Dec. 27, 2024

New Year's Eve FOMO: Avoid the Letdown and Hype and Start a Fresh Year. [Ep. 783]

New Year's Eve FOMO: Avoid the Letdown and Hype and Start a Fresh Year. [Ep. 783]

Are you feeling New Year’s Eve FOMO creeping in? Every year, all the pomp and circumstance leading up to New Year's celebrations can make us feel like we are missing out. Some of us love the evening, and others deplore it. Perhaps you used to love it,...

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Are you feeling New Year’s Eve FOMO creeping in? Every year, all the pomp and circumstance leading up to New Year's celebrations can make us feel like we are missing out. Some of us love the evening, and others deplore it. Perhaps you used to love it, but as time has gone on, you have realized that it’s over-hyped and just another night in the books. Maybe you have been jaded by a previous experience and do not want to repeat it. Listen to this podcast to get real how-to ways to get over disappointment past NYE events, avoid falling for all the New Year’s Eve hype, be able to stop overvaluing this one night a year, and learn how to put all of this into perspective to better your life. Join me today as I discuss what you can do to not get let down by New Year’s Eve and start the first day of the New Year on a positive note.




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You're in a good place now. You are listening to

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Perspectives with Ashley Burgess.

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Welcome back Live to Live Your True Life Perspectives and

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I'm your host, Ashley Burgess.

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New Year's Eve, New Year's Eve.

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Day, and New Year's Eve Night a very interesting twenty

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four hours in the calendar. And some of you love it,

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you revere it, You can't wait to December thirty first,

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while others of you hate it, can't stand it, wish

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the day was erased off the calendar completely, and we

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start with January one. And I understand, and I'm somewhere

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in the middle. I used to love it, revere it. Oh,

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we couldn't have enough parties, we couldn't have enough people.

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It's going to be a blast. It's amazing. We're gonna

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have so much fun. But then that changes over time,

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and as it changes over time, things change, and schedules change,

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and people's plans change, and all those things happen. And

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one of the things that I think that many of

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us deal with is the stress and anxiety from what

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happened last year. So maybe there were some plans that

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you had last year that were supposed to happen and

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come into fruition and they did not, and that could

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be really challenging as well, because you remember the disappointments,

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the expectations that happened last year, and you remember it

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all go to shit. I remember back last year, it

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wasn't a horrible New Year's Eve, but it definitely was

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not the best New Year's Eve. And it was interesting

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because everything had been planned, and it had been planned

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for like six weeks, and I even had friends that

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called me initially to set up the plans. They wanted

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to do this, and so I went and got the reservations. Actually,

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you know, I actually went and checked the restaurant, you know,

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hours before, to make sure the table that they had

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us sat at.

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All this stuff. We were going to go to a

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party after.

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That one couple had been invited to that had invited

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everybody else and it was going to be four couples,

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eight people total, and things were all great.

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Everything was great.

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Until the thirtieth and one couple had just gotten back

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in from out of town, and unfortunately they had gotten

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COVID coming back. And I understand that, but you know,

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it's unfortunate and you feel bad, and they were definitely

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down for the count fevers in bed, feeling horrible. But

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we you know, you look back and you go, Okay,

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I hope you all get better. But we have, you know,

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six people that are gonna have fun. And one of

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the couples that was obviously still going was you know,

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had this great party after that they were invited to you,

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and you know, they had told the hosts that, you know,

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we would all be going, and so that was going

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to be super good, super fun, and so I was

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looking forward to that. One of the couples called me

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and said, hey, we can't wait, can't wait.

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To see you.

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And about four thirty five o'clock in the afternoon, I

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get a text from one person saying, I'm sorry, we're

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not going to be able to make it. You know,

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our dog got sick. You know, actually her husband's dog

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got sick, and they're not going to be able to

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make it. And so it's hours before literally the reservations

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were at seven thirty, and I said, hey, is there

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any way to get around it. I mean, I love animals,

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I love dogs. I get it, you know, And apparently

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the dog had been ill for the last few days,

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and I understand that, but it was just very challenging

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because now we're down to four and now that the

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you know, the the party invitation, it's still there, but

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it's not the same when you go to someone's house

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and they don't really know you.

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So that's not really going to work out.

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So now we're down to the eating, and that's really

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it because I don't want to go to someone's house

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I don't really know, not that I don't make friends

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very easily and everything, but again, it's just kind of

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odd on New Year's and it was really kind of challenging,

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and we all made the best out of it, but

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we ended up going home early, around ten thirty after dinner,

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called it a night.

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And you look back at a lot of.

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These years and a lot of these years, there are disappointments.

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There is you know, stress, you know, like getting that

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text message and saying, hey, you know, if you can

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really you know, double check rechecking, I'd love to have

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you for dinner, even if we just go to dinner

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and y'all head home, you know, And that didn't change,

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And so it becomes challenging. And I know that many

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of you out there have gone through the same You've

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gone through the same anxiety and stress on New Year's

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trying to make it the best day possible. Going through

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the process, things fall through the cracks, and the next thing,

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you know, you're just desperate, you know, having another drink

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and saying, when is it going to be?

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January first? Already?

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And I think a lot of the reasons why we

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feel this way is, first off, December thirty first has

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too much hype.

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It has way too much hype. You know.

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The hype is you know, off the charts, and it's

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it's hard because you really can't ever get it right.

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And I've had experience on New Year's back in the

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day when I was younger and having a lot more fun,

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you know, and there were fun times, there were great times,

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but even then, you know, you know, the morning comes around,

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you wake up, you know, you go to bed, you

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wake up, you feel bad. You know, you go into

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January first not feeling that great and starting the new

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year kind of well, a little out of sorts. And

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so I find that the hype makes a lot of

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us over drink, over party, you know, a lot of

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you stay out longer or drink more than you ever

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would if it was just some you know, other day.

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And I think that's a big problem that.

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Kind of comes along with December thirty first, And I

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think that some people you know have troubles during the

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holiday season already because it can be challenging. Maybe you're

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not with your family, or you just lost a loved one,

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or you just lost a spouse, or you just went

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through a divorce.

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Whatever the case may be, it might be challenging.

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And then we end it on this overly hyped up,

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it's supposed to be amazing day that for many people

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just does not pay off that way. It just doesn't

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work that way. And so how do we overcome that?

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How do we get past that? How do we get

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past falling for this hype? How do we get past

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overvaluing this one night a year? How do we stop

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doing that in order to better our lives? How do

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we stop doing that in order to better ourselves? How

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do we stop doing that to have a better year

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coming into the very next day? And that's what I

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think needs to be on our hierarchy is that what

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you know?

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What is our hierarchy of needs? You know?

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And how do we create and facilitate the best situation?

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And I think a lot of times our energy in

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these situations are all placed on the wrong places, the

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wrong things, the wrong situations, the wrong spaces. It's just

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our energy is not placed properly. Our energy is placed

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into things that maybe we can control, maybe we can't control.

