Nov. 15, 2024

Safe Emotional Expression with Your Child Begins Here! [Ep.778]

Safe Emotional Expression with Your Child Begins Here! [Ep.778]

Reconnecting with your Inner child, overcoming personal fears, putting yourself out there, helping children to express their feelings, and the Adventures of Snuggs. On today’s show, I’m thrilled to speak with author Ashley Donegan. Ashley has recently...

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Reconnecting with your Inner child, overcoming personal fears, putting yourself out there, helping children to express their feelings, and the Adventures of Snuggs. On today’s show, I’m thrilled to speak with author Ashley Donegan. Ashley has recently published her book, Adventures of Snuggs, Ashley draws motivation from her love for animals to create delightful and heartwarming stories. Teaming up with her daughter, her creative partner, and her greatest inspiration, Ashley combines her storytelling talent and art to bring these stories to life. Many of us had or still have our favorite blankey, I did! This show is not just about the book, it's about an author that has overcome extreme obstacles, and created a story that will touch all of our hearts.
With several more children’s books planned for the future, Ashley hopes to inspire parents and children to embrace and openly share their emotions. She believes that these types of conversations will make a positive impact on the world.
Ashley Donegan's Official Website: www.OneMamasHeart.com
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You're in a good place now. You are listening to

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Perspectives with Ashley Burgess.

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Welcome back live to Liver your True Life Perspectives, and

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I'm your host, Ashley Burgess. On today, I have an

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amazing guest who's written an amazing book, The Adventures of Snugs.

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And this book is amazing because it really connects parents

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and their children, helps us to really understand how to

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deal and process our emotions, but also how to deal

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with challenging situations and challenging emotions in our life. And

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we all go through it, you know, going through childhood.

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Even as adults, we understand these challenges and it's really

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good to be able to communicate with your children and

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be able to open the conversation and be able to

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talk about our emotions freely.

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Joining me live today is Ashley Donnegan.

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Ashley, so great to have you on lib your True

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Life Perspectives.

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How are you doing.

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I'm good.

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Thank you so much Ashley for having me. I'm excited

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to be here talking with you.

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I'm so excited.

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And I've read the book three or four times now,

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love it, love the illustrations and tell me more so, well,

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you know what was your muse to write this book.

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Thank you for the compliment.

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My daughter was my inspiration and is pretty much for

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anything that I do since I've had her. When she

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was little, I just was really moved by her. The

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books about her security blanket, she called it snugs, and

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just her innocence and sweetness at that age just.

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Really inspired me.

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Her childlike wonderment of which she saw the world inspired

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me to write this book. And so that's just kind

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of where I started.

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I love it and I love the illustrations. Tell me more,

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did you do those illustrations yourself for? Is there somebody

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else involved with the illustration work?

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Yes, no, thank you.

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I did them, and I did them sort of to

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look like a child drew them. I'm not the best

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artist in the world, but that's not what this was

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about for me trying to be the best. It was

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just trying to show my artistic creative side. And so yeah,

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I did them.

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I love them, and I love the cat.

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And when you get the book, so for all the

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listeners out there, when you get the book, you'll understand

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it's it's great and I love the illustrations, and then

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I love the participation of the cat throughout the book

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as well, And let's talk about snugs because I know,

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growing up as a child, I had a blanket. I

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had a blanket and I carried that blanket with me

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all the time and it was like pastel colored. It

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was pink and yellow and light blue. And I carried

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out for a really long time. Knowing that your daughter had,

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you know, a safety blanket. Did you also have one

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or no? Growing up?

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I did not. No. I don't know if that. Well.

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I guess it was a thing because there was always

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like Charlie Brown had his little blue blanky, so I

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guess it's been a thing. But no, I did not

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have one. And I since I've written this book, I've

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just been touched by so many people who have told,

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you know, told me of their their version of nugs,

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their security blanket, and their connection with my book, that

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they remember it, they still have it in their closet

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or you know, they took it on their honeymoon and

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their husband was like, what are you doing? You know,

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so so many people have they still have that connected

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memory to that beloved object, and I love that they

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can connect with my story with that.

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It's great and it's it's it's something that I think

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is really important. And I remember, uh, you know, I

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had mine. I carried mine. I think the last day

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I carried mine was in my uh I guess I

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was six or seven years old. My mother made me

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put it back in the car, but I kept it

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at home and I and when I first got my

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first dog, I would like wrap her up in it.

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So it became her like sleeping blanket. Oh yeah, and

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her name was Snuggles, which is kind of funny, so

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oh ironic it Snuggles was awesome. She was like, could

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do no wrong. She was like a super dog. And

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so I would wrap her up in the blanket. And

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it was cute because you had one of the illustrations

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where your daughter put snugs on top of the kitten,

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and that kind of reminded me of my childhood, Like

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I would just wrap Snuggles up.

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So that's awesome.

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So who gave snugs to your daughter in the first place.

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Was that a gift from you or another family member?

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That was a gift from my sister.

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So my daughter's aunt for her baby shower, you know,

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when she was still in my womb. So she's hot

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it ever since then.

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That's cool. That's really cool. And so she still has

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snugs to the day, right, she does.

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She doesn't carry it around as much, you know, she

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kind of just sleeps with it. But yeah, no, she's

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still She's not as attached to it as she was

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when she was a baby, obviously, but yeah, it's it

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is still around.

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That's neat. That's neat.

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The one thing I think it's you know, the first

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takeaway that I take from the book is that I

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feel like as we see through you know, the different

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illustrations in the different situations, you know, the stuff that

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we go through, you know, like having trouble maybe going

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to sleep or you know, dealing with a child, dealing

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with a scary thunderstorm or you know, going to the

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doctor or having to get a shot, you know, and

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that that that's traumatic as a child, you know, and

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I think it's like, how do how do we process that?

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Because that's just the beginning, right of the life, But

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how do we process those those challenges while we're growing

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up as a young as a young child.

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Yes exactly. I mean life is scary.

