Shifting to a Powerful Mindset with Children’s Author Julie D’Ann [Ep.750]

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Welcome back Live to Literature Life Perspectives
and I'm your host, Ashley Burgess.

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On today's show, we'll be talking
about higher being, consciousness, your heart

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center, dealing with emotions and feelings
and processing thoughts and emotion and joining me

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live in studio today is emerging children's
book author, Live Transformation coach The Illumination

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Guide and ted X speaker Julie Deanne. Julie, great to have you here

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on the show. How are you
doing. I'm doing phenomenal, Ashley,

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thank you so much. It's great
to be here. It's wonderful to have

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you on the show. And you
know, reading your book and taking in

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all this information very powerful stuff.
And you know, tell me book brought

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you into the situation to write the
book in the first place. Oh wow,

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this book is years into making.
I would have to take us back

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to pre COVID times. So I
have a daughter and when she was back

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in elementary school, there were many
times where there would be incidents that happened

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in school where children would be acting
out or just having a hard time and

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kind of creating turmoil in the classroom, and it just seemed like, you

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know, other kids were being her
sometimes harmed, you know, because the

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kids would sometimes throw things, and
I always wondered, you know, how

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how are they How can we deal
with this? There's got to be a

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good way. And then there was
a particular incident where my daughter's classroom was

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actually evacuated and it was all because
one child just was overwhelmed with emotion and

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wasn't able to quite process that that
that the teacher was fearing for the safety

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of you know, herself and all
the kids. And I just thought at

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the time, there's got to be
a better way. So then during COVID,

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I started meditating all the time and
realized the benefits of meditation and just

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you know, calming down the body
and being able to observe your thoughts.

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And it was during these meditations that
I actually got the inspiration to write this

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children's book. The whole format,
the way it's laid out to kind of

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teach kids how their thoughts produce feelings
in their bodies, and how we use

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our thoughts to label these feelings as
emotions and then emotion the emotions are really

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energy. Emotion. They're what prompt
us to take action in our lives.

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And of course the actions that we
take create our realities our experiences. So

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in order to change anything in your
experience, you have to start by changing

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your thoughts. And when I realized
when I was studying all of this,

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I was doing a lot of research
and study during these past several years.

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I thought, if I had grown
up learning this process, or learning how

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these thoughts and feelings work together to
form a feedback loop, what a phenomenal

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difference it would have made to me, just as a kid growing up,

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being able to maybe learn how to
read these thoughts and emotions and change them

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and make better decisions and trust myself. And I want that for kids,

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and I want that for my daughter. So I started working with my daughter

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and had her give me feedback on
the scenarios. You know, we picked

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scenarios that kids kind of situations that
kids typically find themselves in, like being

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afraid to speak up in class,
or you know, maybe a kid says

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something about their clothing that isn't very
nice or makes fun of them, or

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maybe they're not picked on the team
or they've picked glass. You know,

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how are you going to deal with
that? What kind of thoughts are you

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going to think? And how are
you going to turn that situation around and

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those are the kinds of things that
this book illustrates. And that's the reason,

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the reason behind us to get kids
to realize that you can choose your

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thoughts, and by choosing different thoughts, you can actually change your emotions,

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and that's going to change your life. That's very true. And it's interesting

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when I talk to clients, you
know, adult clients, one of the

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things that I've heard from so many
of them is that I just wish we

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would have been given the tools and
direction to be able to process emotion and

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to understand mindfulness, and to be
able to deal with anxiety. And when

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they were kids, and it's true, it wasn't something that's mainstream at all,

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especially then, and even now,
it's something that's more on the cutting

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edge, which I don't think it
should be. I think it should be,

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you know, for every child,
for every person for that matter.

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But you're right, it's like if
we can choose, if we if we

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can get enough past you know,
being in the feeling or getting sucked into

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it, but being able to see
it and process it, that can be

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really powerful. And especially you know, after the COVID situation. Throughout the

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COVID situation. I think that we
as humans realize that there's not only a

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lot of stress being put on us, but there's a lot there's a lot

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of drama, there's a lot of
fear, and I think that you know,

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obviously children feel the same fear as
us as adults do as well.