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Our energy is misplaced in many levels. Our energy is

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misplaced in the things that well, quite frankly, our hype.

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It is stuff that we can never really attain and

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if we even do attain. And I've had a few

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New Years that got close to you know, it was wow,

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it was wild. There's always something though, it's like it's

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like a roads, it's got thorns. There's always a problem.

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There's always something. But it was closer to being less

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problems and more problems. But then that also leads to

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another situation too, because then you start judging and comparing

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every other New Year's to that one that was amazing,

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and you can't ever get there. So it's like that

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that comparison also is a problem that we have to

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You look back and you go, oh, man, I remember,

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you know New Year's you know, twenty twelve was the

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best of my life.

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That was so amazing.

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We had so much fun and we all did this

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and that it was so much and then you like,

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compare every single year, and every year is gonna fall short.

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Every year is gonna fall short compared to that. So

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if we compare it, that's going to be a problem.

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And I think a lot of us are dealing with fomo.

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I think fomo is huge. You know, the fear of

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missing out, the fear of missing out, the fear of

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missing out on the big party, the big plans, all

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the fun. You know, like everybody else is gonna have

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all this fun, and I'm not gonna have this fun.

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If I stay home, I'm the only person on the

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planet that's staying home for New Year's Eve. If I

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don't drink, I'm the only person on the planet that's

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not drinking. You know, it's all these thoughts, Oh, all

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these people are gonna have all this fun, all these

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people are going to experience all this What about me.

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I'm not going to experience that, Oh my gosh.

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And I get it.

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The fear of missing out is a huge thing when

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it comes to the human condition, and we fear that

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on many levels, not just New Year's right. The fear

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of missing out is like every party, relationships that you

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think are better than you, and you know, your husband

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or your wife or your you know, your significant other.

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You know, you look at other people and you, oh, gosh,

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they must have the best relationship in the world. I'm

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missing out, you know. The fear of missing out. And

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New Year's Eve, I think is the pinnacle of fomo.

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It's the pinnacle of pomo because everybody's like, oh wow,

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what are they doing? You look on Instagram and you

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see somebody partying at a big party and Aspen, you know,

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and the drinks are flowing and the champagne's going and

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everything's going on, and it looks fabulous. You see, you know,

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people you know partying Dubai people party in here, people

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partying there, taking private jets all over the place, and

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you're like, wow, you know, that's the life.

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And then you.

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Compare that to you, Well, here I am. I'm in

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town trying to get a few people together. I already

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had a few people cancel. You know what am I

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going to do? What is this New Year's going to

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look like? Compared to other people's New Years? And I

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think it's not just the New Year's thing. It's not

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just like, oh my god, my New Year's party. You

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start like the Pomo starts to kind of kind of

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go over into next year, like, oh, if this is

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the way that my New Year's Eve is going to be,

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you know, you know, how is my year going to be?

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Is this gonna get better? Is this gonna get worse?

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How are things gonna work out for me? And it's hard,

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It really is hard to overcome that, FOMO. And I

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mean I had it last year a little bit because

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I was really disappointed. You know, the people that actually

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you know, canceled were the ones that pushed me into

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basically getting the reservations because I was thinking about just

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staying home and so, you know, you know, it's okay,

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it's fine, and then I invited another couple who was

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who was happy to come along as well. But it's

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hard when you find that out that information and other

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people are you know, hoping for you know, you know,

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quite the gathering as at least at least eight people

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at the table that people can communicate with and conversate

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and all that, which is great, and it turns into four.

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Not that that's a problem, but again it's expectations and

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that's a problem.

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And it's interesting too.

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Because you know, a few of those people that canceled

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last year are reaching out again this year, and I'm

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pretty gun shy honestly, because I don't I don't really

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want to go through that again. I don't want to

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deal with that again. It's definitely not something I want

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to deal with. However, you know, I will, you know,

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reach back out and see what that looks like. But

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I'm also thinking, should I just be in charge of

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my own domain? Should I just pick something that I

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want to do, make it happen, be cool with that,

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and move on, you know. And I was also thinking too,

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you know, I might just go out and do something

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on the first. I might change my entire situation around

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and look at life in a different manner and do

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something you know, very cool on the first that compliments

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and and and really inspires for my new year. And

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I think that that could also be a way that

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we take the energy off the fear of missing out,

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because you know how many people are diagnosed with FOMO

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every New Year's Eve, every every time coming up, because

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think about how much stress it adds to the holiday season.

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he works with us here at Liberature Life Institute, she

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was saying, oh, yeah, we already had plans. It's gonna

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be you know, ten couples and everybody's gonna go here.

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first I was happy for them, but then it was

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like the pomo, you know, showed up. That fomo came in.

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I was like, whoa, really, I already got plans. Oh wow,

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that's you know, that's pretty that's pretty great. You know

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how you already got a restaurant. Oh well, how'd you

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pull that off for that many people? I mean, I

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can't even find a reservation for two much less that.

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in the next couple of days they crumbled in front

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of their very eyes because somebody else said they couldn't go,

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somebody said they didn't want somebody's kids there. All these

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different things were going on, and so the plans changed

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from being all these people going and they're having this big, wonderful,

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you know, extravaganza, to nobody has any plans.

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And there was a part of me that felt bad

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for them, but a part of.

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Me that didn't honestly, because you know what it's like,

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wait a second, I don't have anything going on, and

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so when we think about fomo, it happens to the

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best of us. You know, no matter if you're a

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huge spiritual leader, it doesn't matter. Working on fomo is

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very important. But I feel like I do feel like

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NYE brings out the worst and everybody when it comes

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to fomo, it brings out the worst because it is

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so overly hyped. And when I return them, he starts

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talking about things that we can do to not be

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let down by New Year's Eve, things that we can

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do to not get let down, to not feel bad,

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to not beat ourselves up, and to literally turn the

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page to a new chapter where we do things differently

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this year and from here on out, we let go

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of fomo when it comes to New Year's Eve forever.

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So here, stay tuned, don't change the channel. We got

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a lot of stuff to talk about because we're gonna

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shrink the hype, We're gonna stop overvaluing this, and we

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are going to make the best of this time of

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year for us. Stay tuned, live your true life perspectives

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with your host, med Ashley Burgess.

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Will be back in I'll be back this time, you

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know it.

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In two shakes, turn it up and jump in the

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deep end on perspectives.

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Now here's Ashley.

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Welcome back live to Ligature Life Perspectives and I'm your host,

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Ashley Burgess. Let's not get let down by New Year's

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Eve this year. Let's stop putting all that energy and

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stop giving into all the hype. Let's take that back.

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Let's take our energy and our power back, so we

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don't have fomo. Fomo is at the absolute pinnacle of

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its worst on December thirty first, and I find that

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the lead up from Christmas and Hanaker whatever you're celebrating,

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the stress level begins to mount the closer we get

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to the thirty first, because all these people are doing

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this crazy stuff and people are going out and partying

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and taking trips and flying places and all this stuff.