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We have a lot of challenges our way, and you know,

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I mean there's a lot of great things too, but

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it can be hard to know how to navigate those

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things and when they come up, and so a little,

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if a little piece of fabric is going to help somebody,

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I don't see the harm in it and being a

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healthier tool for children to gain independence and you know,

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security and just kind of self awareness. I think it's

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a great tool. It has been for my daughter anyway.

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And it's interesting too.

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I think that with this book it will open up

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some of the conversations with parents and kids being able

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to talk about how they feel.

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That is my hope.

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That is my hope that we can all kind of

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as parents become more aware of ourself and our own

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emotions to be able to better help our children and

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deal with their emotions as they come up to have

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you know, a better, more loving world going for future generations.

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That is my hope for sure.

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And when we think about this too, I think that

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one of the things that you and I were talking

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about yesterday that I thought was inspiring is the fact

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of having that safe zone to express ourselves and being

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able to communicate, because I do think that that basically

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creates the beginning of an amazing relationship as a parent

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and child. Is if the child feels comfortable enough to

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share how they're feeling about.

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X y Z.

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Definitely.

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I mean, we all want to feel seen and heard

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in this world, and so that kind of stars obviously

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with your parents and your foundation of growing up. And

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so if we can learn, you know, we can only

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do as good as the tools that we are given,

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but if we can learn better, we can do better

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for our kids. And so yeah, I just think it's

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I'm all for it.

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And I think also too, you know, this book, even

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though it is designed you know for you know, reading

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with the child or the child reading themselves, I do

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think that it really connects with the human experience because

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you know, many people that are listening to the show

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right now, you know, we're going through challenges, We're dealing

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with different things.

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You know, some of us have become caregivers full time.

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Some of us are you know, having to work multiple jobs,

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dealing with you know, struggles and parenting and struggles as well.

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And so it's like being able to connect the you're

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with also your inner child. And I'm assuming that there

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was a lot of inner child work in your journey,

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you know, coming up to not only writing this book

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or can this book, but also publishing this book.

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Very much so, and I didn't really realize that at

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the time when I wrote it when she was two,

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and then I kind of I did it for the

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two of us. I never thought I would share it.

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It just sort of came to me and I put

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it away, you know, in a drawer and everything. And

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then as time went on, I was working on myself

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and healing my inner child through watching my daughter grow

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and learn, and so that really brought up a lot

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of things for me that need to be healed, which

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I wasn't expecting, but as it did, Yeah, then I

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decided to go ahead and publish and share it with

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the world, which brought on a whole new set of emotions.

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And then publish it and that it has challenges, and

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I mean it's all been great, but it's been a

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learning thing about myself and bringing up my inner child.

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So yeah, definitely, very much.

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And you know, I think it's interesting when I you know,

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I remember back in my childhood and that was something

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that I really reconnected with, you know, probably in the

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last how many years. But you know, it's about creativity,

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and I think that there's a certain level of creation

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and creativity that we have.

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When we're a kid, and I think you're right.

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It's like the inner child work is so important because

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I feel like we have to take our inner child

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and kind of stick it up on a bookshelf somewhere,

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you know, and go into the adult life. But I

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don't think it's until we actually, you know, kind of

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take that inner child and begin to look at the

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inner child and focus on our life do we actually

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get to be able to be not only well rounded,

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but be able to find maybe more of our purpose.

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Definitely, I would agree with that.

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As a child and myself, I was very highly creative,

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as is my daughter, but I kind of put that

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as I got older, like you said, away on the

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shelf and I focused on you know, boyfriends and other interests,

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and I kind of put that away to the side.

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But really, as I got older and became a mom,

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it was like, those are the things that brought me

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happiness and joy, and I stopped doing them. And so

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when I reconnected with that side of myself, the creative side,

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that's really when the healings began.

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And I think it's interesting too for anybody out there

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that's listening, you know, where maybe you were taking photographs

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when you were a kid, or drawing or writing poetry

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or whatever that looks like. You know, it's hard because

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it can be really challenging.

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You know.

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Maybe parents are like, oh, you know, you're not going

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to make a career in that, or that's whatever that

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direction looks like. But I think that things have opened

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up so much, and I think that the ability to

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be able to you know, reconnect with that and then

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use some of those things that we were good at,

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that we really loved as a child and put that

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into our current situation, our current purpose, our current career, definitely.

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I mean, if people are able to do that, I

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highly suggest suggest it. I'm in a very fortunate, grateful

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spot in my life where I can do that. I

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haven't always been, but right now, you know, and to

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watch my daughter experience it with me has been really

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we've had that connection and it's been just great for

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of your own, it's a very interesting dynamic because you

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decided Okay, hey, I'm gonna make this reality. You know

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what happened then when you said, Okay, I'm not just

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going to keep this book for myself, because I remember

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you were saying, there was a part of you that

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was like, you know, I'm just going to keep this

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from my daughter and I and that's it.

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lot of emotions around that and had to really dig

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deep on self doubt. So criticism. Is anyone going to

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like this? You know, all those things that we all

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experience and had to just say forget about that. You know,

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that you can do anything if you put your mind

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to it. And so that's kind of where that all began.

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is no limit, Scott, And then there's no sky's the

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limit concept.

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this out and feeling confident about it, or at least

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just putting it out there and kind of going through

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the emotions of it. It does speak not only to others,

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but also to your daughter, you know, about her also

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doing the same thing and being able to be creative

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the self doubt and everything, I mean, we're only limited

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by ourselves and our own thoughts, and so to try

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to push through those and work through them, I mean,

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how can I expect her to do the things that

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I realize. And so that's kind of driven me to

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go forward with with you know, sharing it with the

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world and just hope, hope for the best, and hope

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people can connect with it.

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I like that, And you're right dealing with self doubt

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and self doubt I think is one of the things

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that's part of the human condition.

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have been raised in like this amazing perfect you know

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parent dynamic where there was no self doubt. I think

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one of the things that we do is question our

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question our ability. And I think you're very right on

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about that, Ashley, and trying to overcome that. And I

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think you're you know you're doing a great job by

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showing your daughter as an example of how you can

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overcome that.