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Absolutely absolutely, and so I find
it very interesting. So explain to me

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a little bit when you talk about
let's talk about the heart center, because

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I think that's very important and I've
learned a lot about that. Tell me

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more about the heart center and the
part that that plays for the individual well

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to me connecting to see, we
have our centers of energy. You know,

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everything is energy. Start with that. Everything is energy. The whole

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body is energy. This has been
proven by science. So you know,

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we tend to think that our brains
are what drive the body, but that's

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not exactly true. We actually have
more powerful energy in the heart. The

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heart is the center of the body
for good reason, and it's our lifeblood

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force, right, but it also
has tremendous energy and it's the center of

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love. And if you look at
it, you know, if you deal

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with any sort of energy work or
energy healing, the heart is where your

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love center is, and love is
really the most power full force in the

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universe, and so connecting to your
heart center centers you, it grounds you,

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It brings you into that space of
feeling pure love and light. And

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that's why to me, meditation is
so extremely powerful, because you realize that

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you aren't your thoughts and you're not
your body. You are the consciousness that

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is behind it, all that is
above and around and infuses everything. Right,

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because we are all connected, we
are all of one consciousness, but

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we are like individual nodes. I
once heard Mary Morrissey, she's a phenomenal

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life transformation coach and thinker, author, etc. He said that it's not

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like it's like each one of us
is an interface, but we're all part

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of the same computer brain, if
that makes sense. I don't think I

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use the words correctly, but what
I'm trying to get at is, you

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know, it's not like some sort
of a sci fi thing where you know,

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we're all like little machines and if
you turn off the head then everything

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does not like that. But it's
more like we are all connected to the

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central consciousness, the center of the
universe, per se the same energy,

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but we're offshoots or maybe even smaller
seeds that have grown and sprouted. So

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we all have that center, that
origin. But yet we are allowed to

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make our own choices and decisions and
have our own experiences based on our own

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thoughts and feelings and actions. I
agree with that, and I believe we're

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all connected. You're right, and
we can all We're all connected, we

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can all feel I think that to
some degree. I mean, I'm empathic.

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I'm sure that you are an EmPATH, and I believe that many people

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that are listening to la your true
life perspectives over the years are empathic as

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well. And I think that we
can all kind of tune into not only

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our own feelings, but the feelings
of others as well, And so there's

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that interconnectivity. And then I believe
that when we are in our right space,

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or in our clarity or our mindfulness
space, I feel like we're able

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to see the truth. We're able
to connect with others. We're able to

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get rid of the walls or the
barriers that society can put up or we

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can put up in our own mind
between us and other people. Yes,

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absolutely, I mean our thoughts,
you know, just being able to slow

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down our thoughts and you know,
connect to that heart center and just feel

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into the body. And you do
that right by focusing on your breathing.

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That brings your awareness into your body. That's how we kind of connect into

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that. Some people call it a
higher consciousness or the acastic records, or

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you know, whatever you want to
say that and that's how we're able to

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pick up on others thoughts. I
definitely agree with that for sure. Yeah,

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and then you know send our own
sort of energetic thought out into the

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universe, right because thoughts are electric, they send it out a signal,

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and then the feeling in the body. Doctor Joe to Spenser talks about this,

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The feelings in your body are magnetics, so they're drawing back to you

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what it is that you're wanting and
you're focusing on. So that's what That's

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what I think kids have to understand
is that you know your brain like kids

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grow up. This has been there's
a lot of science backing this. Right,

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for the first seven years of your
life, kids are like sponges.

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They're just absorbing whatever is in their
environment. You know, it just goes

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right in. There's no filter.
So not only are we born with a

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sort of a you know, preprogram, if you will. You've got your

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heredity, your genetics, and all
your genes. But then in the first

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seven years, everything around you you're
just taking in and that's becoming your sort

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of what do you call that,
your your database, your hardware system.