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And you're like, wow, I'm home and uh, you know,

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and then you start questioning to do I have any friends?

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You know? Where are my friends? What am I doing?

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What can I do?

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And it's challenging and you start like figuring. You start

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trying to like put it all together. You try to

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start doing something, You try to put something together, try

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to cobble cobble something together, you know. I think that

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that's a great word, cobble when we try to cobble,

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you know, New Year's Eve, because it's like you really are.

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You're like, you're like, okay, hey are you home? Okay?

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Yeah, okay, you around, okay, Yeah, let's let's all let's

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do okay, you you in okay?

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And it's almost like in a roll call, and you're

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trying to figure out and you're exasperated. After a certain point,

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I don't even know what the hell I'm gonna do anymore.

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And you know, and that's when you're like, okay, what

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are we doing here? And I found that I feel

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like that anxiety and that stress, And I think a

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lot of people get sad, even it's not just fomo.

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I mean some of you get sad. You get sad,

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You get sadness around your years, even sad because it

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doesn't live up to the hype. You get sad because

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maybe you can't hang out with that person. You get

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sad because things have changed and augmented in your life

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and you're over there just like kind of thinking about it,

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thinking about it, thinking about it, you know, ruminating it,

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ruminating it, ruminating and those are things we don't want

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to do either. We don't want to ruminate in our

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sadness either. We want to really take our energy and

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try to figure out how do I take this energy

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do I have? How do I take this mental energy

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that I have and focus on something that can benefit

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me in a positive way that I can do to

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change my life and I can do to walk into

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January first feeling better, feeling more aware, feeling more on point.

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How do I do that? What do I do?

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And these are very very important questions to ask because

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if you're feeling like disappointed because many of us have

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the expectations, and then like what happened to me last year?

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Yes, I mean there were still folks there.

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But again it's like you know other people are involved,

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and you feel you know how other people are feeling too,

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because you're like, hey, I hate to relay the message,

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but I just found this out. And the hard thing

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was about that night in particular, is you know my

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one friends like, no, you know what, I'm gonna try

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to get down there. I'm gonna try to get down there.

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And things kept changing and so it was like hype

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and more hype and more hype, and then it was like, okay,

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well let's just go home. We ate great, great to

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see you, goodbye. And it just was like it was

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almost like the failure, like the night didn't you know,

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it didn't fly. It didn't it didn't go off, it

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went there was a hitch and and everybody kind of

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feels it because they want everything to be perfect and

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that fomo.

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It's like you look around and you go gush.

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You know, it would have been better if you know,

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maybe we should have just done individual things. Everybody just

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done their own dinner, you know, also a fomo you

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see you know some people having big parties.

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Oh they had this huge party. It's great.

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And it's like it's interesting because the issue that I

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have a lot of times during this type of situation

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is that part of me wants to kind of just

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do my own thing. I don't really want to deal

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with everything. I just want to do my own thing it.

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Some of me wants to see friends and hang out

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but it's like I kind of want to just kind

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of like not make such a big hype about it.

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It's like, why is it such a big deal. I mean,

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it's really any day and we have all these calendars

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in Gregoring, calendar, the Buddhist calendar, none of the calendars

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are the same. How do you even know it's the

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summer thirty first? Anyway, we're all just giving it all

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this accreditation and this credibility. This is actually the day,

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and it's actually the.

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Beginning of a year. It could be in the middle

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of the year. We don't know.

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I mean, we're falling hyped all this up and so

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kind of putting in perspective is the way that I

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want us to talk about here in.

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Just a bit.

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How do we do that? How do we really put

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this time and date and perspective. How do we begin

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to limit the stress level surrounding this date starting right now?

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And how do we augment that forever? Because I think

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if we can get a handle on this, the season

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actually feels better because there's not that big of a

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It's like, Okay, hey, I'm gonna celebrate Christmas or Hanukkah,

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but after that, I'm okay, I can just chill and

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I can just fly into the new year being successful

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and maintaining my motivation and working to be the best

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version of me I can be.

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Stay tuned, don't change the channel.

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Ligature life perspectives, with your host me Ashley Burgess, will

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be back in I'll be back this time and two shakes.

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This is Jake Busey and you're listening to Perspectives with

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Ashley Burgess.

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Welcome back live to Ligerture Life Perspectives and I'm your

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host Ashley Burgess. The letdown of New Year's Eve is

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very real, and it happens to most of us. Some

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of us revere the date, others of us hate the date.

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Some of us stress out about it in the build

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up of the expectations of what it's supposed to be

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and how it unravels in front of your very eyes.

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And not every year. There's some years you have a

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fabulous time. But then if you do have a fabulous time,

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you compare that fabulous time to every year after. And

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it's interesting how that works. And what I found is

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that there's so much hype surrounding December thirty first, and

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the build up to it is so overwhelming and stressful

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that many times we lose sight of what is important.

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We lose sight of what we need to do, we

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lose sight of where we need to go, we lose

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sight of what we should do, and so we get overwhelmed.

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We try to find friends, we recruit people.

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What are you doing? Are you in town? Let's do this,

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let's do that.

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And you start trying to organize something or you just

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give up and you're like, I don't want to do this.

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This is stressful.

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And you know, I'm deemed to be at home by

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myself alone for New Year's Eve, and these can be

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overwhelming feelings. And I find that Christmas or Hanukkah, whatever

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holiday that you you know, choose to celebrate, can be

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stressful around you know, the family and the dynamic and everything.

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But when you add the New Year's issue, and you

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add that thirty first in cause of stress, anxiety, fear,

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and it begins to become a problem. And I think

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if we can actually direct our energy in a different way,

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begin to see that day is just another day. And

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I'm not saying we devalue it. I'm just like, see

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it as another day. Like March first, do you go

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out and freak out and call your friends and try

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to figure out what you're gonna do on March first?

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Oh my god, it's March first. Oh my god, Oh

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my god, oh god, I got fomo oh I got

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so much fomo. Oh God, Oh what am I gonna do? Yeah?

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But the fear of missing out is such a big

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game player with this hype.

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It really is. I mean, it really is.

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And that's one of the big things is trying to

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remove that fomo because fomo really does leave like a

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bad taste in your mouth. Right. It's like everybody else

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is having a blast and here I am just sitting

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on my butt. Everybody else is doing this and having

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a big party, watching fireworks and doing this and doing that,

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and here I am having a beer. Yeah, And it's

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it's like really putting it in perspective. And so how

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do we begin to look at the big picture and

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take the hype out of this? How do we begin

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to look at the big picture and say, hey, does

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this really matter?

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You know?

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And I think one of the big things that I

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do is that helps me with issues in my life

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is I ask myself, is this going to be an

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issue in three days? And if I say yes, it's

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going to be an issue in three days, I'm still

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going to feel it. Is there going to be pain

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in three days?

471
00:22:34.880 --> 00:22:35.039
Yes?