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Well, thank you. I'm trying my best.

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is no such thing. I mean, we all just try

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to do our best as parents, you know, but just

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society and everything else plays a part in it, and

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how we think we should be.

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For others and all those things.

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you know, working through those than just living for myself

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and what I feel has been a challenge, but it's

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you know, rewarding.

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self doubt, overcoming the self doubt, inner child healing and

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more so, stay tuned, don't change the channel. Literature Life

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In I'll be back this time. You know it.

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I'll be back this time in two shakes.

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Turn it up and jump in the deep end on Perspectives.

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Now here's Ashley.

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Welcome back live to Liberty Life Perspectives and I'm your host,

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Ashley Burgess. On today's show, I've been talking to Ashley Donoghan,

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who wrote and illustrated The Adventures of Snugs, and right

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before the break, we were talking about overcoming self doubt

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and people pleasing and many of us deal with this

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right now, many of you listening, you're like, I am

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definitely overcoming people pleasing Gene. I'm working on overcoming codependency.

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But in the process, there's a lot of there's a

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lot of self doubt and hoping that people like us,

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or they get along with us, or they love what

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we're doing. And so actually, I find this very interesting because,

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you know, putting yourself out there and creating a book

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and doing this stuff, you know, it's it's very revealing.

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but they're too scared to do it because they don't

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know how people are going to react exactly.

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And I went through all of that and I still,

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you know, still do I'm still working on it. It's

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not like I've conquered it totally. But it's a very

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scary thing to put the deepest parts of your self

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and your emotions out in any art form, and then

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also to share it with others and face judgment and

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criticism of it might not be the best or you

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know why do you do it like this or you

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could have done it different, or you know this sucks

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or whatever. So yeah, it's a very takes a lot

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of bravery and courage. I think, at least for me

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it did to put this out there and keep going

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with it.

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has you know, is empathetic, that has feelings for others,

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you know, that cares about others, is also going to

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question because I think many of us question our abilities.

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give credit to other people and and minimize our abilities,

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and I think that that's something that most a lot

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of us have to overcome. And I think with what

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you're doing, especially with creating this book and you're you're

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also writing a second book with your daughter right now, right.

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end of the year. So it's it's done. But I'm

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super proud of it. And yeah, it's it's an amazing book.

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That's awesome, And so I think that in this process

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it's been cathartic for you. Not only is this something

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that's helped with your daughter to you know, as far

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as Snugs is concerned to have comfortability and to be

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able to manage emotions. It has also brought out and

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you this inner child work which I think so many

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of us need to connect with in our own lives.

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Yes, it's I mean, and it is hard, and it's

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not for everybody. I would say that, but if you

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can do it, I think it's it's really well worth

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it for not only yourself, but to be a better

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parent for your your children.

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So let's talk a little bit about your home life.

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You were telling me, you know you live on a farm.

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Tell me a little bit more about that.

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not really like with crops or anything. It's more of

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a hobby farm. So we have a lot of acreage

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and animals. My daughter loves pets, so we have a

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lot of them.

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Tell me more about the pets that you'll have.

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Oh gosh, okay, I'll list them off. We have chickens, ducks,

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guinea pigs, goats, cats, dogs, fish, hermit crabs, and a frog.

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Don't forget the herbic crabs. Don't forget those.

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So the direction of the second book involves the chickens

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to some degree, right, I know, we don't want to

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talk too much about that and give it away. But

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is it is it directed toward the chickens? Tell me

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just a little bit.

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It's just a little spin off on We Name them

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story we kind of came up with out in our

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barn one day and we were like, this would be

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a really cute idea for a book, and so that's

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just kind of how it started.

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That's pretty cool.

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I love animals. I have a dog, but I wish

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I lived on a farm and had animals like that.

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That's pretty cool.

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So she's been around animals her whole life then, so

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this is second nature to her.

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she was five, I think, and so before that we

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just had my cat, my cat that's in the book Jan.

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then the rest of the animals came when she was

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about five. Jan.

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I love that. That's a great names.

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There's a story about her too, and will eventually be

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a book as well.

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Awesome, awesome, and everybody that loves Katz, I'm sure we'll

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want to read this book. So when we.

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Return where you're talking more about inner child healing, we're

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also gonna be talking about adversity in overcoming university and

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you know, not everything's been perfect, you know, and so

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many of us have gone through challenges and as she's

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going to talk a little bit about that as well.

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Talk more about the book and you know, more about

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the direction of the next book too.

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So stay tuned Liver your True Life Perspectives with your

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host me Ashley Burgess, will be back in I'll be

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back this time, you know it.

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I'll be back this time in two shades.

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This is Jake Busey and you're listening to Perspectives with

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Ashley Burgess.

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Welcome back live to Liver your True Life Perspectives, and

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I'm your host, Ashley Burgess. On today's show, we've been

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talking to Ashley Donoghan. Ashley was raised in a small

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town in Kansas and enjoys farm life and multiple animals

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and family that's close by her.

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Her animals are more than just pets, and.

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They're actually part of the inspiring fun stories that she

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is telling, not only herself, but also with her daughter.

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She's teamed up with her daughter, who is a real

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creative talent and ultimate inspiration to Ashley, and they both

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enjoy working together to create art. And I have ideas

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of moving forward with several more children's books, and it

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sounds amazing and it's awesome because we're all like, oh,

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farm life and all this, But all this didn't happen

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without some adversity. So actually we were talking the other

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day on the phone and tell me a little bit

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more because all of us have dealt with our adversities,

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all of us have gone through pain and suffering. But

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I think that pain and suffering is what actually makes

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us stronger.

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But it also.

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Reveals to us how we need to connect with our

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inner child and then what the work we need to

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do to be at that level what we want in

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our life.

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I agree with that.

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I have had my fair share of struggles over the years,

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and I would say probably the first biggest one I

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was in a really bad car accident in two thousand

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and three where I was hit head on by a

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drunk driver and I almost died. So you know, that

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was pretty bad and took me quite a while to

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work through that physically and mentally and emotionally, so yeah,

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there's that. I've been divorced, which is you know a

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lot of people go through divorces, So that's no, you

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know a lot of people do.

