Maleku’s Gift. Empowering Children Through Breathwork and Personal Understanding. [Ep.753]

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Welcome back life to litera True Life
Perspectives, and I'm your host,

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Ashley Burgess. On today's show,
we have an amazing interview. We have

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two women who are doing some amazing
work that are working to change the lives

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of many children. And it's interesting
because I think today more so than not,

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and I think we've always had stressors, and we've always had anxiety,

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and we've always had fear, and
we've all had these things our whole life.

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But I think nowadays even more children
need to have ways of being able

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to work through this. They need
to have that ability to understand how to

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create peace, to feel better,
you know, just to feel more at

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peace and more comfortable in their own
skin. And so I ran across this

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amazing new children's book and it's called
Mala Who's Gift, A story about consciousness

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and the power of your own breath. And it's an amazing book and the

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illustrations are quite remarkable, and it's
not just the illustrations, it's what the

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book is about. It it's really
helping us to tell a story. It's

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to really help children, but it's
also to help you know, parents,

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and it's also to encourage, you
know, just being able to come together

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and have this conversation, but also
to be able to do this work that's

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going to help kids across the world, across the country. And so joining

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me first off, Jill Read.
Jill is a children's book author and former

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educator, a doctor in educational psychology, and Patricia Custer is a children's book

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illustrator. She's also a breath work
teacher, a coach, and a psychotherapist.

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And both Jill and Patricia have come
together to create this amazing book that

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I think is going to help a
lot of children. It's going to also

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help a lot of parents out there
feel better about how their children are and

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what their children are going through.
And it's going to also inspire I think,

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you know, a change in our
society where we're going to give power

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and empower our children. Jill,
Patricia, so happy to have you on

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Live your True Life Perspectives. Thank
you, thank you. It's wonderful to

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be here. It's amazing to have
you both on. And let's start off

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first off, because I know that
you know you've created this, You've created

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this amazing book. You've come together
on this project together, and so let's

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start off. You know, first
off, Patricia, you know what is

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some of the reasons why you created
a Malacu's gift. Let's talk about it

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from your perspective, and then Jill
after that about your perspective. Sure,

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thank you. Well, it's a
long story. Actually it started like this

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that in front of my window,
like I saw monkeys because we both live

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in Constrica, so I saw them
and they kind of inspired me because they

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are sitting here in nature and they
having a good time here. They are

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so curious, and I just wanted
to go back to to paintings and I

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needed and I wanted to have a
project, and those monkey inspired me.

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So I had an idea to create
a children's book and the story about a

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little monkey here in Costa Rica,
and I knew I wanted to do that,

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and I'm not a writer. I
am storyteller, but I'm not a

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writer. So I found Chill,
which was my really good luck, and

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I'm asked her if she would like
to do with me a children's book,

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and by surprise, she said yes. I always wanted to do that,

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so I couldn't believe that in the
beginning, because I felt, really,

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are you are you kidding me?
And then we really did not together and

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we started Actually it's all it's more
than a year ago. It must March

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twenty two with our project, and
yeah, I mean it goes on and

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on. It's a beautiful project.
And we learned so much in that project.

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And for me personally, my passion
about this book is the longer I

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am with our book, the more
I learn. And really it is for

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me to really give the people,
the educated, the children, all the

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persons who want to read that book
more consciousness about how they can use their

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own breadth and how they can take
responsibility for their own health. That's powerful.

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Jill. I want your take on
it too, because this is so

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amazing. It's like you both come
together for this project and both of you

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have these streaks, various different streaks. So tell me more, Jill,

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about your perspective. Sure. So, I have been a teacher or an

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educator for or a coach those things
for a very long time, and I've

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taught from very young children all the
way up to adults, and I am

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passionate about education and being in the
classroom and reaching students, And I think

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for me, I love the fact
that as a classroom teacher you have the

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opportunity every day to work with children, work with people, make a difference,

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be impactful. And when approached about
an idea for a children's book,

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and I've always wanted to write a
book, so that was a no brainer,

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but more importantly, a children's book
which has the potential to not just

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reach twenty two or twenty five or
thirty students in a classroom, but actually

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beyond the classroom out into the world
like globally. And so for me that

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was really an important part of joining
this project was the fact that we could

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take a very powerful message and deliver
it in such a way that it would

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reach a very large audience. And
so for me, that's the piece that