472
00:22:35.480 --> 00:22:37.200
Is this going to be an issue in seven days?

473
00:22:37.240 --> 00:22:38.519
Am I still going to feel the pain?

474
00:22:39.039 --> 00:22:39.519
Probably not.

475
00:22:40.680 --> 00:22:41.920
I mean, you know, you got to think about it.

476
00:22:42.039 --> 00:22:43.240
Is this gonna be an issue in a month? Is

477
00:22:43.279 --> 00:22:44.480
this gonna be an issue in a year? You know,

478
00:22:44.480 --> 00:22:47.200
these are a way that I kind of relatively stress

479
00:22:47.240 --> 00:22:49.759
about things and put things in basically not stressed, but

480
00:22:49.799 --> 00:22:50.839
put things in perspective.

481
00:22:50.960 --> 00:22:52.279
You know, is this going to.

482
00:22:52.279 --> 00:22:53.920
Affect me for a year. Is this gonna affect me

483
00:22:53.960 --> 00:22:55.720
for six months? Is this gonna affect me for a month.

484
00:22:55.799 --> 00:22:57.880
Is this gonna affect me for two weeks? Is this

485
00:22:57.960 --> 00:23:00.839
gonna affect me for a day? What is the affect level?

486
00:23:02.640 --> 00:23:05.240
And I find that too. One of the things is

487
00:23:05.279 --> 00:23:09.119
that I find that, you know, the more we can

488
00:23:09.160 --> 00:23:12.640
actually focus inner and in ourselves and the internal energy

489
00:23:12.680 --> 00:23:15.240
and focusing on what is important to us, what we value.

490
00:23:16.680 --> 00:23:21.799
If we can focus on what we value, we take

491
00:23:22.200 --> 00:23:27.480
the energy out of it. We take the energy out

492
00:23:27.480 --> 00:23:33.480
of it, We deflate the thirty first. I don't I'm

493
00:23:33.480 --> 00:23:35.240
not trying to, you know, say oh we should hate

494
00:23:35.279 --> 00:23:36.400
on it, and all of a sudden, I'm just saying, hey,

495
00:23:36.480 --> 00:23:38.759
let's just put it in perspective. It's one day. There's

496
00:23:38.839 --> 00:23:41.440
all these calendars. You got the Gregorian calendar, the Buddhist calendar.

497
00:23:41.440 --> 00:23:43.279
You got allays calendar. We don't even know. I mean,

498
00:23:43.319 --> 00:23:45.559
we all think that it's December thirty, first coming up,

499
00:23:45.599 --> 00:23:46.960
and it may or may not be, who knows. But

500
00:23:47.000 --> 00:23:49.799
it's just a day, and it's a day to start

501
00:23:49.839 --> 00:23:52.160
another year. And you know, some of you say same shit,

502
00:23:52.200 --> 00:23:54.480
different day anyway, which I don't agree with because I

503
00:23:54.480 --> 00:23:55.480
think we need to be in the moment.

504
00:23:55.559 --> 00:23:57.599
But you know, it's just another day.

505
00:23:57.720 --> 00:23:59.720
So we kind of put in perspective, we look at, Okay,

506
00:23:59.759 --> 00:24:02.279
what is it that I really want to be doing tomorrow?

507
00:24:03.519 --> 00:24:08.799
What can I do to basically, you know, celebrate the

508
00:24:08.920 --> 00:24:14.000
last year, the last day of the year in a healthy,

509
00:24:14.160 --> 00:24:16.720
somewhat healthy manner. Because the other side of the coin too,

510
00:24:16.759 --> 00:24:20.799
as many of you are trying to stop something, you know,

511
00:24:20.839 --> 00:24:25.640
whether it's smoking or drinking or whatever it is, and

512
00:24:25.799 --> 00:24:27.599
you know, this is one of the hardest days to

513
00:24:27.640 --> 00:24:29.319
do that, I mean, and it's really hard to like

514
00:24:29.400 --> 00:24:31.960
stop something after you know, the night before you were

515
00:24:31.960 --> 00:24:38.279
like over indulging in that whatever that was. And so

516
00:24:38.400 --> 00:24:40.359
again it's like, are we going to put ourselves in

517
00:24:40.400 --> 00:24:44.480
the right trajectory for change? You know, are we going

518
00:24:44.599 --> 00:24:49.480
to put ourselves in the right mindset, you know, like

519
00:24:49.960 --> 00:24:55.920
you know, the correct mindset for change. And I think

520
00:24:55.960 --> 00:24:58.400
that's so important to think about, what is the correct

521
00:24:58.400 --> 00:24:59.240
mindset for change?

522
00:24:59.240 --> 00:25:00.000
How do we get there?

523
00:25:00.039 --> 00:25:04.000
And I know that, you know, I know that, you know,

524
00:25:04.119 --> 00:25:07.000
like you know, spending all night being sick and throwing

525
00:25:07.079 --> 00:25:09.599
up is definitely not the mindset for change, right, I mean,

526
00:25:09.640 --> 00:25:12.799
that's that. And I know that some of y'all have

527
00:25:12.839 --> 00:25:14.640
been there, and I know we've all been there. Let's

528
00:25:14.640 --> 00:25:16.559
just be honest with it. But I mean, that's not

529
00:25:16.599 --> 00:25:19.240
where I want to be come, you know, one to

530
00:25:19.319 --> 00:25:21.759
one thinking about where I want to be at. That's

531
00:25:21.759 --> 00:25:23.039
not where I want to be in my life. That's

532
00:25:23.039 --> 00:25:24.720
not where I want to be at when I wake

533
00:25:24.799 --> 00:25:28.480
up going oh God, oh help me, please please. You know,

534
00:25:28.920 --> 00:25:31.279
I'll go around and tell everybody never to drink God

535
00:25:31.440 --> 00:25:33.680
save me, help me. I don't want to be there.

536
00:25:33.680 --> 00:25:35.640
That's not where I want to personally be. So how

537
00:25:35.680 --> 00:25:38.000
do you make sure that you don't go there? How

538
00:25:38.000 --> 00:25:40.559
do you make sure that you actually enjoyed some degree?

539
00:25:40.559 --> 00:25:43.720
It's not about like, oh, let's just shut down and

540
00:25:43.759 --> 00:25:45.920
act like it doesn't exist, go to bed at eight

541
00:25:45.920 --> 00:25:49.119
o'clock and call tonight. That's not what I'm saying, but

542
00:25:49.200 --> 00:25:51.720
I think that there has to be some sort of

543
00:25:52.799 --> 00:26:00.880
personal ceremony perhaps where you you know, you sit there

544
00:26:00.880 --> 00:26:03.640
and you go, Okay, hey, you know, I look at

545
00:26:03.680 --> 00:26:07.559
some of the things that I'm grateful for. You know,

546
00:26:07.680 --> 00:26:12.559
I acknowledge, I acknowledge what I am grateful for.

547
00:26:13.960 --> 00:26:15.079
I think that's a good one.