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But it is a struggle and a challenge.

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And I also, in my late twenties, was pregnant with

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twins and I had a miscarriage and that was very

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devastating to me as I always wanted to be a mom,

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So that really probably brought me down to my lowest,

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lowest time. So yeah, I would say those are a

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lot of my struggles and I've tried really hard to

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work through and heal from some of those, or not

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some of them, all of them, but but yeah, so

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I agree with what you said. And then it's challenging

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to get to go through, but it's even more challenging

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to try to heal from. So you can you know,

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turn the dark into light, you know, negative into positive.

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So and I've tried to do.

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That well, and that's a big thing because in order

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to go through it and process it and come out

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the other side healed, that takes a lot of work.

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It does.

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It takes a tremendous amount of work, and not everybody

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is willing to do that.

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Unfortunately. I mean it, you know, it is hard.

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But for me, what really I struggled and struggled and struggled,

482
00:22:50.680 --> 00:22:53.240
and until I became a mom with my daughter. That's

483
00:22:53.279 --> 00:22:56.119
what really woke me up, Like now I have to

484
00:22:56.160 --> 00:22:58.960
be an example for this child, Like it's not about

485
00:22:58.960 --> 00:23:02.519
me anymore, It's about Earth. So that's what really kind

486
00:23:02.559 --> 00:23:05.400
of opened my eyes is when I say she saved

487
00:23:05.400 --> 00:23:06.400
me really honestly.

488
00:23:07.640 --> 00:23:10.839
M yeah, and going through all that, it's you know,

489
00:23:10.880 --> 00:23:13.119
you're right, it's either you can come out. You can

490
00:23:13.160 --> 00:23:16.200
either heal from it, or you can avoid the healing,

491
00:23:16.319 --> 00:23:18.680
or you can And sometimes people sweep it under the rug,

492
00:23:19.279 --> 00:23:23.720
or they get into addiction or they avoid dealing with themselves,

493
00:23:23.720 --> 00:23:26.319
and those those are really challenging. And to have multiple

494
00:23:26.440 --> 00:23:31.160
challenges like that in your life so close together. Even

495
00:23:31.200 --> 00:23:34.119
having one of those challenges in your life is overwhelming.

496
00:23:35.319 --> 00:23:36.839
What were some of the things when you look back

497
00:23:36.880 --> 00:23:39.720
at when you were processing this and going through these emotions.

498
00:23:40.279 --> 00:23:42.559
How did you stay or how did you work to

499
00:23:42.599 --> 00:23:46.759
stay positive or work to you know, to stay on point.

500
00:23:47.640 --> 00:23:50.279
Was that kind of like an hourly thing, a daily thing?

501
00:23:50.359 --> 00:23:52.359
I mean, tell me more about how you manage through

502
00:23:52.440 --> 00:23:53.319
these processes.

503
00:23:54.720 --> 00:23:57.039
Oh gosh, Well, for me.

504
00:23:57.319 --> 00:23:59.519
You know, I can only speak for myself. What everybody

505
00:23:59.559 --> 00:24:02.160
else does is their own healing journey, you know, because

506
00:24:02.759 --> 00:24:04.880
we all have to do what we can do the

507
00:24:04.920 --> 00:24:07.240
best with what we have. So for me, it was

508
00:24:07.480 --> 00:24:09.240
years of and I and I would say, I went

509
00:24:09.279 --> 00:24:11.720
through kind of waves. I wasn't always perfect at it.

510
00:24:11.720 --> 00:24:13.359
It wasn't always good. You have to kind of.

511
00:24:13.279 --> 00:24:15.519
Take it day by day. But I got a lot

512
00:24:15.519 --> 00:24:16.799
of help. I went to counseling.

513
00:24:17.079 --> 00:24:20.799
I found a lot of healing modalities, a lot of healers,

514
00:24:22.160 --> 00:24:26.440
spiritual type things that really helped connect me back with

515
00:24:26.519 --> 00:24:30.400
my center of who I am inside, that I'm not

516
00:24:30.519 --> 00:24:34.279
these you know struggles, that that's just an experience and

517
00:24:34.279 --> 00:24:37.200
that I can move past them. So and I did

518
00:24:37.200 --> 00:24:38.920
a lot of reading, I did a lot of classes.

519
00:24:38.920 --> 00:24:42.599
I did a lot you know, webinars, podcasts, like anything

520
00:24:42.640 --> 00:24:44.920
you can think of, I've probably tried it and done

521
00:24:44.960 --> 00:24:46.680
it to help me heal and be better.

522
00:24:48.119 --> 00:24:49.720
And that's that's powerful.

523
00:24:49.759 --> 00:24:52.160
And it takes a lot of modalities, and it takes

524
00:24:52.200 --> 00:24:55.799
a lot of things to to heal. And and I

525
00:24:55.799 --> 00:24:59.200
can understand too, you know, after having your child and

526
00:24:59.200 --> 00:25:02.160
and y'all have in that amazing connection and then writing

527
00:25:02.200 --> 00:25:05.359
this story and kind of it really is, you know,

528
00:25:05.400 --> 00:25:07.640
the healing of your inner child, because I do believe

529
00:25:08.160 --> 00:25:13.759
that the stronger the soul is oftentimes the more struggles

530
00:25:13.839 --> 00:25:14.519
that we have.

531
00:25:16.359 --> 00:25:19.359
Oh that's a good one, yeah, because I feel like

532
00:25:19.400 --> 00:25:22.319
I'm a pretty old soul and so I've been around

533
00:25:22.319 --> 00:25:25.559
a while and it's not my first rodeo, So I

534
00:25:25.559 --> 00:25:28.680
would agree with that, and I believe that.