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brought me to the table to do
this project. And the message is so

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timely and so important coming out of
this, you know, the last few

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years where we've experienced a lot of
anxiety and a lot of uncertainty, and

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certainly our children, our young people, feed off of that, and so

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this is just a way to reach
kids and give them a tool that they

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can use for a lifetime. I
totally agree with that, and I agree

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with you, after everything that we've
gone through these last few years, it's

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very timely at this point. I
think it's always been important actually, but

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I think now we're actually seeing how
very important it really is. And so,

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you know, I find it interesting
that the parts of the book first

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of all, you know, as
far as an educator, as far as

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from a parent's perspective. But let's
jump in first. Um, you know,

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thinking about first off, you know, with U with Malichu's gift and

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the power of the breath understanding that, Patricia, you are a breathwork teacher.

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Um, you know when when you
started teaching this, do you work

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with a lot of children for a
period of time? I mean, and

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then you saw how this can really
impact children? Or was it more from

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a perspective of working with adults and
seeing how they could have used breath work,

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you know, at a certain age
and really had developed their life.

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Because I think sometimes when you work
with adults you see what wish they could

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have had when they were kids.
Where where did that kind of perspective come

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in and saying Okay, this needs
to be adapted for children immediately at the

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age of four or the age of
five or the age of six. Yes,

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I am coming from the perspective of
working with adults. I was for

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many many years I had a company
for coaching, and I was only working

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with adults. So breeding, I
teach to adults. And then when I

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met my daughter got a child,
I have a grandchild, that prospective came

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very close to me because I saw
all these children. You know, it

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just was like again being with young
children. And that has inspired me too,

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because I felt not only the breeding, but also to use, how

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to use technology and all this thing, but getting back to breathing, how

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important it is to give them a
tool, as still already said, for

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their life. And I felt it's
so easy. Everything a child learns when

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the child is small, it is
like natural then to use It's like a

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language. If you learn it from
the beginning, it will be so natural.

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If you learn it as an adult, it's always you always have to

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kind of okay, I had that
tool, but it's amazing when you learn

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it from small it's just something you
have strayed with you and it's available.

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So that was really my point.
I wanted to give that to young children.

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And now working with the book of
course, I get in contact much

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more with young children, and it's
so beautiful how they how they how they

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use the breath because a young child, like a baby, they always breeze

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perfectly. Almost any child breezes like
that. And as soon they get older

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they come into school, the breeding
is changing because the mindset is changing.

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And that's the interesting thing. We
can help those Children's very powerful, you

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know, Joe, coming from your
perspective, you know, being in the

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educational system, you know, working
in education for a long time. I

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bet this is something that I'm assuming
because I haven't it often taught within schools.

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This is something that's been missing for
a while. Yes, I think

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that's exactly right. It is something
that has been missing, and we've been

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so fortunate, I think, in
the last few years to see classroom teachers

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start to add some of these practices
into mindfulness practices into their morning meetings if

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they're so fortunate to do morning meetings
in their classroom. So we are starting

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to see some of that come into
the classroom, and I think it is

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so beneficial to help children learn that
it is okay to pause and be still.

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We just don't see that very often, and so bringing this breathwork to

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them, gives them an opportunity to
just relax and take a moment and pause

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and listen to themselves, listen to
their own inner voice. And I think

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that that is such a powerful tool
to have in the classroom. You know,

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often it gets very chaotic and noisy
and rambunctious, and we think a

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lot about classroom management and those sorts
of things. But when we take the

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time to add these small mindfulness pieces
into our regular routines, it can be

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so impactful, and it can really
make a difference in how these children perform

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and how they behave, and how
they learn to take responsibility for themselves in

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the classroom. I think it's just
it's magical. Really, it is so

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very powerful, it is, and
I think there's something that definitely is necessary

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for all humans for that matter.
You know, Patricia, let me ask

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you, because I think some people
out there, you know, they're listening

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to the show here on Literature life
perspectives, maybe they don't understand exactly what

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mindful breathing is. Can you kind
of give us an explanation? Of course,

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for me, it always starts like
there are so many breathwork teachers out

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there and For me, it always
starts with mindfulness and awareness because there are

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a few exercises and if you don't
know why you are doing them, it

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doesn't really make sense. So mindful
breeding for me means to pay attention to

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my breath. We are breathing about
twenty five thousand times a day unconsciously,

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which makes totally sense that we don't
have to think about our breathing. But

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to pay attention to our breath brings
us very close to ourselves and then in

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that pose, in that stillness,
we can make We can make a decision,

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We can make a better decision.
So mindful breeding first step is really

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to become aware of your breath.
How do I breathe? How do I

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breathe? For example? Do I
breathe into my chest, into my belly?