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But then as you get older and
you start to make decisions and you start

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to discern things and have your own
opinions and experiences, now you're having to

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start to sift through and decide do
I want to think that way? Do

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I not want to think that way? Is that true? Do I believe

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that's true? And maybe it's true
for someone else, but it may not

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be my truth. And I think
it's so critical kids need to realize that

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they can choose this, that they
actually that's why we're here, right,

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We are here to have these experiences
and decide what kind of a life do

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we want to lead, what kind
of experiences do we want to have,

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and what kind of perspective or lessons
do we want to put to those experiences?

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Because I truly believe that we come
here with a purpose. Each one

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of us has a unique purpose,
and life is happening for us and through

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us and so everything that happens there
is a reason, there's a lesson,

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there's something even the worst thing,
there is a purpose to it, and

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and it's it's for us to grow
and to discover that purpose and then bring

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it out into the world and share
it with others so that they can grow

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and Expand I agree with you.
And we're definitely all here for our own

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purposes. And I believe that there's
all this you know, this altruism as

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far as you know why we're here
and understanding you know, the lessons that

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we learned, and some of the
toughest situations can be some of the most

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valuable lessons. I agree with you, and I think it's interesting though when

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I hear you know, from the
from the older adult point of view.

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Um, you know about the fact
of they were taught certain things growing up.

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And I know I was too,
and I'm sure you were too,

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and I'm sure all the listeners there
were things that you were taught. There's

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you know, maybe your parents believed
in a certain religion or believed in certain

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things, and so that became your
doctrine and you and you believed in that.

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But one of the biggest, you
know, things that I talk about

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with clients and on the radio show
is we need to figure out who you

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are. What's your blue print?
Separate from what you were raised as you

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know, what do you believe on
your own right? You know, separate

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from how you were raised because we
could be raised a certain way. And

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I think this is really great that
you're giving, you know, kids the

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ability to be mindful because you're right, in society today, how you know,

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we start believing things or things are
taught and to actually have those questions,

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is this my truth? Do I
believe in that? Is this something

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that I accept or is this something
that I want to question? Or is

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this something that I want to reject? Right? And I mean, it's

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important for kids to understand that most
of what we were taught, or at

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least we hope, right, that
our our parents in society is designed to

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keep us safe. And that's that's
what our brains are designed to do,

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is to keep us safe, keep
us in the familiar or whatever is has

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served us in the past, whatever
has kept us safe and allowed us to

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you know, move through life with
either less pain or no pain, or

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you know, basically kept us kept
in survival. Right, That's great,

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but there's more to life than that, and there's more to being a human

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than that. Right, we're not
just here to survive. We're here to

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thrive. And in order to do
that, you have to do exactly what

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you said. You have to start
questioning these things that you've learned and these

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things that yes, they served you
in the past, they served you growing

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up, but now you're ready for
like the next transition. It's almost like

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a butterfly, right, You're ready
to break out of that chrysalists into your

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next transformation of the butterfly. But
then there could be several of these throughouts

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your life. That's what I think
is fascinating. You know, you're going

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to go through different growing stages.
That's so true, Julie. When we

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were turning to be talking more about
mindfulness and the higher being in the consciousness.

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So stay with us Live your True
Life Perspectives with your host me Askey

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Burgess will be back in We'll be
back this time and two shakes. Welcome

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back Live to Literature Life Perspectives and
I'm your host Ashley Burgess. On today's

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show, we're talking about mindfulness,
about choice, about being able to choose

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about our higher consciousness, and Julie
Deane has been joining me. She's the

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emerging children's author of this amazing book
that we're going to dive into. Which

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would you choose. We're gonna be
diving into that in our next segment because

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we want to deep dive into this
really amazing book because it goes through daily

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situations, circumstances, events and experiences
that you know, children experience as well

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as us as adults. Anybody will
have experience or will experience it in their

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life. You know, Julie,
right before the break, we were talking

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about you know how the brain does, you know, keep us safe.