535
00:25:28.880 --> 00:25:31.160
And I've had clients even say, you know, why would

536
00:25:31.160 --> 00:25:32.759
this happen? Why would this happen you to the loss

537
00:25:32.799 --> 00:25:35.119
of a parent or at a very young age, or

538
00:25:35.160 --> 00:25:37.079
you know, like an auto accident where you almost die,

539
00:25:37.160 --> 00:25:37.920
and you know.

540
00:25:37.839 --> 00:25:38.559
These types of things.

541
00:25:38.599 --> 00:25:40.920
And I really do feel that when we come back

542
00:25:40.960 --> 00:25:43.319
into this lifetime, and I know that many of you

543
00:25:43.359 --> 00:25:44.559
that I have been listening to my show for a

544
00:25:44.559 --> 00:25:47.160
while agree with this type of thought process is that

545
00:25:47.279 --> 00:25:51.400
you go through processes and things that really reveal your

546
00:25:51.480 --> 00:25:54.680
your not only the struggle, but it reveals your power.

547
00:25:55.440 --> 00:25:58.720
And it's sometimes hard, and that's always given me at

548
00:25:58.799 --> 00:26:00.960
least a little bit of piece in dealing with it,

549
00:26:01.039 --> 00:26:04.000
because otherwise it's like, woy, why am I experiencing this?

550
00:26:04.599 --> 00:26:06.640
And then you look at someone else's life and we

551
00:26:06.960 --> 00:26:10.000
can't really categorize it or or say oh it's easier

552
00:26:10.079 --> 00:26:11.839
or heart because we're not in those people's shoes. But

553
00:26:11.880 --> 00:26:14.279
sometimes it can look like somebody's life is a lot easier,

554
00:26:14.680 --> 00:26:17.119
and that can be challenging, right, I mean, especially when

555
00:26:17.160 --> 00:26:18.480
you're going through these challenges.

556
00:26:21.000 --> 00:26:21.799
Yes, definitely.

557
00:26:21.839 --> 00:26:24.279
And I would be lying if I said I wasn't,

558
00:26:24.319 --> 00:26:27.160
you know, after my car accident, kind of feeling sorry

559
00:26:27.200 --> 00:26:29.799
for myself and saying like why me, I'm a good person,

560
00:26:29.880 --> 00:26:31.680
you know, why did I have to be there at

561
00:26:31.680 --> 00:26:33.160
that exact moment in time? You know?

562
00:26:33.720 --> 00:26:35.920
But now, years and years.

563
00:26:35.799 --> 00:26:37.480
Later, I can look back and almost say that that

564
00:26:37.599 --> 00:26:40.680
was a gift given to me because if that hadn't happened,

565
00:26:40.759 --> 00:26:43.279
so many other things in my life through struggle that

566
00:26:43.319 --> 00:26:46.039
I've realized wouldn't have wouldn't be here now, and I

567
00:26:46.039 --> 00:26:48.960
wouldn't be who I am. And so, you know, everybody

568
00:26:49.079 --> 00:26:51.880
has challenges and struggles. I'm no different. It's just how

569
00:26:51.920 --> 00:26:54.400
we choose to handle them. Is I think what is

570
00:26:54.440 --> 00:26:56.920
important and what makes us stronger in the end.

571
00:26:58.160 --> 00:27:00.000
Very true, and that's and that's interesting.

572
00:27:00.000 --> 00:27:02.200
So after you so after the accident, and the loss

573
00:27:02.240 --> 00:27:05.799
of your of your unborn children how much. So, so

574
00:27:05.880 --> 00:27:08.559
what was the time period after that you that you

575
00:27:08.599 --> 00:27:11.599
wrote basically the you know what would what would end

576
00:27:11.720 --> 00:27:14.200
up being The Adventures of Snugs.

577
00:27:14.799 --> 00:27:15.920
Oh gosh.

578
00:27:15.960 --> 00:27:18.240
So I wrote that when my daughter was two and so,

579
00:27:18.480 --> 00:27:21.400
and I wrote it probably twenty seventeen, in between twenty

580
00:27:21.480 --> 00:27:22.519
seventeen and eighteen.

581
00:27:22.920 --> 00:27:24.480
This is when I actually originally wrote it.

582
00:27:24.519 --> 00:27:25.960
And like I said, I just put it on some

583
00:27:26.039 --> 00:27:29.200
paper and I did it with markers and read it

584
00:27:29.240 --> 00:27:30.519
for us, and then I put it in a drawer

585
00:27:30.559 --> 00:27:31.359
and forgot about it.

586
00:27:32.079 --> 00:27:36.960
Wow. And then what was the moment when And it

587
00:27:37.039 --> 00:27:39.000
might not have been exactly the moment that you opened

588
00:27:39.000 --> 00:27:41.839
the drawer and pulled the manuscript out and you know, decide,

589
00:27:41.880 --> 00:27:43.799
but what was the moment or what was the turning

590
00:27:43.839 --> 00:27:46.799
point when you were like, you know what, this isn't

591
00:27:46.839 --> 00:27:48.079
going to stay in a drawer anymore.

592
00:27:49.000 --> 00:27:52.079
Yes, So it wasn't just one thing. But as I mentioned,

593
00:27:52.119 --> 00:27:53.960
I take a lot of classes and things, and one

594
00:27:54.079 --> 00:27:56.759
teacher said, to find your true purpose and what makes

595
00:27:56.799 --> 00:27:59.359
you happy is to look back when you were a child,

596
00:27:59.599 --> 00:28:02.240
what you enjoy just for fun, and when there wasn't

597
00:28:02.240 --> 00:28:06.119
any you know time limits or you know, agendas or anything.

598
00:28:06.160 --> 00:28:08.200
You just did it for pure happiness and joy. And

599
00:28:08.240 --> 00:28:11.079
one of mine was writing and drawing and art.

600
00:28:10.960 --> 00:28:11.680
And things like that.