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Do I breathe fast? Slow?
It's only observing my breath, And

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then the second part would be okay, how do I breathe for example when

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I am in front of the screen
or when I am in a conflict situation.

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So my breathing is changing, just
to be aware of that, and

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step by step, when you know
yourself better, you become more aware of

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everything around you, about anything about
communication, about just everything. So it

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is a wonderful tool to really start
and it never ends. You know,

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It's not something you start and then
in a year you are done with that.

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You start, and that door will
never close again because it's just like

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a path. True. That's so
true. And when we return to be

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talking more about this, more about
the power of breath. So stay tuned,

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Welcome back live to Literature Life Perspectives
and I'm your host, Ashley Burgess.

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On today's show, two amazing children's
authors joined me illustrators breath Work Masters.

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You know, it's really interesting Jill
Patricia, when we were talking earlier in

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the show, talking about what breath
work is and understanding that also talking about

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you know, your time in the
classroom and understand what's necessary. I think

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this is obviously a passion for both
of you, you know, Jill from

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your perspective, you know, writing
this book, putting together this book,

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working with Patricia you know what ignites
that, what passion is ignited through this

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process? Oh, for me,
that's that's an awesome question. I think

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for me, it just really is
has been such a journey to see how

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well received this message is and just
how open people are to trying this not

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only in the classroom, but in
the home and outside of the home and

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just working to really take charge of
um being active and involved in their kids'

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lives and putting down their phone and
really spending more impactful time with their kids.

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So for me, it's been awesome
to see that blossom. That's really

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cool, Patricia, your passion behind
this, what is ignited? You know

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when y'all were putting together this book
and co creating this, you know what

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was really ignited through that work that
y'all did together. Well, it's a

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lot about especially really really to give
the people and and everybody who wants to

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see that or read the book to
gif like a tool, you know,

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because it's it is a children's book, but first of all, the adults

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can use it too, And we
always speak about that the parents have to

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be a role model. And so
when you start with breathing exercise with very

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very young children, you kind of
have to do with them together, so

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you spend time with them while you're
doing something very funny and beautiful. So

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it helps you as a parent,
and it helps the child. It brings

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you also closer together, and it
brings you also into nature because breathing is

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nothing else than using your pure nature. So for me, there are like

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a lot of aspects. It's beautiful
for me to do it together with Ill.

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Also, it's very important that we
are a very good king and bring

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that together into the world. Travel
a lot for the book and have the

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opportunity to share it with so many
people. That's beautiful. It's it's really

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a dream coming true for me.
I think that's powerful as being able to

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share that, being able to connect
with that, you know, Jill,

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coming from you know, I know
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We can talk more about that here
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from a mother's perspective, you know, as a mother, what do you

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want to see mother's gain from,
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sharing this book with their children?
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know, I'm passionate about it because
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opportunity to be out in nature and
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and be bored sometimes and be curious. And that's part of the whole reason

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I moved my kids to Costa Rica, and so I'm very passionate about that.

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so quick, and you can learn
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you the opportunity to spend more time
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way. It's just it's it's wonderful, Ashley. That's powerful. When we

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pertinent relevant authors and artists and people
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really need to connect with. And
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to listen to Patricia and Jill's passion
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they're trying to work to not only
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lot of stress, have dealt with anxiety,

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have dealt with your children, having
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Being able to share experiences and share
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what's powerful. So stay tuned.
We have a lot more coming up.