548
00:26:15.440 --> 00:26:19.880
You know, maybe you also acknowledge the pain you had,

549
00:26:20.839 --> 00:26:23.000
maybe some of the suffering you went through this year.

550
00:26:23.039 --> 00:26:24.319
I'm not saying that we don't.

551
00:26:24.400 --> 00:26:28.079
I don't want anybody ruminating, but you can accept the

552
00:26:28.119 --> 00:26:28.519
fact that.

553
00:26:28.480 --> 00:26:29.240
You went through it.

554
00:26:30.400 --> 00:26:32.119
And then I think, you know, what do you want

555
00:26:32.160 --> 00:26:34.960
to see in the new year? What do you want

556
00:26:35.000 --> 00:26:39.119
it to look like? What does it look like to you?

557
00:26:40.759 --> 00:26:44.440
What do you want? You know? What do you want?

558
00:26:44.519 --> 00:26:44.680
You know?

559
00:26:44.920 --> 00:26:46.880
WDYW what do you want?

560
00:26:47.279 --> 00:26:50.160
Think about that? Because those are important questions to ask.

561
00:26:50.240 --> 00:26:52.680
And I think that when we're too busy trying to

562
00:26:52.680 --> 00:26:55.079
figure out what's the best party, or who should you

563
00:26:55.160 --> 00:26:57.640
invite and who should come to this and where you

564
00:26:57.640 --> 00:27:00.319
should get the reservations and God forbid, this happened or

565
00:27:00.359 --> 00:27:02.599
that happened all this, it's like we get lost in

566
00:27:02.640 --> 00:27:05.000
the shuffle of what we're really doing. We get loss

567
00:27:05.079 --> 00:27:09.640
of what we're trying to create. We get lost and

568
00:27:09.640 --> 00:27:11.440
and and and and that's and and that's kind of

569
00:27:11.440 --> 00:27:13.000
we get lost in our own thoughts, our own mind,

570
00:27:13.039 --> 00:27:16.160
our own situations, all those things that become a problem.

571
00:27:16.200 --> 00:27:17.960
And that's what I think is very important.

572
00:27:18.119 --> 00:27:21.480
I think that's very important that we acknowledge the fact

573
00:27:21.480 --> 00:27:23.920
that this gets as off target. We acknowledge the fact

574
00:27:23.920 --> 00:27:26.200
that we focus on what doesn't matter. The fact that

575
00:27:27.160 --> 00:27:31.839
last year the people bailed at the last minute, creating

576
00:27:31.880 --> 00:27:36.359
not the perfect situation really sucks, and and it could

577
00:27:36.359 --> 00:27:39.640
have been done days before. You know, let's just acknowledge that.

578
00:27:39.680 --> 00:27:41.279
And I think that's one of the issues, but it.

579
00:27:41.200 --> 00:27:41.759
Is what it is.

580
00:27:42.720 --> 00:27:45.599
But you know, all that, and then the stress of

581
00:27:45.799 --> 00:27:47.960
you know, okay, well I got this, and now you

582
00:27:48.000 --> 00:27:50.160
know the restaurant and the stress and you know, and

583
00:27:50.200 --> 00:27:52.359
then okay, can does other people want to make it

584
00:27:52.400 --> 00:27:54.000
and they can't make it? And all of a sudden,

585
00:27:54.160 --> 00:27:57.359
all of that together is just too burdensome. It's just

586
00:27:57.400 --> 00:28:01.000
it's a burden. And in that process of the burden,

587
00:28:01.079 --> 00:28:03.200
I didn't have time to look at what I'm grateful for.

588
00:28:03.680 --> 00:28:06.599
I didn't have time to accept and to you know,

589
00:28:06.680 --> 00:28:09.559
congratulate myself for getting over the pain and suffering.

590
00:28:09.640 --> 00:28:11.640
I went through the year before, you know.

591
00:28:11.640 --> 00:28:13.559
I didn't think about, oh, hey, what do I want

592
00:28:13.599 --> 00:28:17.039
to accomplish you know this year coming into the new year.

593
00:28:17.079 --> 00:28:18.680
I didn't have any time for that because I was

594
00:28:18.680 --> 00:28:21.359
too busy dealing with the stress of one day.

595
00:28:22.680 --> 00:28:23.039
One day.

596
00:28:23.079 --> 00:28:25.480
You don't sit there on September twentieth, you know, going

597
00:28:25.519 --> 00:28:27.400
to dinner with people and freak out like that level

598
00:28:27.400 --> 00:28:29.359
on September twentieth, That's not a big deal. I'm just

599
00:28:29.359 --> 00:28:31.279
pulling a random day out of my out of my

600
00:28:31.319 --> 00:28:32.960
hat here, I'm not wearing a hat, but she's shown

601
00:28:33.079 --> 00:28:36.920
saying so it's like, okay, so what why does this

602
00:28:37.039 --> 00:28:39.799
become so important? And so I think if we actually

603
00:28:39.839 --> 00:28:43.039
put our energy into those types of things and really

604
00:28:43.160 --> 00:28:47.680
catching when fomo rears, it's ugly ahead because it's gonna

605
00:28:47.680 --> 00:28:50.400
show up no matter all the work we do. It

606
00:28:50.400 --> 00:28:53.519
doesn't matter. It's just, you know, we've been trained to

607
00:28:53.519 --> 00:28:55.920
feel that way. We've been trained to have that fomo.

608
00:28:55.960 --> 00:28:58.640
We've been trained to wonder what everybody else is doing.

609
00:28:58.680 --> 00:29:00.440
We've been trained to think that what we're doing is

610
00:29:00.480 --> 00:29:02.319
not that important. We've been trained to feel like other

611
00:29:02.319 --> 00:29:04.640
people are doing more than we are. We've been training

612
00:29:04.720 --> 00:29:09.559
that over time. It's part of the game makes the

613
00:29:09.640 --> 00:29:12.640
hype continue. Right If people were all hyped out and

614
00:29:12.640 --> 00:29:14.400
they're like, okay, cool, you know, I think I'm gonna

615
00:29:14.440 --> 00:29:16.160
go to my nearest grocery store and make a cool

616
00:29:16.200 --> 00:29:18.720
dinner and hang out and have maybe a glass of

617
00:29:18.759 --> 00:29:20.640
wine or two and chill and go to bed at

618
00:29:20.680 --> 00:29:22.440
a proper time and get up and be ready for

619
00:29:22.519 --> 00:29:25.079
the first and set my you know, set my heights

620
00:29:25.079 --> 00:29:27.000
on some stuff and really focus on my motivation.

621
00:29:28.279 --> 00:29:30.400
Everything would be a little different. You know, most of.

622
00:29:30.359 --> 00:29:32.799
These clubs would be out of business, These restaurants wouldn't

623
00:29:32.799 --> 00:29:33.920
be making all this money.

624
00:29:34.240 --> 00:29:35.480
You know, the stress level.

