How To Live a Freakin' Amazing Life | Regina Huber - Ep 162

0:06 Dr Steve: Hey, everyone, welcome back Dr Steve: to the make the great experience. Podcast. I am your host, Dr. Stephen Green. And you know I get excited when we have a guest. Dr Steve: I get particularly excited when we Guest, who's got really a unique and kind of cool thing going on. So I want to introduce you to our guest today. Dr Steve: Regina Regina Huber Huber, I hope I'm saying it right sorry. Regina, is the CEO of Transform. Your performance. Dr Steve: She champions bold, heart-centered leadership. She helps her clients become thriving leaders Dr Steve: by leveling up their leadership of self and others so they can live a freaking, amazing life. How about that anybody want, that her eclectic experience on 5 continents started in Germany Dr Steve: includes leadership roles at Dcg. As well as ownership of businesses, and get this Argentina, Brazil and the United States. She's quite international. This experience has shaped her into a multicultural, transformational leadership. Coach, international, inspirational speaker, author of speak up, stand out and shine, and her most recent book, which we're going to be breaking down today, living my freaking, amazing life, which is in English and Portuguese for my Portuguese listeners abregado.

1:19 Dr Steve: She created 5 signature coaching frameworks, and is the host of rise to lead, podcast she also co-authored 3 other books and speaks 5 languages. Dr Steve: She's spoken at events, taught workshops in us Africa, Latin America, Asia, Middle East and Australia. Dr Steve: and she's collaborated with numerous organizations, including the United States and Africa. Dr Steve: and she's the host of What's your spark TV show? Dr Steve: And she likes to travel, have adventure and dance. Dr Steve: So, Regina, welcome. That was, I got to take a break. That was a long intro. But clearly you've got a really interesting background. We could probably spend an hour just talking about every place you've been. But let's start with your book. Okay, the title is provocative. Live in my freaking, amazing life Dr Steve: subtitle, create the life that's perfect for you anywhere in the world. Tell us a little about yourself. Tell us, maybe, about your backstory. But let's let's let's maybe focus on what created what? What was your inspiration for this book.

2:23 Regina: Yeah, thank you so much for having me on today. Dr Steve: My pleasure, my pleasure. I'm happy to learn, and let's hear what you got to say. Regina: Thanks for the invite. So yes, my freaking, amazing life started in a tiny little village in Bavaria, Germany. I grew up on a farm. So 2 lineages are very hardworking farmers. You know the typical thing that many of us learn as children. You gotta. You gotta work really hard to to get somewhere, which. Regina: in fact, is a lie. But you know we can also expand on that, maybe at some point. So my, what really pushed me out into the world was my adventurous spirit, which was more in the lineage of my dad's side.

3:13 Regina: and all that, despite me being the shyest kid in the village right, but I had to really just overcome this shyness, and step into my confident self at some point, to be able to move to different places by myself to find new friends and to create a new life in all these different places. So Regina: it started with Munich. After my studies, I started working at a global consulting firm, and that gave me an opportunity to move to Madrid, Spain, where soon I was promoted into a leadership role. I stayed there 7 years. Also learned Portuguese, because I did a lot of work with Portugal, helped the company open to offices in both Portugal and later Sao, Paulo, Brazil.

4:02 Regina: and from there, you know, I I moved to Argentina for a bit. I've lived in Argentina twice I've lived in Brazil twice. Regina: and in both countries also as a business owner of a brick and mortar business that I founded in in these places. I don't have that anymore, but I had it in the past. Regina: And now my business transform your performance, which is a coaching, speaking, and training business, is located and based in New York City. Although currently I'm with a foot in France and a foot in the Us. Always back and forth. And lately I've also done more work in Africa on the African continent, and when I say Africa, it's, of course, a huge continent. And so mostly in East Regina: Africa, West Africa, and the southern part of Africa.

4:57 Dr Steve: All this, and, amazingly enough, Regina is still only 25 years old. Regina: Yeah, sure. Dr Steve: It's packed a lot into a short amount. Well, clearly, this is, I mean, this is an impressive pedigree. I'm jealous just to your language skills English. I'm pretty good at. But besides that, I know, like 3 words in about 20 languages. But let's let's talk about your book. Okay. Dr Steve: great title, love, the title in fact, I found Regina as a potential guest through a common community, that we're in which is people looking to be on podcasts, people hoping, podcast and I love the title of the book. And that's 1 of the reasons that made the connection living my freaking amazing life, keeping it kind of family oriented. There.