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to Perspectives with Ashley Burges. Welcome
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and I'm your host, Ashley Burgess. On today's show, I have the

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ability to talk with Jill Read and
Patricia Customer, which are amazing children's book

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authors, but also breathwork. We
have education in psychology. We also you

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know, psychotherapy coaching, so we
have not only people that are very educated,

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but they're using their abilities to really
put it into something that's really not

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only palatable, but also something that's
functional and that helps children and also helps

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adults and helps parents and help school
districts and helps everybody to try to get,

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you know, just a better finger
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able to calm. And I think
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you know, is that breathwork and
that ability to be mindful and that

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consciousness and that conscious effort in the
this goes for kids very much as well

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as parents. And so when we
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I love this book, and it's
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actually a party that's really cool,
and you can see the matter horn obviously,

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and you can see you Malku's climbed
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hungry, she hopes her new friends
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food, but she saw they were
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a little scared, she looks around
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so, okay, from both y'all's
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start, tell me a little bit
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jump in with Patricia, tell me
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kind of the background behind this,
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profound and this is something that even
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kids as well. Oh my gosh, absolutely. I mean if I can't

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even tell you the number of times
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right. So this was this was
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Malaiku to be traveling around the world
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stop as Switzerland, and of course
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know, fondue, but Malayku of
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very nervous about trying this new food. And I think that resonates with everyone.

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I don't care how old you are, how young you are, everyone's

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been nervous about trying something new,
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great opportunity for us to incorporate a
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be done anywhere, anytime. And
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in this picture. And it was
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when Malayku looks to her friends for
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that and every time I read this
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are their friends doing? And the
kids are very quick to say they're on

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their phone, and so obviously we
have hit the nail on the head here.

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pass it over to Patricia because she
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when we visit in classrooms. Sure, sure, thank you. Yeah.

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I mean, there are a lot
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funny because it's the humming sound.
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I have not invented. That's that
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the young children love if there is
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you are doing is you are inhaling, very important, always through the nose,

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not through the mouse. And while
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hands over your ears and then you
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the bee and that creates like a
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yourself doing the humming sound, and
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after that exercise, repeating it two
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but also focused. Not just sleepy, very focused and it's easy. I

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agree, you cannot do it everywhere, but it's because it's a little bit

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loud, you know. But you
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but just very very soft voice and
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of difficult to do it right now
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little bit weird. But just imagine
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lower voice, and it's really funny
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mean, like being able to create
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that sound, but also kind of
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that kind of that feeling as well, that vibe as well when you're when

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you're doing that exercise. Yeah,
that's really cool. That's really need.

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That's that's I guess you can't do
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funny. Yeah, you're like you're
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okay, here we go. We're
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plane or something like that. So
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you could do almost like if you
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kinds of different avenues to be able
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make it very interesting, very fun, that type of thing um that can

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actually get you know, a child
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and also I mean usually the child
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would say you actually the child wants
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an exercise, especially in classroom when
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you know when we get up in
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calmed down. We need to have
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you need. So if you need
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to do long and soft exhale.
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breath. You might breathe a little
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really like energy into your body.
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children are angry. You know,
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you know, and it's really helpful. It is helpful, and we

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can use it as an adult and
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bows. That's very cool, and
you're right, you need different type of

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breathing for different situations. If you
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to calm down. Definitely totally opposite
directions. Um so, let's let's jump

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a minute to the concept of balancing
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lot of us at any age needs
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I'll go into a restaurant and it's
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restaurant. It's like, okay,
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to the right or the left together
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person that grabs our phone, it
causes a domino effect. But anyway,

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so you know, start off,
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to start off you know, you
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you see that there's a need for
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thing because screen time is huge with
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see it constantly, and so tell
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or you know, and how to
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you know, it's become such a
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the last few years when we've transitioned
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online, and you know, our
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to having the screen in their life. And I think that the purpose of

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our book is not to say that
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a great tool for exploring our world
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it's also extremely beneficial when we step
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listen not only to ourselves, but
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and reconnect. And so you know, we have we've come up with a

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few a few ideas to help your
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that screen time. And so one
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you know, find out, talk
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what's your child passionate about, and
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for your child. And number two
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zone in your home. And one
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okay, the dining room or the
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not just say to your child,
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way and set on your Apple settings. Okay, my kid's phone turns off

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after an hour, but actually talk
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expectation, explain why we're doing this. And then step four, of course,

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would be the model you are modeling
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your child, whenever you're with your
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as parents and caregivers and educators to
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way and use that time to engage
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outside, play games. My kids
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and they are all about it right
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evening. Make time for that.
It's really quite simple. I agree with

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you, and it's interesting how we
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your child. Actually, you know, we're all role models for everybody.