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It safeguards us. But sometimes in
the safeguarding process, you know, there

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can be fear or there can be
things that hold us back. Could you

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talk more about that? Yeah,
absolutely so. Right, the brain is

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designed to keep us safe and away
from pain and basically just to keep us

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alive. Right, that's its number
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we are feeling safe and cared for, right, the next function is actually

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creation. You know. It's why
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when you're in a safe place and
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of those creative thoughts start coming up
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in the background, the subconscious,
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you're focusing on. So this brings
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book, which would you choose.
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where focus goes, energy flows and
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on a negative or positive, the
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focus on late, right, instead
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I am going to be on time, and then the brain is focusing on

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being on time. It doesn't distinguish
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start to play with. They could
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A technique I taught my daughter was
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thing that you have in your head, you just say stop, I choose

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not that you flip it around,
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is that you do want and focus
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this in the pool one day.
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what I told her, because it
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the technique, And that is one
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flip around, the one at the
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with anybody that's listening to this show
right now. It doesn't matter what age

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you are, You're so right,
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of the brain doesn't realize the negative
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something in a negative way or to
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like the idea of your laid that
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have to be in the mindset to
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make those changes, and to be
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to ourselves. Oh, absolutely yeah, the negative self talk. And that's

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that's another of the scenarios in the
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it's a big problem. And once
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need to realize this early. Right, instead of telling yourself, don't do

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that, don't do the flip it
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I always make friends easily. I
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instead of saying I don't know how
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got to flip that thing around and
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feel better first and foremost. That
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amazing. Don't change the channel.
Don't change it. We have we have

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so much to talk about. In
today's show. We're going to go through

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the entire book, which would you
choose and some of the best pieces that

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are really going to pull up.
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have hours an hour, so we
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scary, about exciting opportunities, and
the list goes on, and also where

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we can find Julie, where you
can find the book, because this is

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great for anybody. This is information
that we all need to be living our

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life if we want to have that
life that we want to live. We

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want to live that true life and
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and be successful because it's only going
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We'll be talking more about that and
also later on in the hour some golden

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nuggets of wisdom that Julie is going
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audience, So stay tuned. We
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your True Life Perspectives with me,
your host, Ashley Burgess, will be

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back in I'll be back this time, you know it. I'll be back

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this time in two shakes. Welcome
back Live to Literature Life Perspectives and I'm

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your host, Ashley Burgess. If
you're just tuning in right now. We've

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been talking about higher being, consciousness, not being a slave to our emotions,

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and I've been a victim to our
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our thoughts. And Julie Deanne has
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author, and her greatest book right
now that I just have fallen in love

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with is which would you choose?
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love the use of the sloths because
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us as children and us as adults
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adults. And I think that the
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this book, Julie, because you
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know, it's it's just cool.
It's fun, and it's it's something that

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kids love and they don't judge themselves
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or I don't look like that child. Is that kind of why you

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picked up Yes, Actually, you've
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that we pick the sloth. Not
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hot animal right now that kids just
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androgynous, right, you can't tell
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to me, that was also really
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why all of the names in the
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personal pronouns, is her, none
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to appeal to the widest audience,
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all ethnicities, religions, etc.
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and to allow their imaginations to flourish
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in that scenario and decide for themselves
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other options are there, because they're
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the teacher and the child, amongst
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I love it. One of my
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now is the concept the scary but
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little bit in the beginning because I
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relatable, um that kids might be
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they've experienced it or not. Maybe
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didn't want it to be too outlandish. And I talked with my daughter and

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so we've decided together we would settle
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like a guided trip, you know, with the ropes and with the instructor,

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that you see the body experience is
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The only difference. You know,
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sweaty, you get all you start
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tense, and you feel a lot
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difference is your thoughts. Do you
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kid is feeling fear, or the
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fear about whether to go or not
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the scenario the negative thoughts, you
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you know, all of these negative
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they kind of lead to a lack
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eventually, right the sloth kind of
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getting invited to stuff, versus choosing
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positive light, thinking questions like,
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but what if what if it was
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enjoy this and find out that I'm
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because I go on this trip,
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are able to go, like to
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new opportunities arise and better deeper friendships
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a spiral effect, you know,
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end we have to remember we're still
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just do you want to take the
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fun exciting road, or do you
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more difficult road. It's very interesting. I also I love I love this