601
00:28:11.759 --> 00:28:15.319
And and then I decided, you know, I love when

602
00:28:15.519 --> 00:28:17.799
my daughter was little to read to her in that

603
00:28:17.839 --> 00:28:20.759
connected time, and I thought maybe other people might like

604
00:28:21.119 --> 00:28:22.559
the story I have written. And I was like, I

605
00:28:22.559 --> 00:28:27.799
already had one. I've already created art in written a book,

606
00:28:27.920 --> 00:28:32.039
but I'm afraid to share it. So from taking that class,

607
00:28:32.079 --> 00:28:35.160
and then I just decided, you know what, I'm just

608
00:28:35.200 --> 00:28:37.519
going to do it. I'm just gonna like pull the

609
00:28:37.519 --> 00:28:40.440
trigger and just just see what happens.

610
00:28:41.319 --> 00:28:42.799
Very cool, very cool.

611
00:28:43.480 --> 00:28:46.079
And I understand because anytime you're putting yourself out there,

612
00:28:46.119 --> 00:28:48.839
it is I mean, I understand, I get it. You know,

613
00:28:49.000 --> 00:28:50.759
I do it every day, and it's it's you know,

614
00:28:50.799 --> 00:28:52.720
you're put yourself out there like okay, here we go,

615
00:28:53.400 --> 00:28:56.319
you know, I mean, but you do the processing of it.

616
00:28:56.359 --> 00:28:58.160
And then I do think that as you begin to

617
00:28:58.200 --> 00:29:01.440
put more of your work out there, the easier it

618
00:29:01.519 --> 00:29:03.400
is to continue to go down that pathway.

619
00:29:05.680 --> 00:29:08.039
Yes, I'm a very shy, introverted person.

620
00:29:08.319 --> 00:29:11.279
I'm private, so like even doing this podcast is really

621
00:29:11.559 --> 00:29:13.279
like a stretch for me, and I've been trying to

622
00:29:13.319 --> 00:29:15.960
do more and more. But I think it's amazing, Like

623
00:29:16.000 --> 00:29:19.240
how many followers you have and as much as you

624
00:29:19.240 --> 00:29:22.039
put yourself out there over the years, I think that's awesome.

625
00:29:22.279 --> 00:29:25.319
So yeah, but it isn't easy.

626
00:29:26.400 --> 00:29:28.480
It's not it's not and it's interesting.

627
00:29:28.480 --> 00:29:31.000
So you have y'all writing the second book, which is great,

628
00:29:31.039 --> 00:29:35.279
and so your daughter is so she's getting like super

629
00:29:35.279 --> 00:29:38.319
you know, being able to put her super creative ideas

630
00:29:38.319 --> 00:29:41.720
out there. And I bet that's really interesting to watch

631
00:29:41.759 --> 00:29:45.279
too as she begins to kind of blossom as this creator,

632
00:29:45.880 --> 00:29:46.960
creative person.

633
00:29:48.200 --> 00:29:50.000
Oh my gosh, I'm so proud of her. She is

634
00:29:50.039 --> 00:29:52.240
far I mean, I'm a pretty creative person, but she

635
00:29:52.359 --> 00:29:55.480
is far beyond me. For years and she has been

636
00:29:55.519 --> 00:29:58.039
creating stuff. I have it all over my house. I

637
00:29:58.119 --> 00:30:00.240
keep everything she makes because I just think it's a amazing.

638
00:30:00.359 --> 00:30:03.519
But of course i'm her mom, so I'm biased. But

639
00:30:03.519 --> 00:30:08.119
but yes, this book, she illustrated the whole thing and

640
00:30:08.160 --> 00:30:10.599
then we you know, co created the story or co

641
00:30:10.680 --> 00:30:13.680
wrote the story together and then kind of put it

642
00:30:13.680 --> 00:30:17.319
all together. And then we have several more stories listed

643
00:30:17.359 --> 00:30:19.079
that are going to be in the future of just

644
00:30:19.200 --> 00:30:21.440
ideas and stuff that we have jotted down. So yeah,

645
00:30:21.440 --> 00:30:23.640
she's highly creative and I'm super proud of her.

646
00:30:24.400 --> 00:30:25.039
That's amazing.

647
00:30:25.079 --> 00:30:27.160
And and I mean, you know, and most of this

648
00:30:27.240 --> 00:30:29.920
goes right back to you, right because if you hadn't

649
00:30:29.920 --> 00:30:32.640
have done this and put it out there, you know,

650
00:30:33.319 --> 00:30:36.160
maybe the dialogue between you two would be very different.

651
00:30:38.640 --> 00:30:40.759
Possibly, I mean it's hard to tell, but yeah, like

652
00:30:40.799 --> 00:30:43.039
I said, when I was watching her grow and trying

653
00:30:43.039 --> 00:30:45.519
to teach her to express her emotions and her feelings

654
00:30:45.519 --> 00:30:48.200
and her doubts and and her fears, you know, I

655
00:30:48.240 --> 00:30:50.359
have the same dots and fears, and so how can

656
00:30:50.400 --> 00:30:52.640
I expect her to do those if I can't do them.

657
00:30:52.759 --> 00:30:56.160
So we were kind of both learning and growing as

658
00:30:56.400 --> 00:30:59.359
as she has been, I guess I could say. So, yeah,

659
00:30:59.400 --> 00:31:02.359
it's been an interest process, but it's brought us together

660
00:31:02.480 --> 00:31:04.640
and I'm just so excited for it.

661
00:31:05.319 --> 00:31:07.200
And one of the things that I find that's awesome

662
00:31:07.240 --> 00:31:10.279
that you talked about yesterday was you know you really

663
00:31:10.359 --> 00:31:13.559
enjoyed just reading to you to your daughter, and how

664
00:31:14.119 --> 00:31:16.680
you know, just this book alone and the connection will

665
00:31:16.720 --> 00:31:21.079
bring other parents and children together just in a moment

666
00:31:21.160 --> 00:31:23.880
where they can have a moment of peace and be

667
00:31:24.000 --> 00:31:26.559
able to you know, spend time together. I think is

668
00:31:26.640 --> 00:31:28.960
relatively why you wrote this book and publish it.

669
00:31:31.000 --> 00:31:31.519
Definitely.

