How to Stop Feeling Not Enough: Grief, Purpose, and Finding Yourself Again

You don’t feel lost because you’re broken. You feel lost because you’ve stopped looking up.

In this episode of Quick Before You Forget, host Ty Schmidt sits down at Lazy Pickle Studios in LA with actor, storyteller, and abundant and inspiring human Bourke Floyd.

This conversation goes deep into:

• Feeling lost and not enough
• How grief and joy can coexist
• Why “process over outcome” changes everything
• Finding your purpose when nothing makes sense
• The truth about self-worth and imposter syndrome
• How to be present in your own life

From growing up in foster care to navigating loss, identity, and unexpected breakthroughs, Bourke shares the moments that shaped him and the mindset shifts that helped him rebuild.

If you’ve been doing everything “right” but still feel off this is for you. Quick before you forget:

You are not behind.
You are not broken.
You are becoming.

Meaningful Moments:

00:00 – Faith, loss, and finding meaning again
02:00 – Childhood, foster care, and the movie theater that changed everything
07:00 – Feeling seen: the moment that reshaped his life
09:30 – Finding “your people” and recognizing calling
11:30 – Noise vs signal: how to actually find your path
13:30 – “Adjust your antenna” (life-changing mindset)
15:30 – Putting your oxygen mask on first
17:30 – Grief, loss, and what it means to feel nothing
20:00 – The truth about self-blame and inner narratives
22:00 – The moment that saved his life
24:00 – Why you might be “drowning” without realizing it
26:00 – Parenting, patience, and learning from your kids
29:00 – Rejection is protection (life-changing reframe)
33:00 – Process over outcome (how to actually move forward)
36:00 – How to deal with self-doubt and rejection
40:00 – “Grief is the negative space that allows joy to shine”
42:00 – Why you already are enough
46:00 – The power of everyday human connection
48:00 – Faith, “GUS” (God/Universe/Spirit), and staying open
52:00 – Recognizing signs when you’re present
56:00 – Lessons from working with Anthony Hopkins & Robert Duvall
1:01:00 – Stop proving others wrong—prove yourself right
1:03:00 – Comparison, creativity, and staying in your lane
1:05:00 – The danger of chasing attention vs creating honestly
1:07:00 – “You versus you” and why comparison kills creativity
1:09:00 – What it means to create from truth instead of validation
1:11:00 – The difference between being “nice” and being truly kind (deeper layer)
1:13:00 – Truth, love, and the courage to say hard things
1:15:00 – Why most people avoid honesty (and what it costs them)
1:17:00 – Living in alignment vs performing for others
1:19:00 – Letting go of needing approval
1:21:00 – What it actually looks like to be authentic in real life
1:23:00 – The role of discipline in becoming who you are
1:25:00 – How to recognize when you’re out of alignment
1:27:00 – The internal vs external version of success
1:29:00 – Final reflections on presence, purpose, and people
1:31:00 – “Quick Before You Forget” closing question + takeaway

Bourke Floyd's Mix Tape
Mr. Blue Sky, Electric Light Orchestra https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aQUlA8Hcv4s
Dark Blue, Jack's Mannequin https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P5LjFkibA7w&list=RDP5LjFkibA7w&start_radio=1
Mixed Tape, Jack's Mannequin https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WdW48xSbb9s
Mae, All Deliberate Speed https://open.spotify.com/track/6d303F6IYNa7bcE6DMo3Ls
Counting Crows, August And Everything After https://open.spotify.com/album/4nKfZbCALT9H9LfedtDwnZ
Counting Crows, Recovering the Satellites https://open.spotify.com/album/4YArB2Q848BDmmwUUumEFP

Special thank you to Lazy Pickle Studios and Bourke Floyd for making the episode a reality.