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I was in a meeting the other
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picking up their phone, putting their
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putting their phone down. I was
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I saw somebody pick up their phone
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me start doing it too. I
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as well. Just hold on the
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know, Patricia, what are your
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I think this is very relevant nowadays
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you said that very well, Chill, and I would say, you know,

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we don't know. We have so
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our world has become so complex and
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to be in five years. Everybody
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we need to take care of ourselves
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where we are going to end.
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Chill said, it's not about that
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conscious about that. And we must
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because if I say it from a
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lot of time starring at screens,
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tension in our body, and even
eye problems and neck pain. So again,

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when you focus on your breath,
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moment and cultivate a sense of calm. So again here, if you really

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voluntarily change the rights or the depth
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change the messages being sent from your
body's respiratory system to your brain. You

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can actually hack into your nervous system. And it's all here. We just

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have to use it. And I
think that's what it is. You know,

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we are getting As you said,
Ashley, you know it's the same

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for everybody you are somewhere and the
people including me. Sometimes we are addicted

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to that phone. We cannot be
anymore without it. So we have to

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teach our children the world is not
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us, and the phone is a
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that's the message also from our book. It's a tool. So that's kind

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of my sharing about that. You're
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lot of times people have it where
it's taking over their life. And I

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think that's I mean, because there
really is, you know, cell phone

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addiction. I mean, this is
really really prevalent, and nowadays, you

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know, I see people like crossing
the street and not even looking in their

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face, their eyes are stuck in
the screen. You know, It's it's

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unbelievable. And I think our ability
to be able to remember or to retain

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information is kind of going by the
wayside too, because of all the screen

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time and all the stuff that's happening. So first of all, I want

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to ask, because we need to
make sure we can get this out there.

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Where do we find you? And
how do we find the book and

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and all that information. Sure,
so we have a website, Malaiku's Gift

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dot com, where we have plenty
of free breathing exercises that you can find

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there, and also you can reach
out to us if you're interested and learning

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more. Our book is available in
paperback on Amazon dot com and hardback on

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Barnes and Noble dot com and we
are very exciting. We're also on Instagram

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sorry at Malaku's Gift on Instagram and
we're also very excited. We are planning

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right now our Costa Rica edition of
our books, so we have a lot

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of cool things coming up that we
will be putting on our website. So

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do check there for updates about news
and events around malak Wu's gift. That

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is awesome. That is awesome,
So cool that y'all are in Costa Rica's

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so neat. And for everybody just
listening to the show, I mean,

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this is what you know, This
is what it's about. It doesn't it

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doesn't just apply to children, It
applies to adults as well. It applies

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to the whole family dynamic. And
I think that when we start seeing that,

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and I think that many of you
listening you understand, you know,

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we have that screen time addiction and
it's and sometimes you know, you know,

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we learn something from our phone,
sometimes we need to take the call,

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and sometimes we're just on it because
it's it's habit for me and it's

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addictive, and so this can really
help. And then being that example to

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your children and working with the breathwork
and being able to do that too.

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It's going to help you too.
It's everybody's going to have benefits. So

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when we return, Jill and Patricia
are actually going to give us their nuggets

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of wisdom, a concept that they
haven't shared with us yet, but something

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that they want to share with our
community. They want to share with my

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listeners, with all of us so
that we can really connect and get to

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understand them as well as learning something
that's interesting because we all have those nuggets

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of wisdom that we can share with
others that make their life even better.

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So stay tuned, don't change the
channel. We have that coming up.

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We want to talk about that.
And you know, this is something that

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we can all share together and understand. This is a human right of passage.

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This is who we are. We're
breathing human beings that have this capability.

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We might as well use it to
calm ourselves down, to lessen our

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anxiety, and to be even happier. So stay tuned. Literatrue Life Perspectives

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with me, your host, Ashley
Burgess will be back in I'll be back

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this time. I'll be back this
time Into Shapes. Get in here.

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You're listening to Perspectives with Ashley Burgess. Welcome back live to Ligatrue Life Perspectives

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and I'm your host, Ashley Burgess. I've been talking to Patricia and Jill

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in our show and they're amazing how
they came together and created this amazing book.

