know the GREAT i am

783
00:42:58.679 --> 00:43:01.239
is all the. Difference if you just add on an

784
00:43:01.280 --> 00:43:04.199
aposphy and the word, impossible it Becomes i'm. Possible and

785
00:43:04.239 --> 00:43:07.440
the GREAT I am is what is who gives me

786
00:43:07.719 --> 00:43:11.039
all the power and potential to accomplish my dreams and.

787
00:43:11.079 --> 00:43:16.119
Desires Jeff, griffin thank you for pouring into, me for

788
00:43:16.199 --> 00:43:19.880
pouring into the listeners and, viewers for your generous offer

789
00:43:19.960 --> 00:43:22.800
with The Pece. SQUARED i am so grateful for your time.

790
00:43:22.840 --> 00:43:25.440
TODAY i want to ask if there's anything else that

791
00:43:25.480 --> 00:43:27.880
you want to share THAT i didn't ask, you and

792
00:43:27.920 --> 00:43:29.039
then we'll wrap.

793
00:43:34.719 --> 00:43:37.239
Just just. That you, know sometimes we try to consume

794
00:43:37.320 --> 00:43:39.719
our dreams and desires and everything that we, hear all

795
00:43:39.719 --> 00:43:42.679
in one. Bites confucius says that man cannot consume a

796
00:43:42.719 --> 00:43:45.800
whole elephant in one. Bite i'm, like who eats? Elephants

797
00:43:46.440 --> 00:43:49.159
and So i'm, like you can't consume a whole cow

798
00:43:49.239 --> 00:43:52.079
in one. Bites and many of us have probably consumed

799
00:43:52.119 --> 00:43:55.519
two or three cows over our. Lifetime and just, this just,

800
00:43:55.599 --> 00:44:00.360
this this. Reminder and you, know, today thirty years, LATER

801
00:44:00.480 --> 00:44:01.679
i can get up out of my, chair AND i

802
00:44:01.679 --> 00:44:04.559
can walk across the stage with. Swagger i've climbed a

803
00:44:04.599 --> 00:44:06.840
mount in nine, thousand seven hundred and eleven. Feet you,

804
00:44:06.880 --> 00:44:08.719
Know i've accomplished all these things THAT i was told

805
00:44:08.920 --> 00:44:10.880
it's impossible to. Do i'm going to run and not be.

806
00:44:10.880 --> 00:44:12.639
Wearried i'm going to walk and not. Faint i'm going

807
00:44:12.719 --> 00:44:14.280
to have a full. Recovery and the reason around of.

808
00:44:14.280 --> 00:44:16.519
Time it's been thirty years And i'm not there, Yet

809
00:44:17.360 --> 00:44:20.159
but this is What i've. Learned that inch by inches

810
00:44:20.199 --> 00:44:23.159
a cinch yard by yard is. Hard so do every

811
00:44:23.239 --> 00:44:26.519
mile with a. Smile and so instead of trying to

812
00:44:26.519 --> 00:44:28.840
consume everything at wants and trying to get to our

813
00:44:28.880 --> 00:44:33.800
destination in one, leap to enjoy the journey and to

814
00:44:33.840 --> 00:44:36.199
just take that one step after the next, step after

815
00:44:36.199 --> 00:44:37.960
the next. Step and sometimes that first step is you,

816
00:44:38.039 --> 00:44:40.079
KNOW i need to know WHAT i. WANT i need

817
00:44:40.119 --> 00:44:42.000
to spend some time and do some freedom. Weaving you're,

818
00:44:42.039 --> 00:44:44.320
like you know, what my desires are conflicting at. Times

819
00:44:44.480 --> 00:44:46.400
there's times Where i'm, LIKE i want to be. GREAT

820
00:44:46.440 --> 00:44:49.079
i want to be you, know. AMAZING i want to

821
00:44:49.119 --> 00:44:51.960
be the top of you know the. LIST i want

822
00:44:51.960 --> 00:44:54.519
to be, bigger, faster. Stronger and you wake up the

823
00:44:54.559 --> 00:44:58.440
next Day you're, like maybe, tomorrow and it's, like, okay,

824
00:44:58.480 --> 00:45:00.679
well our desires are, Conflicting so so how DO i

825
00:45:00.760 --> 00:45:03.440
dissect what a desire is and how DO i match

826
00:45:03.480 --> 00:45:05.599
it up with my? Dreams because once you match up a,

827
00:45:05.679 --> 00:45:10.280
definite deliberate desire with your, dreams a crystal clear, dream,

828
00:45:10.840 --> 00:45:14.159
boom all the other steps start to fall into. Place

829
00:45:14.440 --> 00:45:17.079
you're you're drawn to your dream more than you're being,

830
00:45:17.159 --> 00:45:20.719
pushed and so also it just flips your life upside.