625
00:29:35.559 --> 00:29:38.039
You know, the anti you know, anti depressant drugs wouldn't

626
00:29:38.039 --> 00:29:40.160
be doing as well. You know, the anti anxiety drug

627
00:29:40.279 --> 00:29:41.319
companies wouldn't be doing as well.

628
00:29:41.319 --> 00:29:42.839
I mean, you got to keep the hype going on.

629
00:29:42.880 --> 00:29:43.640
This has got to stay.

630
00:29:43.880 --> 00:29:46.079
It's got to stay because this keeps everybody going right,

631
00:29:46.279 --> 00:29:49.799
keeps everybody on edge, right, keeps everybody stressed out. You know,

632
00:29:49.880 --> 00:29:52.319
Oh my gosh, I'm already stressed out about Christmas because

633
00:29:52.319 --> 00:29:54.400
I'm not going to see family, or on the other side,

634
00:29:54.440 --> 00:29:56.440
for some of you, I'm all stressed out about Christmas

635
00:29:56.480 --> 00:29:57.920
because I'm gonna see a bunch of family that I

636
00:29:57.960 --> 00:30:00.839
don't really like, get along with, and have some issues with.

637
00:30:00.920 --> 00:30:02.799
And now I gotta I gotta buck up to that.

638
00:30:02.920 --> 00:30:04.559
And then when I get home, I gotta figure out

639
00:30:04.559 --> 00:30:05.960
what I'm gonna do for New Year's. You know, I'm

640
00:30:05.960 --> 00:30:09.880
either single and I feel like I'm alone. What am

641
00:30:09.880 --> 00:30:12.759
I gonna do then? Or I'm recently divorced, or or

642
00:30:12.799 --> 00:30:15.160
I'm recently dating somebody but we're not there yet so

643
00:30:15.200 --> 00:30:17.319
that you know, can't do that, or or I got

644
00:30:17.440 --> 00:30:20.200
kids and there's no babysitters on the planet. You know,

645
00:30:20.319 --> 00:30:21.759
whatever it is, it is what it is.

646
00:30:21.759 --> 00:30:23.799
We all are dealing with something. All of us have

647
00:30:23.880 --> 00:30:26.640
something in our life that we're dealing with. All of us.

648
00:30:26.680 --> 00:30:29.839
Do you know, maybe our health, maybe our health is suffering,

649
00:30:30.839 --> 00:30:33.160
you know, I mean, maybe there's a financial crisis in

650
00:30:33.200 --> 00:30:36.079
your life right now. These are the things that we

651
00:30:36.119 --> 00:30:37.680
have to think about. And we don't need to like,

652
00:30:37.920 --> 00:30:40.519
you know, oh, just sitting and wallowing it, But we

653
00:30:40.680 --> 00:30:42.839
have to accept that and go, know, hey, maybe that's

654
00:30:42.839 --> 00:30:44.920
in the way of this year me celebrating. But how

655
00:30:44.960 --> 00:30:46.799
can I celebrate on a small level, How can I

656
00:30:46.839 --> 00:30:49.880
do something for myself to really focus on a personal

657
00:30:49.920 --> 00:30:55.200
ceremony of what I'm grateful for, you know, pattying myself

658
00:30:55.240 --> 00:30:56.039
on the back.

659
00:30:57.720 --> 00:31:00.920
For the pain and suffering. Now I've gone through. We've

660
00:31:00.920 --> 00:31:03.039
all gone through paint and suffering this year. Guys.

661
00:31:03.119 --> 00:31:06.839
Everybody has, I have, you have, We all have, and

662
00:31:06.880 --> 00:31:10.480
some of it has been pretty bad. And some of

663
00:31:10.519 --> 00:31:12.400
it has been bad that you haven't had anybody to

664
00:31:12.400 --> 00:31:14.359
talk to about it. You got no bad person to

665
00:31:14.359 --> 00:31:17.039
talk to about it. You got to keep it all inside.

666
00:31:17.319 --> 00:31:19.559
Some of you go to a therapist or counselor coach

667
00:31:19.680 --> 00:31:22.000
like me, which is very helpful because you can talk

668
00:31:22.039 --> 00:31:25.119
about it. There's no judgment, you know. If you'd like

669
00:31:25.160 --> 00:31:26.880
to work with me, just go to Ashley Burgs dot

670
00:31:26.880 --> 00:31:30.279
com ashleyb e er g Ees dot com and click

671
00:31:30.319 --> 00:31:33.240
on that coaching session page and you can set up

672
00:31:33.240 --> 00:31:36.960
at a point right. Then you can also go to

673
00:31:37.000 --> 00:31:39.519
that contact page Ashley Burgess dot com click on contact

674
00:31:39.559 --> 00:31:41.079
orf you want to send me a message prior if

675
00:31:41.119 --> 00:31:43.079
you have any questions or thoughts that you would like

676
00:31:43.119 --> 00:31:46.319
to ask me before scheduling an appointment with me. But

677
00:31:46.440 --> 00:31:48.640
you know, if you have that, you know option, that's great,

678
00:31:48.640 --> 00:31:51.119
but you know, and you're able to talk about it.

679
00:31:51.720 --> 00:31:53.519
But again, even if you're able to talk about it,

680
00:31:53.559 --> 00:31:55.240
you still went through the paint and suffering that you

681
00:31:55.279 --> 00:31:57.240
went through, and so giving yourself a pat on the back, Hey,

682
00:31:57.240 --> 00:32:00.599
I got through it. I made it, you know, I

683
00:32:00.640 --> 00:32:03.559
went through that. Now, okay, that we've gone through this,

684
00:32:03.720 --> 00:32:05.359
how do we want the new year to look? How

685
00:32:05.359 --> 00:32:09.599
do I want this new year that I am dealing with?

686
00:32:09.640 --> 00:32:11.680
How do I want this to look in my life?

687
00:32:12.720 --> 00:32:15.279
What do I want? How do I want this to look?

688
00:32:15.279 --> 00:32:17.839
And I think that this is very important to acknowledge.

689
00:32:17.960 --> 00:32:21.160
This is very important to understand. These are the things

690
00:32:21.240 --> 00:32:23.480
we need to acknowledge in our life. And if we

691
00:32:23.480 --> 00:32:26.119
can take that energy of the burden and the fear

692
00:32:26.279 --> 00:32:29.200
that you know, John and Alisha's not gonna make the party,

693
00:32:29.279 --> 00:32:31.519
and so and so's gonna cancel the last minute, and

694
00:32:31.920 --> 00:32:33.440
you're gonna freak out because you got to tell the

695
00:32:33.480 --> 00:32:35.640
restaurant that you don't need eight people. You got four,

696
00:32:35.720 --> 00:32:37.519
and you had to you know, just you paid specially

697
00:32:37.559 --> 00:32:39.799
ahead to get this done. And now this isn't gonna work,

698
00:32:39.799 --> 00:32:42.759
and now what are you gonna do? And ah, so

699
00:32:42.920 --> 00:32:47.160
many things out one time. And that's where I feel like,

700
00:32:47.519 --> 00:32:50.480
why do you want to deal with all that when

701
00:32:50.519 --> 00:32:52.839
we can actually just focus on some things that need

702
00:32:52.880 --> 00:32:55.920
to be focused on and so let's prepare for that.

