Be nice: How to Stop Fighting Too Much (And Fixing Too Little)

What do you do when rejection is constant and life still requires you to keep going? In this episode of Quick Before You Forget, Ty Schmidt welcomes actor Brent Bailey (yes — Kris K / Target Santa but also so many more amazing roles) to talk about...
What do you do when rejection is constant and life still requires you to keep going?
In this episode of Quick Before You Forget, Ty Schmidt welcomes actor Brent Bailey (yes — Kris K / Target Santa but also so many more amazing roles) to talk about reinvention, resilience, and staying grounded.
Brent shares what it was like going from a shy, introverted self described “computer nerd” to building a career in Hollywood, and the mindset shifts that help him handle rejection without letting it define his worth.
You’ll hear practical, real-life lessons on goal-setting, confidence, stepping out of your comfort zone, the role of therapy, and why learning to listen might be one of the most important skills we can rebuild right now.
If you’re tired of taking every “no” personally, this episode will help you breathe, dust off your self-confidence, and keep building anyway.
Connect with Brent: @brentmbailey on Instagram
Jackie Chan video: https://www.youtube.com/shorts/rRwvSaSsuec
If this episode helped you: please follow, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs the reminder.
Meaningful Moments
00:00 – “You were shy?!” + the audition moment that shows how fear + self-consciousness can stop us
01:02 – Ty’s intro: what Quick Before You Forget is (music, mindset, movement) + welcoming Brent Bailey
02:28 – Childhood roots: kindness, work ethic, and what Brent learned from his parents
03:59 – The “go all-in” lesson: why half-trying protects your ego (but blocks your growth)
05:39 – Setbacks as teachers + why the goalpost always moves
07:34 – Handling rejection: separating identity from career + finances + supportive relationships
09:36 – A specific setback: being “the commercial guy,” losing an agent, and learning to communicate goals
11:38 – Wins: Target Santa/Kris K + working with major names + why people matter most
13:17 – Transition figures & role models: community, coaches, and being a fan as a superpower
17:15 – What Brent would tell his 22-year-old self (and why he wouldn’t change the past)
19:46 – Megaphone message: “Be nice,” drop the extremes, and come back to listening
22:23 – How to become a better listener: ego, curiosity, and stepping outside your perspective
24:56 – Therapy + perspective: validating feelings without letting them swallow your life
27:18 – “Unreal” moments: leaving comfort → moving to LA → sleeping on a friend’s couch
32:38 – Turning pain into purpose: the heartbreak that pivoted his whole life
34:05 – Music + silence: why Brent prefers quiet and “ambient” grounding sounds
39:37 – Legacy question: what he hopes his future child would feel about his life
44:48 – What’s next: upcoming films + why he posts less but lives more
46:53 – Authentic interviews vs scripted answers
47:50 – Comfort food + Benihana joy
48:58 – Ty’s close: asking for connection, reviews, stars, and inviting listeners back
Top takeaways:
• Rejection hurts less when your career isn’t your identity.
• Going “half-in” protects your ego but it also blocks your breakthrough.
• Community + finances + self-awareness = resilience you can replicate.
• Reinvention is often born from discomfort… or heartbreak… and you can still be grateful for the pivot.
Reflection prompt: Where in your life are you “half-trying” so you’ll have an excuse if it doesn’t work… and what would change if you went all-in?
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