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And it's not just a book.
I think it's a movement. And

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you know, at this point it's
time to do the deeper dive because you

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know, when somebody creates this type
of concept, creates this type of amazing

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you know, something that you can
touch, something that you can use,

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something that you can integrate in your
life. We want to know a little

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bit more about them. So Patricia, give me one nugget of wisdom that

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you would like to share with the
Ligatue Life community. Yeah, sure,

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thank you. Well. For me
especially, it is really to take responsibility

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for myself for my health because I
see sometimes that many many people think,

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okay, anybody who else can solve
this problem for my for you or I

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just have a problem, I go
to the doctor, or I have a

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conflict, so it's it's it's the
other person who makes a conflict. So

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for me, it is really really
to take responsibility and that is actually what

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Maleku is doing. She kind of
takes responsibility and she's really caring about herself.

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She's using her breath, and that's
really my point. You know.

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It sometimes feel like if in any
situation, you have something, let's say

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you have a conflict with your partner, and you think, oh, he

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doesn't understand me. It's always him, but it's not true. It's you.

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You have to adapt to the other
person that the other person can understand

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you, and that is kind of
taking responsibility for anything in your life.

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And that's what I that's really really
what I try to live. I'm not

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always able, but it's really my
way of and that's what I really would

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like to share with all of you. I love that taking responsibility, taking

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responsibility for your life, and that's
a big thing. That's a huge thing

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actually in Patricia, I love that
you share that because that is really something

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that we all need to be doing. And I think many of us here,

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especially everybody that's listening to this show, is really trying to do that

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in their own life and it really
builds self awareness and character. I really

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appreciate that, Jill. I want
to hear You're not gonna wisdom absolutely so

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for me, it's really about listening
to your heart and making space for self

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discovery and peace, and also allowing
yourself to walk through your fear. I

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had never written a children's book.
I have never written a book. I've

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written a dissertation, but not a
book. And it's always been a dream

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of mine to do that, but
for whatever reason, I've been afraid to

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do that. And meeting Patricia and
making our partnership made that opportunity possible.

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And it really has opened up so
many doors and so many conversations and just

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a world of really wonderful opportunities.
And I think that's what Malaiku is doing.

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You know, she's curious, she's
also listening to her heart. She's

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also embracing the world around her and
walking through her fears. And I think

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that's a lesson all of us can
take away from the book and all of

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us can employ in our own lives. Yeah, that's definitely powerful and and

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and it's interesting when you know these
nuggets of wisdom or so I ask these

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because it's interesting to get kind of
just a deeper dive and you know,

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lasting thoughts. I mean, you
know, you'll you'll put this book together.

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Do you all have other um,
do you have other books in mind

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that you're gonna be working on,
Jill Patricia, we do. We've been

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talking about how we can incorporate more
ideas around UH Costa Rica and sustainability and

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how we listen to ourselves and how
we're able to again take responsibility. So

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those are some of the topics we've
been discussing. I like that, I

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really like that. That's that's a
really good direction. I think that's going

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to be well received. I have
appreciated having y'all on the show, I

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mean amazing, and I'm just I
love the book. I love what you're

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doing to open the doors, you
know, mentally, emotionally, spiritually for

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children and their parents, and I
just think that this is going to be

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super well received. Thank you very
much for having us. Thank Ashley.

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I'm so glad to have y'all on. I look forward to having you on

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in the future and your future projects
and definitely keep me on breast of what's

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going on there. Amazing, you
know, Jill Patricia are amazing folks and

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just amazing women doing some really good
work. And so for everybody, let's

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listened to this show today. You
know, it's about it's about connecting with

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your family, connecting with your children. You know, remember we have to

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be responsible for ourselves and also remember
that we are role models to our children,

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to the people around us, and
people do look up to us.

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And sometimes even when we don't know
that people are looking, or even if

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we don't think our children are looking, they are, and so being able

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to be aware of that and knowing
that we can use that in a powerful,

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safe, healthy way to inspire and
so this is so neat. So

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definitely check out the book, go
on Amazon and you're gonna be able to

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find the links, and if you're
listening to later on in the podcast after

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the radio show, the links will
be in the podcast description so that you

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can go and find that directly and
immediately. So for everybody listening, thank

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you for tuning in, thank you
for keeping the channel on there and listening

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to the full interviews. We have
another show for you up next week.

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But in the meantime, remember it's
about you. It's up to you and

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guess what. We have the ability
to do what we want to do,

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and we have the ability to empower
ourselves and empower those around us. Live

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your true life perspectives with your host
me Astley Burgess will be back in I'll

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be back this time in three shakes,