670
00:31:32.000 --> 00:31:34.039
I started reading to my daughter when she was three

671
00:31:34.079 --> 00:31:36.319
months old, when I would be feeding her at night,

672
00:31:36.440 --> 00:31:40.519
rocking her, even though she couldn't obviously read or you know, speak,

673
00:31:40.559 --> 00:31:42.440
but I just felt it was very important, and I

674
00:31:42.519 --> 00:31:45.160
read her three books every night until now she can

675
00:31:45.200 --> 00:31:47.759
read chapter of books and you know, graphic novels, and

676
00:31:47.799 --> 00:31:48.960
she's an excellent reader.

677
00:31:48.960 --> 00:31:53.359
But that time reading other people's stories.

678
00:31:53.000 --> 00:31:54.839
And connecting with it, like I would laugh and some

679
00:31:54.880 --> 00:31:56.400
of them I would cry, and I love I love

680
00:31:56.480 --> 00:31:58.839
those books and sharing that time with her and it

681
00:31:58.880 --> 00:32:00.759
was just her and I together alone, and I just

682
00:32:00.799 --> 00:32:03.599
think that quality connected time is so important as a parent.

683
00:32:05.480 --> 00:32:06.279
It's very important.

684
00:32:06.319 --> 00:32:09.119
And then you know, to have quality content too as well,

685
00:32:09.799 --> 00:32:12.519
that you know serves a even higher purpose.

686
00:32:15.680 --> 00:32:18.960
Yes, definitely, especially in today's world that we live in

687
00:32:19.039 --> 00:32:22.200
with so many crazy things going on and technology and

688
00:32:22.920 --> 00:32:26.000
social media and video games and things that kids are

689
00:32:26.000 --> 00:32:29.319
exposed to, I think it's highly important to have quality

690
00:32:29.359 --> 00:32:30.759
content to share with your children.

691
00:32:31.799 --> 00:32:34.279
I completely agree with you. And having that time and

692
00:32:34.319 --> 00:32:37.680
having that moment and being able to also help positively

693
00:32:38.039 --> 00:32:41.200
healthy shape your child. And I think that's something too

694
00:32:41.640 --> 00:32:44.640
that really, you know, kind of comes to pass when

695
00:32:44.680 --> 00:32:47.000
you're talking about the adventures of snugs, because it's something

696
00:32:47.039 --> 00:32:51.119
that can create a basis of a healthy childhood.

697
00:32:52.599 --> 00:32:52.960
Thank you.

698
00:32:53.039 --> 00:32:55.759
Yes, that is my hope that people will get that

699
00:32:55.880 --> 00:32:57.799
out of it and connect to the story that way.

700
00:32:59.039 --> 00:33:00.440
And you've said that a lot of you will come

701
00:33:00.480 --> 00:33:04.200
to you about having their own security blankets.

702
00:33:04.240 --> 00:33:04.799
That's awesome.

703
00:33:04.880 --> 00:33:06.720
So you've had lots of adults tell you about their

704
00:33:06.720 --> 00:33:08.240
security blankets.

705
00:33:08.559 --> 00:33:09.400
Oh immediately.

706
00:33:09.519 --> 00:33:12.079
I've had them like show me on zoom calls they

707
00:33:12.079 --> 00:33:14.079
go and get it. I've had them tell me, oh, yeah,

708
00:33:14.079 --> 00:33:16.039
I still have it in my closet, or my husband

709
00:33:16.160 --> 00:33:17.599
had it and I made him get rid of it,

710
00:33:17.720 --> 00:33:20.279
or you know, I've heard all kinds of stories, and

711
00:33:20.359 --> 00:33:22.519
so I just I love hearing about that. It really

712
00:33:22.559 --> 00:33:24.319
touches my heart and it's made it all worth it

713
00:33:24.359 --> 00:33:26.920
for me that not only can kids.

714
00:33:26.640 --> 00:33:29.200
Relate, because they they'll tell me too, Oh, I have

715
00:33:29.319 --> 00:33:31.759
my my boogey bear or whatever they call it, you know,

716
00:33:31.960 --> 00:33:34.960
my whatever name. They always give it a name, and

717
00:33:34.960 --> 00:33:35.680
they always keep it.

718
00:33:35.720 --> 00:33:38.000
They can't get rid of it, and so I just

719
00:33:38.119 --> 00:33:40.720
love that they can connect with that on an emotional level.

720
00:33:41.640 --> 00:33:42.200
That's cool.

721
00:33:42.599 --> 00:33:45.440
That's cool, and it brings out and I think that's

722
00:33:45.440 --> 00:33:47.519
a big thing. Is like, it's great for the kids,

723
00:33:47.559 --> 00:33:49.440
you know in the book, but it's also great for

724
00:33:49.480 --> 00:33:52.000
the adults, you know, especially when they had that situation

725
00:33:52.039 --> 00:33:53.880
and that experience, to be able to kind of relive

726
00:33:53.960 --> 00:33:54.519
that a little bit.

727
00:33:54.519 --> 00:33:56.079
And it's a little bit about the inner child.

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Yes, I totally agree, And I just love that. I

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wasn't expecting that when I, you know, wrote it and

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put it out there, but it's been a great you know,

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it really touches my heart.

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So.

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It touches mine too, and I think that's that's pretty

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amazing and having that And.

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I think the security blanket too, even if.

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You didn't have like an actual blanky, I think it

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it's just having that comfortability you know that you're not alone, right,

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that you're not alone, You're not in this by yourself.

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Yes, And since I've put this book out and everything,

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I've done a lot of research about it, and some

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people are for them and some people are against them.

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But you know, from the research that I've done, it

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gives children security and independence, like going to school for

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the first time, you know, away from Mom for the

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first time, going to Grandma's house for the first time overnight.

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You know, it can make them feel secure and safe

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to have just a little something with them, whether it's

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a bear or a pillow or a blanky, you know.

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So I'm a big believer in it.

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I am too, and I think it's always good to

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have security and it's always good to feel secure, and

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it's not a bad thing.