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to the flip around. If we
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to have more time to discuss the
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the summer camp. But let's jump
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it in our first in the first
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a little bit. Let's let's deep
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that concept and it's something that works
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know, the way that you explain
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let's let's deep dive into what that
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practice. Ah, thank you for
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one of the key techniques that I, UM, I really wanted to illustrate

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with this book. So I had
read mel Robbins The five second halbit,

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which kind of sparked the creativity here. You know, she says do five

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four three two one and and so
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well reset, and then you know
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you just say stop. Put the
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not that, and then you got
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you just clip it around. And
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because I wanted, I was so
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like, yeah, this is fun. Kids would like this, she kind

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of shrugged her shoulders. I was
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that makes sense. You know.
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I thought, well, you know, kids, they don't get as excited

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about four weeks later, I was
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came up to me all excited.
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I did it. I said,
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I taught myself the underwater flip.
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me all about it. So she
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pool and she had all these negative
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to do this underwater backflip and she
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up her news and she was getting
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I'm just gonna give up. But
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no, I'm going to do this. I am going to I'm going

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to get this. This is this
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and no kidding. She just charted
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her friend showed up, she taught
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it. They had a great day. And that's the power of the split

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second. It just takes one split
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that thought and make the decision choose
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and it changes everything powerful. It's
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clients, you know, sometimes you
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and sometimes you hear them coming from
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Almost like life is happening at us
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mentality, that is, you know, society kind of m I feel like

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society kind of reinforces or promulgates the
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That you know, we don't have
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But the fact is, no,
we can choose how we look at

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any situation, how we deal with
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be yeah, things are going to
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turn it around and make it into
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much of a learning or growth experience
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take our power back. But when
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own reality, no matter what side
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we keep reinforcing whatever side we take
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And then the brain creates that reality
for us. That's right, Thoughts become

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things, That's what ed Milette says. There's a lot of a lot of

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research on this is It's interesting too
that the science today is starting to um

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catch up with these with these little
sayings and these ideas, because you know,

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we know that there there's energy out
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We just can't see it. But
now the science is starting to catch ups

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being able to detect it and detect
when our when we think something, and

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then what happens in our perspectives or
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reality. I agree with that Let's
jump into all the World's a Stage because

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I have a lot more we have
to cover where we need to talk about

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the ted X talk. We're gonna
need to talk about a lot of things,

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but let's jump into all the World's
a Stage because I really like this

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piece too. Yeah, all the
World is a Stage is Oh that's um.

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Yeah, the one about being afraid
to be up on stage and to

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actually try out for a play.
You know, all of us get scared

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of being in front of people or
being seen, right, because the thought

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is again going back to safety,
right, it was for centuries people lived

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in tribes. I mean, if
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then you know you could die because
it was just scary out there being on

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your own. And I think that
that whole mentality is still kind of in

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our minds and as kids, as
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you know, if you speak up
or you speak too loud, you're

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told to be quiet. You know, kids are to be seen and not

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heard. That sort of thing.
That's totally wrong. We need to turn

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those things around. We need to
recognize no kids have a voice, and

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their voices deserve to be her I
mean, yes, you know, there's

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discipline and there's times when you have
to be quiet, but they also need

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to be congratulated and supported and encouraged
to speak up and to be their own

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person. Because each one of us
is a divine being. We are beings

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of light, and we are all
connected to that divinity, and each one

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of us has a purpose here and
that's what we're here for. We're here

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to shine our light. And that's
why I do think that you mentioned the

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teex talk. I did the text
talk because I want that message to get

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out there. I think every child
needs to know that they are unique and

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they do have a purpose. And
life is about experiencing things so that you

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can discover your purpose and then shine
that light in the world. And the

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best way to do that is your
meditation. You know, you calm the