5:40 Dr Steve: let's talk about the book. What's the book about? I mean, briefly, what's the book about? Who should read it? What would they get out of it. What's your hope? When somebody reads your book, I assume it's to inspire people, at least on some level. So let's get into the book. Regina: Absolutely because I do a lot of leadership coaching professionally. It's also about leadership. Regina: It's a little bit of a different leadership book. It's about the leadership of self and others. Right? So it's also about the the way we lead our lives Regina: and ourselves. And you said it right, Stephen. It is about inspiration, about inspiring people really to live life on their own terms, because oftentimes we follow a path that we think we are supposed to follow. Maybe we were, unconsciously.

6:38 Regina: you know, slipping into it at some point, and we don't know how to get out of it now that we are already in it, and maybe we cannot find the courage to do that. And as someone who has started a new life in many different locations, sometimes absolutely from scratch like, for example, last time in in New York City in 2012, when I started my current business right when I founded it, and when I started building it. Regina: and I had just gone through a very interesting and difficult phase in in Brazil. Regina: where, because of a fraudulent business partner, I had well, I had lost my brick and mortar business, so to speak. I had to make a decision to really close it down, which was a very tough decision at the time. It cost me a lot of things. It cost me a lot of money in the 1st place, and also my confidence at the time and my self-esteem, and I had to rebuild that from Scratch.

7:38 Regina: And these stories, and also many, many adventures, some crazy ones go went eventually. Now last year into my book, living my freaking, amazing life. I already show the English version. I also translated it to Portuguese, because I thought maybe some other friends in Brazil and in Portugal would like to read it too, and they might find themselves in it. Regina: some of them. And this is how the book came about. The book had been started a few years ago. However, it was also sitting there for a while, because I wasn't quite sure Regina: what to make the main focus of it. I didn't just want it to be a biography, I mean, you know, who wants to read another biography right? It should be really meaningful to the reader and give them value in terms of yes, inspiration, and to also leadership lessons that I have learned through these real life stories.

8:40 Dr Steve: So it's based on experience that you've had. But it would be broader in the sense that people can learn from some of the positive, and maybe some of the challenging things that have happened to you if you could distill it down. Dr Steve: So let's say one thing Dr Steve: like, what's the singular core message that you're trying to like. Leadership's important, right? But then that can mean different things to different people, I suppose. But but in your mind what what I read the book I get done, I'm thinking. Wow! I just learned, Lank, what would you want that answer to be? And I'm sure it could be different. But what do you think? The single, you know somebody saying Watch! I'd get Regina's book. I'm going to learn about something. What would that ultimately be?

9:26 Regina: Well, 1st of all, that no one can empower you but yourself. So you are the one who decides what you want, what you desire what you want your life to be like, and you alone have the power to bring that about. Dr Steve: Hmm. Regina: Okay, it's up to you to choose that freedom also, at the same time, to choose the responsibility that comes with freedom and the other way around, because once you take a hundred percent responsibility, you will also Regina: be able to enjoy greater freedom right like when I take responsibility for all that I have experienced.

10:07 Regina: and I really see my role in it in its in its full sense, like, I have created everything that I have lived in my life so far, even the parts that I would rather have not created Regina: right. Once we realize the power in this. That's when we can really create that freaking, amazing life. And that doesn't mean that there are not ups and downs. Dr Steve: Oh! Oh! Regina: We will experience those, all of us. I have not met one person who has not experienced that. Dr Steve: So so yeah, go ahead. Dr Steve: So the the this is a question here. What does it mean Dr Steve: to lead oneself through life, or to live a freaking, amazing life. You're kind of. You're almost creating like a verb to live a freaking creative life. Right? So how do you? Obviously people are taking responsibility for what they do, based on what you're saying. They're they're enjoying themselves. They're hopefully having business, success, personal success. How do you envision this? What's the kind of thing that gets everybody excited here.

11:10 Regina: But especially as business owners as entrepreneurs. There are moments when we feel like freaking out. So how can we turn this freaking out moment into a freaking. Regina: amazing. Dr Steve: The entrepreneurs out there. Has that ever happened to you? Dr Steve: Oh, oh, I just hurt my ear all the yeses! No, it is challenging, and life is challenging. I mean, if you're a student, if you're an entrepreneur, if you're a business owner, if you're an employee, there's challenges all the time right, and there's there's there's rewards, too. But anyway, keep going. Keep going. Regina: Yeah. So it's about how to turn that, you know. Sometimes we say how to turn a challenge into an opportunity. Well, I like to say how to turn that freaking out into a freaking, amazing moment, because because there's value in everything. And you know 1 1 thing that I have learned that, I think is can really make a huge difference.

12:03 Regina: When we stop Regina: asking the question, why is this happening to me? Or why is this happening to me again. Even worse. Right then. Regina: you know, then, and we replace it with. Regina: how is this happening for me? That's when everything changes. Regina: and that's when we can actually see the opportunity in a challenge. Dr Steve: So you're sort of shifting a something that is causing you to do something into something that would motivate you to do something. Regina: Yes, and it's actually not causing me. Somehow, I created it. So I'm gonna 1st of all take that perspective.