703
00:32:56.000 --> 00:32:58.160
How do we get prepared for that? How do we

704
00:32:58.279 --> 00:33:02.319
begin to re focus our brain? After how many years?

705
00:33:02.319 --> 00:33:03.960
I mean it could be many of you been doing

706
00:33:04.000 --> 00:33:07.759
this New Year's thing for twenty years, thirty years, forty years,

707
00:33:08.640 --> 00:33:12.559
fifty years, sixty years, you know, how do.

708
00:33:12.559 --> 00:33:15.440
We reprogram our brain.

709
00:33:16.680 --> 00:33:20.799
To be able to see things clearly, to be able

710
00:33:20.839 --> 00:33:24.480
to start formulating thoughts, and to be able to start

711
00:33:24.519 --> 00:33:26.880
thinking about how we want the year to look, how

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do we want this year to look? How do we

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want things to go? So I would actually, if you can't,

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get yourself a calendar and start creating a timeline, and

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I actually put on the top of each date, so

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you know, like on the twenty six, you know, I

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put something you know today like today's date, and you

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00:33:43.160 --> 00:33:45.880
put something like all the way through the year, especially

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in December, I'm going to start working on acknowledging what

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I'm grateful for I'm going to think about what I

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want this year to look like. You know, WDYW what

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do you want?

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What do I want?

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And I want you to start thinking about that. Put

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it in the calendar. So when you sit there and go,

726
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oh my god, what am I going to do? What

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are we going to do for New Year's Eve? What

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am I going to do for yours? Try to if

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00:34:09.320 --> 00:34:11.480
if you got something easy, breezy to do, great, if

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you can do the easiest plan, do it, but really

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focus this energy on that, focus it because remember, everybody

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00:34:18.599 --> 00:34:20.639
else is stressed out, everybody else is anxious.

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You got all kinds of things going on.

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So you got all these cards stacked against you to

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make these things work. You got all the cards stacked

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against you for things to really work out that night.

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It's just the way it is, right and it's just

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the night. And that's the big, big kind of you

739
00:34:37.800 --> 00:34:41.320
know rub I think is accepting that and saying, okay, hey,

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what can I control? Well, you know what, I can

741
00:34:44.079 --> 00:34:46.679
control myself. I can decide what I'm doing. I can

742
00:34:46.679 --> 00:34:49.360
control myself. I can get things for myself. If I

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00:34:49.400 --> 00:34:51.760
want a few people to come, great, if they show up,

744
00:34:51.800 --> 00:34:54.519
great if they don't okay either way. You know, how

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00:34:54.559 --> 00:34:57.039
do I want to feel? Where do I want my

746
00:34:57.159 --> 00:34:59.239
head to be? How do I want my headspace to be?

747
00:34:59.639 --> 00:35:02.239
How do I want to feel emotionally, mentally and physically?

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What do I want to focus on?

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You know?

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How do I get myself into the feeling of a

751
00:35:06.960 --> 00:35:10.280
personal ceremony and really focus on that and start writing

752
00:35:10.280 --> 00:35:12.599
things down. I would get a journal and start thinking

753
00:35:12.599 --> 00:35:15.639
about it right now, you know, start thinking about And

754
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this is something you can use every single year. And

755
00:35:17.960 --> 00:35:20.920
this is something you can use around anything that provides

756
00:35:20.920 --> 00:35:23.760
stress in your life, any date or time that provides

757
00:35:23.800 --> 00:35:26.519
stress in your life, like a birthday or even Christmas

758
00:35:26.679 --> 00:35:28.400
or any of these types of days.

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These are things that you can.

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Do to really take back your energy and focus on

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what really matters. I got more coming up, so stay

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tuned Live your True Life Perspectives with your host me,

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00:35:37.280 --> 00:35:39.719
Ashley Burtis, will be back in I'll be back this

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time in two shakes.

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Get in here. You're listening to Perspectives with Ashes.

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Welcome back live to Liberty Life Perspectives and I'm your host,

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00:36:06.360 --> 00:36:10.880
Ashley Burgess. New Year's Eve, December thirty first, can be

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well painful. It can be stressful, overwhelming. Plans don't come together,

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things fall apart at the last minute, and there you

770
00:36:19.719 --> 00:36:25.119
are over overwhelmed, upset and filled with fomo. And you know,

771
00:36:25.199 --> 00:36:27.440
many of us get fomo. That's normal. We get because

772
00:36:27.679 --> 00:36:30.039
the fear of missing out, the fear of missing out,

773
00:36:30.400 --> 00:36:32.119
you know, the fear of other people having all this fun,

774
00:36:32.159 --> 00:36:34.519
We're not having any fun and really focusing on the

775
00:36:34.559 --> 00:36:37.519
wrong things. And that's why I feel like the hype

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00:36:37.800 --> 00:36:41.239
of December thirty first needs to be just deflated completely.

777
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It's another day and we need to look at it

778
00:36:43.760 --> 00:36:47.400
as another day entering into this new year, and focusing

779
00:36:47.440 --> 00:36:49.719
on the fact that we can focus on what we

780
00:36:49.760 --> 00:36:52.559
want this new year to look like, what we want

781
00:36:52.599 --> 00:36:54.920
in this new year, What are the experiences that we

782
00:36:54.960 --> 00:36:57.599
want to experience in this new year. How do we

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00:36:57.679 --> 00:37:02.760
see ourselves growing in this new year? And this is

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so powerful and so if we have that personal ceremony,

785
00:37:05.639 --> 00:37:09.039
if we have gratitude and acknowledge what good went on

786
00:37:09.360 --> 00:37:13.159
this year, the good things that happen, and think about

787
00:37:13.239 --> 00:37:15.719
all the time we have. We're not super focused on,

788
00:37:16.280 --> 00:37:18.840
you know, so and so making the dinner or having

789
00:37:18.840 --> 00:37:22.599
this big party or planning this big trip, how we

790
00:37:22.679 --> 00:37:25.320
can actually like experience what we want. And I know

791
00:37:25.400 --> 00:37:27.519
that many of you are also wanting to quit something,

792
00:37:27.559 --> 00:37:31.280
whether it's smoking weed or vaping or cigarettes, or alcohol

793
00:37:31.400 --> 00:37:33.000
or drugs or whatever it is that you want to

794
00:37:33.079 --> 00:37:35.119
quit in your life. And this is one of the

795
00:37:35.119 --> 00:37:37.679
hardest times because, you know, the night you want to

796
00:37:37.719 --> 00:37:40.159
party hardy and do all this stuff. But it's hard

797
00:37:40.199 --> 00:37:42.400
because the very next day you're starting to feel bad.