831
00:45:20.760 --> 00:45:25.039
Down it's, like, oh, wow YES i am dreaming in

832
00:45:25.079 --> 00:45:27.920
FOUR K YES i do see life in. Color yes

833
00:45:28.000 --> 00:45:32.199
it's not so, Drab YES i am just the smells are,

834
00:45:32.239 --> 00:45:35.719
different the sights are different the. Here the hearing and

835
00:45:35.880 --> 00:45:38.480
sounds are, different the touch is, different and then it

836
00:45:38.639 --> 00:45:42.280
just becomes magical and you become on fire and it's, like, oh,

837
00:45:42.400 --> 00:45:45.480
OKAY i can do these, things BUT i want to

838
00:45:45.599 --> 00:45:47.559
end with. This you. Know Vstain body says that man

839
00:45:47.599 --> 00:45:50.519
cannot dream himself into. Character he must hammer and forgee for.

840
00:45:50.639 --> 00:45:54.599
Himself and there's so there's some doing in all this.

841
00:45:54.719 --> 00:45:57.519
Process there's some work that needs to be, done but

842
00:45:57.559 --> 00:46:02.760
we can work, smarter not. Harder and so, ANYWAY i

843
00:46:02.800 --> 00:46:05.760
could have a conversation and just. Share so if you

844
00:46:05.840 --> 00:46:08.639
pull things out of me THAT i never shared with other,

845
00:46:08.679 --> 00:46:12.079
people you have this gift tie of being able to

846
00:46:12.159 --> 00:46:15.800
listen and seeing people for who they are and just

847
00:46:15.960 --> 00:46:20.159
validating them and loving upon them and just making them

848
00:46:20.159 --> 00:46:24.320
feel like they're a million. Dollars and so thank you

849
00:46:24.360 --> 00:46:26.639
for allowing me to, shine to sit on your, shoulder

850
00:46:26.719 --> 00:46:28.800
because it's easy to look good on the shoulders of.

851
00:46:28.880 --> 00:46:33.519
Giants, WOW i am speechless and that does not. Happen

852
00:46:33.639 --> 00:46:36.360
so we will end. There, jeff thank you so. MUCH

853
00:46:36.400 --> 00:46:43.199
i really appreciate, you And i'm under my Heart. Yay thanks.

854
00:46:43.239 --> 00:46:48.519
Everybody if you're seeing, this you're my. Friend thank you

855
00:46:48.639 --> 00:46:51.199
for being. HERE i really appreciate that you took time

856
00:46:51.239 --> 00:46:53.559
out of your day to spend with WELL o. ME

857
00:46:54.480 --> 00:46:59.159
i would love to hear from. YOU i actually. Don't

858
00:46:59.559 --> 00:47:02.039
this part is uncomfortable for. Me just just talking like

859
00:47:02.079 --> 00:47:04.960
this is uncomfortable for me somehow more so than, This

860
00:47:05.440 --> 00:47:08.280
but That's i've practiced THAT i have the TikTok AND

861
00:47:08.320 --> 00:47:11.320
i do the, things and this is. Harder so please

862
00:47:11.360 --> 00:47:13.880
talk to, me find me on, social tell me what you,

863
00:47:13.920 --> 00:47:16.119
thought tell me what you, think tell me what questions

864
00:47:16.119 --> 00:47:18.840
you have or what guests you want to. SEE i

865
00:47:18.920 --> 00:47:21.639
want this to feel like you're part of, this because you.

866
00:47:21.719 --> 00:47:24.480
Are you mean something to me And i'm so. Grateful

867
00:47:24.559 --> 00:47:27.639
so if you would be so kind as to go

868
00:47:27.840 --> 00:47:32.199
and give me a review and some stars and just

869
00:47:32.280 --> 00:47:35.320
let me know what you're, THINKING i would really appreciate.

870
00:47:35.360 --> 00:47:37.960
It And i'd love to see you back here any.

871
00:47:38.280 --> 00:47:41.760
Time to help you remember who you are while you

872
00:47:41.840 --> 00:47:47.840
build who you're meant to. Be quick before you forget