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It's like, we don't have to go on this alone.

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It's like it's like, you know, getting lost and asking

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for directions, it doesn't make you a bad person. It

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just makes you somebody that wants to get there faster

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without continuing to get lost exactly.

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And we all you know, it's as I said, it's

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a tough world out there, and there's a lot of

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challenges that come our way. So if a little blanky

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or stuff being well can help you get through, and

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then why not, you know.

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I agree with you.

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When we return Ashley and are going to be talking more,

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She's going to also give us some of her nuggets

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of golden wisdom that we can also take forth with us,

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because it takes a village, and it's really important when

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we go through this process and a knowledge the fact

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of our inner child and help our family and help

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the kiddos, and really, you know, you get to a

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point where we are being able to talk openly and

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we are being able to.

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Express our emotions in a positive way. And so I

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feel like this has been very helpful. So we'll be

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right back in just a few moments. Please don't change

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the channel. Literature Life Perspective with your host me Ashley

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purchasall be back in.

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I'll be back this time and two shakes.

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Get in here. You're listening to Perspectives with Ashley Burgess.

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Welcome back, love to look at your life perspectives and

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I'm your host, Ashley Burgess. On today's show, we've been

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talking with Ashley donnaghan and now it's time. She's the

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creator of Adventures of Snugs and more books to come.

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Now it's time to discuss Ashley's golden wisdom knowledge nuggets

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of wisdom that she brings to the table because it

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takes a village for us to live our life and

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to be successful, and so Ashley, please let us know

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some of the thoughts that you're having your deep thoughts

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to share with us today.

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Yeah, so I would just say for me, for parents

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to really work on yourself and expressing and feeling your

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own emotions so that way you can be a better parent,

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show your children how to express and feel their emotions,

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and have a safe space for them to do that.

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We all want to feel seen and heard, and so

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that's what I would say is a big thing. And

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having a connected time with your child or they feel

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safe to do that. Another one I would say is

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to be flexible, but also have structure and routine for

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children because that makes them feel safe and secure. But

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flexibility because sometimes things come up and challenges and we

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have to sort of learn how to navigate them and

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know life isn't easy, so we just have to remain

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flexible and go with the flow, but also give them

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the structure that they need. So yeah, I would say

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those things.

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00:37:42.719 --> 00:37:46.079
I love that flexibility, structure and routine is great. And

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structure routine does help create security, it prevents anxiety and stress.

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00:37:52.079 --> 00:37:55.159
But you're right, being able to be flexible when necessary

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is definitely important. How do you know kind of when

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to be more flexible or how do you how do

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you kind of figure that out, oh.

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Gosh, I mean for me, just kind of as you go.

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Because one of my favorite sayings or one that I've

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come to love is that the only thing constant in

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life is change. And when you can accept that that,

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you know, you're not gonna able to control everything, and

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stuff happens and as it comes up, you just have

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to you know, we don't know everything, we don't have

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a handbook as parents. We just have to go with

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the flow, and you know, it can't always be a

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certain way. And so if you can do that, I

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can help kind of calm anxieties down a little bit

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and just go with it.

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That's life, you know.

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That makes sense. That definitely makes sense.

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And you're right, change is a constant and that's something

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that we have to deal with, sometimes overwhelming, but definitely

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a constant. Yes, So where do we find Where can

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we find you on social media as well as well

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as where can we buy the book?

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Yeah?

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00:38:52.639 --> 00:38:55.159
So I have my website one Mama's Heart dot com.

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I'm on Facebook and Instagram. You can buy the book

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through my website and also the paperback version is on Amazon.

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The one coming up hopefully will be out by the

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end of this year the second book that my daughter

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co wrote and illustrated, So that's coming soon.

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Perfect awesome, and that's great. And if you're listening to

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the radio, check that out. And if you're listening later

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on the podcast, we'll have this in the description as well,

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so you can go on and click on that in

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the description and go directly to the website and what

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have you. I have enjoyed so much, you know, talking

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with you today, Ashley. It's just a wealth of knowledge

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00:39:35.239 --> 00:39:39.559
and just really a really fun and amazing kind of

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00:39:39.559 --> 00:39:42.199
connection not only for a child, but also for that

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00:39:42.280 --> 00:39:45.039
inner child that you know, us adults are trying to,

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you know, to connect with.

850
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Again. I think that's so powerful.

851
00:39:49.719 --> 00:39:51.760
Well, thank you so much. I really enjoyed talking with

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you too, Ashley.

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It's amazing and I just enjoy it.

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I'm looking forward to the next book as well, can't

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wait to see that. I know that's going to be

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awesome with you and your daughter writing that together. And

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then I'm sure that you have lots of things on

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the horizon that you're talking about doing as well.

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Yes, we have many more books to come, and so

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I'm just super excited to find time to work on

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those with my daughter.

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We were very busy with school.

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And you know what, not work, but but we're going

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to find time and get those out shortly.

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Awesome, Ashley, thank you so much for coming on the show.

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Wonderful and I'm going to share this with everybody and

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I appreciate it and for everybody that's listening. You know,

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it is about connecting with your children. It is about

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having those conversations. It's about you know, talking about emotions, processing,

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helping going through those challenging times. It's about also connecting

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with our inner child. And as we can see, Ashley's

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doing that herself right now as she's going through the

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process of putting this stuff out there, being creative and

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you know.

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Being public about it.

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And I think everybody has something within them that they

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can do that as well. To check out and to

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00:40:55.599 --> 00:40:57.719
listen to past shows, you know, you can listen anywhere

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on Apple, podcast, to Spreaker, to Spotify. Also, don't forget

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to check out the YouTube channel. New content every week

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on YouTube. Just go to YouTube life Coach Ashley Burgess

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and subscribe to the channel.

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When you get a chance.

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In the meantime, connect with your inner child, find a

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way to communicate your emotions, be able to open your

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arms to your own personal emotions, and also connect with

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your family. It's very powerful and it takes a village,

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you know, reach out to your family and friends, you know,

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reconnect with people.

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It's time.

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