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You're feeling guilty, You're feeling shame, like it's just like

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a double whammy for a.

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Lot of people.

801
00:37:47.880 --> 00:37:49.960
You know you have fun, but yet you're feeling shame

802
00:37:50.000 --> 00:37:52.559
and feeling bad going into the new year. You know,

803
00:37:52.639 --> 00:37:55.480
basically comatos you know had been throwing up, feeling horrible,

804
00:37:55.599 --> 00:37:58.840
is super horrible, eating badly, having pizza at three am.

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You know what I'm saying, all these kind of things

806
00:38:00.320 --> 00:38:02.320
and feeling bad. So why do we want to do that?

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And I think if we can look at a personal

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00:38:04.320 --> 00:38:08.199
ceremony and say, hey, it's just another day to give

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00:38:08.199 --> 00:38:11.199
a reason to party. If I want to interact with

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00:38:11.239 --> 00:38:13.920
people and I want to have people, that's great. You know,

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if I have family members, great, if I have friends,

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that join me.

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00:38:16.760 --> 00:38:17.000
Great.

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If I don't, that's fine too. And then how do

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I really focus that energy on what I can actually

816
00:38:22.159 --> 00:38:24.400
focus on? How do I focus on the new year,

817
00:38:25.360 --> 00:38:28.760
How do I focus on bettering myself? How do I

818
00:38:28.800 --> 00:38:32.559
focus on accomplishing my goals? And how do I accomplish

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00:38:32.599 --> 00:38:35.360
those goals this year? And I hope that this has

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been a valuable podcast and radio show for you, because

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I feel like it's necessary. I feel like the stress

822
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and anxiety that comes from planning December thirty first, and

823
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the things that go wrong and the things that don't

824
00:38:47.079 --> 00:38:49.079
work and the things that fall by, the fall through

825
00:38:49.119 --> 00:38:52.320
the cracks are just so painful, and it just leaves

826
00:38:52.320 --> 00:38:54.400
a bad taste in your mouth for the whole last year.

827
00:38:54.400 --> 00:38:55.639
And it's like, why do we want to do that?

828
00:38:55.679 --> 00:38:57.719
We want to step into this next year, you know

829
00:38:57.840 --> 00:39:01.880
feeling very positive, you know, feeling very powerful, you know,

830
00:39:01.960 --> 00:39:05.000
feeling empowered, motivated.

831
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We want to walk in with.

832
00:39:06.760 --> 00:39:12.239
All those great feelings, not the other way around. And

833
00:39:12.400 --> 00:39:14.360
I feel like when we give too much power to

834
00:39:14.400 --> 00:39:18.320
the fomo, too much power to the hype, that's exactly

835
00:39:18.320 --> 00:39:21.840
what's gonna happen. We are going to be let down,

836
00:39:23.079 --> 00:39:28.119
We're gonna feel less, We're gonna feel stress, We're just

837
00:39:28.599 --> 00:39:30.679
none of this is like positive coming out of this.

838
00:39:30.760 --> 00:39:34.679
So we want to augment that, make those changes feel better,

839
00:39:34.880 --> 00:39:39.800
create that reality, and go into the new year feeling

840
00:39:39.840 --> 00:39:43.719
good about ourselves and our contributions. And I hope that

841
00:39:43.760 --> 00:39:47.239
you have a beautiful end of the year. I hope

842
00:39:47.239 --> 00:39:49.639
you have a great start to the year. And you

843
00:39:49.639 --> 00:39:51.559
know it is it's every day is just a day.

844
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It's another day on our path. No matter what day

845
00:39:55.079 --> 00:39:58.480
it is, it's another day on our path. It's another

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day to figure out who we are. You know, WD

847
00:40:02.199 --> 00:40:03.920
YW What do you.

848
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Want in your life? What do you want? Think about that.

849
00:40:08.639 --> 00:40:14.320
Use this time and use your effort and power to

850
00:40:14.440 --> 00:40:17.840
focus on what do you want and how will you

851
00:40:17.920 --> 00:40:22.239
get it? You know, how will you make it a reality?

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I look forward to hearing from any of you this year.

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If you'd like to contact me, just go to Ashley

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00:40:27.199 --> 00:40:30.800
Burgers dot com, click on that contact page and send

855
00:40:30.800 --> 00:40:31.400
me a message.

856
00:40:31.440 --> 00:40:32.639
I'll get back to you asap.

857
00:40:32.840 --> 00:40:34.599
If you'd like to work with me, go to Ashley

858
00:40:34.599 --> 00:40:37.440
Burgers dot com again go to coaching session and you know,

859
00:40:37.519 --> 00:40:39.719
just go to your coaching session page click on that.

860
00:40:39.800 --> 00:40:42.679
I also have therapists working with me as well that

861
00:40:42.760 --> 00:40:46.360
can also work with you that have specializations. So we

862
00:40:46.440 --> 00:40:50.360
have you know, Erica, Leah, and Lisa, and all of

863
00:40:50.400 --> 00:40:53.000
them have specializations and they all can help. So if

864
00:40:53.039 --> 00:40:54.599
you have a question or you want to like to

865
00:40:54.639 --> 00:40:57.320
know more about them or more about my work, definitely

866
00:40:57.360 --> 00:40:59.000
reach out on that contact page.

867
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And I look forward to hear from you.

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Anything I can do to help you make this year,

869
00:41:03.400 --> 00:41:06.039
next year better, Anything I can do to help you

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00:41:06.159 --> 00:41:09.800
motivate and contribute to your health and happiness and balance.

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That is exactly what we want, and I want.

872
00:41:11.480 --> 00:41:14.960
You to have the absolute best holidays, the absolute best

873
00:41:15.000 --> 00:41:20.119
thirty first, but the right way with the energy directed purposefully,

874
00:41:21.320 --> 00:41:24.280
purposely is where we want to direct our energy, and

875
00:41:24.320 --> 00:41:27.719
I find that very powerful. If you haven't already, you know,

876
00:41:27.760 --> 00:41:31.400
get involved, get on Instagram. We're on Instagram, Asley Burgess, Facebook,

877
00:41:31.440 --> 00:41:36.199
Ashley Burgess, Twitter x Ashley Burgess, TikTok Ashley Burgess. So

878
00:41:36.280 --> 00:41:38.480
let me know, look forward to hearing from you. I

879
00:41:38.480 --> 00:41:40.840
hope you have a wonderful day and I hope that

880
00:41:40.920 --> 00:41:43.239
this show has resonated with you. Please share with anybody

881
00:41:43.320 --> 00:41:46.800
that's going through fomo stress anxiety around this time of year.

882
00:41:46.840 --> 00:41:48.840
Because this is very real, Stay tuned, live it at

883
00:41:48.880 --> 00:41:51.760
your life perspectives with your host me Asthley Burgess will

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00:41:51.760 --> 00:41:53.159
be back in I'll be back this time.

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You know it.

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I'll be back this time in three shakes the pup