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mind down, you quiet the body, you focus on you're breathing, and

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then you're able to observe your thoughts
and get inspirations and just live your life

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from your heart center, you know, responding to the world instead of reacting

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out of fear. That's very deep, responding, not reacting, and once

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you're able to respond. And also, I think another thing that's great about

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meditation is that when you're using that
meditation, the mindfulness, when someone else

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is talking, you're not thinking about
what you're going to say back right,

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You're focusing in the present moment on
what they are saying. And then you

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know, giving that full attention there, right, and when they finish,

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then you come up with your response
because it's going to be probably almost an

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intuitive hit. You're not going to
have to think of how you're going to

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respond because you've been paying so much
attention. Your brain's working in the backgrounds,

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it's coming up with things for you
to say. Right, you're getting

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those connections, you're making those um
parallels and comparisons and things that help you

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to understand what they're saying and chime
in with your own perspective on things.

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Let me ask you. You know, Julie, you know, I know.

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I watched your tedex talk. It
was it was amazing, and I

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like how it directly reflects into the
book and all the world's of stage and

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you know, and putting yourself out
there and maybe taking yourself out of your

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comfort zone. Um. You know, with that in mind, Um,

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are you planning on doing another another
ted talk? What are you what are

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you working on right now? Actually
I would like to do a TEDx talk

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in the future, but right now, my number one focus is to get

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meditation taught in schools, and so
I have the actual program that I discuss

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in my tedex talk, which is
combining intentional movement with breathwork, with visualization

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and positive affirmations into what I call
a time within, which teaches children how

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to use their body movement and controlling
their breathing to calm the body, to

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quiet the mind so they can connect
to their heart center and actually focus on

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those thoughts that they want to think, so that once again they can choose

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how to respond in the world around
them instead of reacting out of fear.

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And this little process can be done
in as quickly as five minutes, so

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any teacher any parrot can just incorporate
it into their daily morning routine. You

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just insert five minutes bam, every
day they do this. Within two weeks,

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you're going to start seeing differences.
Maybe even sooner than that. But

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even doctor Joejspenza says even just five
minutes a day of meditation is enough to

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begin to create blasting change and calmness
in the body and mind. Awesome,

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that's awesome. And I know we
don't have a lot of time left in

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this segment, but could you give
us some information on how to find you

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on social media? Absolutely, you
can find me on Facebook. It's Julie

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Deanne. My Instagram is Julie Underscore
Deane without the apostrophe Underscore. I also

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have my new book, which would
you choose? On Amazon, my techs

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Talk which is called the number one
tool Kids Need to Learn or the number

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one tool schools need to teach and
kids need to Learn. And my author

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website, Julie Deane author dot com, which has links to all of the

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above. Amazing Julie. When we
were turning me talking more, I want

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to talk to Julie and get the
idea on her golden nuggets of wisdom.

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You know with everybody that's on the
show, I asked them at least two

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nuggets of wisdom to share with our
LITERR True Life listeners, because everybody comes

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from a different perspective and has a
different purpose on this planet to share with

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us. So stay tuned, you
don't want to miss these nuggets of wisdom.

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Will be right back. Leave your
true life perspectives with your host me,

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Ashley Burgess will be back in.
I'll be back this time in two

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shakes. M welcome back live to
look at your Life Perspectives, and I'm

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your host. Asky Burgess. Julie
and I've been talking about her latest book

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about Mindfulness about life transformation, and
right before the break, we were really

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talking about what she was working on
right now and there's some incredible knowledge,

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incredible information, a lot of great
things coming our way. Julie, this

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is the time, so I have
to ask you a couple of nuggets of

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golden wisdom for the Literatrue Life listeners, because we all have our specific purpose

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in life and our direction and we
can help others and we've learned by others.

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So I'm looking forward to hearing those
nuggets. Yes, indeed, thank

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you Ashley. I was thinking about
this and I guess to synthesize everything down,

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I would say that the number one
thing is breathe. It seems so

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simple, but it is the very
first thing that we come into this world

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with is our breath, and the
very last thing to go and the body

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goes, is the breath. And
we just have to remember, even though

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it's an automatic thing, when you
focus on your breathing and you actually consider

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breathing in deeply from the belly all
the way up and then exhaling, and

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I like to say breathing in through
the nose and then holding it for a

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couple of seconds and then exhaling through
the mouth. You will see Just do

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that three times and you can even
count count in eight counts and exhale for

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eight counts, you will feel calmer. Your body will instantly start to calm

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down, and when you do that, you feel better. Number one.

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Secondly, you're able to connect in
to your heart center. But you're able

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to clear your mind and let those
crazy racing thoughts slow down, drift down,

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and think of it like sediment and
a juice that you shake it up,

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and then when you stop shaking the
bottle all the sediment, all the

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dirt, all the junk, settles
to the bottom and now it's clear and

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you can see through that liquid.
It's the same thing when we stop for

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a minute, we focus on our
breathing and we just connect into our heart

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center and we decide, I am
safe, I am enough, I am

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absolutely beautiful just as I am,
and absolutely lovable just as I am.

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Those are the statements that those are
some key statements that everybody needs to be

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saying every single day. You know, you start the morning like that,

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end the day like that, You're
going to start feeling better. You're going

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to start leading a happier life.
And that leads me to the second golden

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nugget, which is have fun.
We are here in this life to have

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fun. That's why we're here to
create, to find our purpose, and

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to have fun doing it. So
I'm hoping that everybody will take these golden

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nuggets and those lessons from the book
and just learn how to start shaping their

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lives and the having more fun lives
that they truly love. I love that

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that concept, Julie, just have
fun. It's like I think a lot

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of times we make things challenging,
we make things difficult, and sometimes life

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is challenging, but yet it is
about having fun and trying to take things

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a little lighter. And you know, as you say, being more powerful

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with our words and coming from that
perspective of power and empowerment instead of victim

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reality. Yes, that is exactly
right, because we are each one of

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us powerful beings. And by making
the decision that we are powerful, we

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can choose our thoughts and change our
reality. That's the first step right there,

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and it just you just keep doing
that every day and it's going to

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build. And it's just like a
muscle, right The more that you make

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those choices, those positive choices,
and the more you exercise the brain in

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that way to think of possibility and
positive potential, the more your awareness of

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potentials like that expands and grows.
That's very true. The more you do

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it, the more you can practice
it, the more it becomes part of

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your life. Julie, it's been
a having you here on Lave your true

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life perspectives, and it's you have
a great, amazing wealth of knowledge and

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I think you're going to be really
helping a lot of kids and helping our

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world. Thank you so much,
Ashley, It's been such a pleasure of

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speaking with you here today and being
on your show. Thank you again.

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I think that Julie is right on
on this. It's just this is where

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we need to be at. This
is the cutting edge place to be at

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the mindfulness. And I know that
there are cultures and people that have been

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doing this forever and this has been
part of their mainstay, but it needs

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to be part of the mainstay for
children and adults all over. And I

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think that Julie's onto something and this
book is amazing, And I think this

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book, which would You Choose?
Is very powerful. I mean, we

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do have the right to choose,
we have the ability to choose, and

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it's how we use that. It's
how we use our power to change our

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lives. And I think that this
is powerful stuff. And so the fact

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is is that we can all do
this. We can all really control our

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emotions, be able to control our
feelings, connect with our thoughts, being

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able to see other opportunities, and
realizing there's always another way. In the

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meantime, if you haven't checked out
the YouTube channel, go check it out.

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In the meantime, new video content
up every single day. Just go

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to YouTube and put in Ashley Burgess
or put in Life Coach Ashley Burgess and

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00:41:08.519 --> 00:41:13.440
you'll find that information and information that
might help your life in some way,

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shape or form. We have a
great show coming up for you next week.

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Don't miss it and live your true
life perspectives with me, your host,

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Ashley Burgess, will be back in
m I'll be back this time.

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Yeah, I'll be back this time. In three shakes,