12:45 Regina: So you somehow times created unconsciously, of course. Dr Steve: You know. Regina: Of course, eventually, we want to get to a point where we can more consciously create the reality. We really. Dr Steve: Love it, love it. So this is about, in a sense, personal self-empowerment. Dr Steve: clarity of vision. And in turn it. This is how you get your freaking, amazing life, my guest today, Rebecca Huber. Rebecca's in New York. But this is like her 58th stop on a long journey around the world. This is the make the great experience podcast your host, Dr. Stephen Green. Dr Steve: Regina, has written a book. Dr Steve: I've written a book with a title that I love, love, love called my freaking, amazing life Dr Steve: create life that's perfect for you anywhere in the world. So I think this is a question a lot of people would want to know the answer to Dr Steve: how does someone achieve greater freedom and inner peace.

13:43 Dr Steve: which maybe is the kind of pot at the end of the rainbow of our whole journey. Right is feeling like you've accomplished something, and you got something to show for all your work and all your sweat and tears. So how do you answer that question? Regina: Well again, you know it. It boils down to that to not being a victim. Regina: really, you know, determine what you truly desire. Define what you'd like that to look like. Write your vision that's definitely helpful, take steps toward it, but also deal with what might be in the way of it. Regina: That's often not just external things most of the time. Actually, what's keeping us from creating and experience? What we want and desire is the unconscious stuff.

14:34 Regina: And everybody's heard about limiting beliefs. But what we often don't think of are these suppressed and undigested emotions that we never care to fully feel so they could Regina: finally get transmuted. Regina: you know. So that's really, really important. That's something that a lot of people don't even think about. And I didn't for a long time I was constantly working on yes, also emotions, but on a more superficial level and on limiting beliefs. But I left this part out, and when I started really going in there. And that's a longer longer conversation of what that exactly, ideally looks like. That's when things started shifting again for me.

15:18 Dr Steve: I work with a lot of entrepreneurs. I work with a lot of students, and sometimes you have to focus on what's important at the moment like, if you're a student, you have a test. You got to deal with that. If you're an entrepreneur, you got to go out and get clients you have to deliver service. So some of these things you're talking about are happening on a much more basal Dr Steve: kind of internal level. If if I can call it that Dr Steve: but but it the so in your coaching. Well, 1st of all, if people are interested, how do they get your book? Regina: Yeah, 1st of all, yep, where where people can find it most easily is on Amazon. And then, of course, also on my on my website. There is a book page. My website is transformyourperformance.com. And there's all the relevant information on there.

16:05 Dr Steve: Okay, so somebody's interested whether it's in English or Portuguese, I guess they go to Amazon, where every everything is sold. So why not your book, my book, too. By the way, folks, my book, and or your What was your site again? Transform your life. Regina: Transform yourperformance.com. Dr Steve: That's already performance. Sorry. Okay. Next question. Dr Steve: how does someone, how do we Dr Steve: access our true unlimited power? Because maybe that's the end game here, right? We've inner peace already. We got freedom. We got the ability to direct what we want because we've cleared out all these deep rooted things hopefully through your coaching or through your vision. Dr Steve: And then what's next? Through unlimited power, and then you can get stuff done. So how? How do we get to that point?

16:51 Regina: Well, it's actually all related. Life is a holistic phenomenon, right? And also we cannot separate out mindset and our emotions from the rest, because you could sometimes actually try to sell your stuff for 24 h, and you could actually do all sorts of sales training and never, ever get anywhere with it. If you are not dealing with what you have Regina: internally going on, and if that's stopping you, you know that's where a lot of frustration comes from for people when they? That's when they actually start saying, Why is this happening to me again? Why is it working for everyone else, but not me.

17:32 Regina: And these are not really useful questions to ask. The better question is, okay, how is this happening for me? Or you know, Regina: what can I do to get unstuck, and maybe that is taking a moment sometimes not just a moment, to work on this unconscious stuff that's blocking us. Regina: which sometimes we don't know how to do. And we need an expert for. But there's a lot of information also online about this right? So one way of Regina: moving into our power is to get fully present.

18:14 Regina: How do we do that, for example, by breathing ourselves into presence? Right? That's also where we find inner peace. Regina: It's but it's not only about that. It's also where we find our power, you know, being in the present moment, which is the only moment that exists anyway, the now, because everything else is in our minds, the past, the future, you know, the past is often in our minds in the form of regret, sadness, etc. Sometimes joy, that's nice, right? But also a lot of the other stuff that we really don't want more Regina: of. And then the future is in our minds in the form of concerns, fears, worries.

18:54 Regina: and that's not useful for success. Regina: and especially also not for the fulfillment that most of us want beyond success. So it's really important to find that power in the present moment. That is where you can move out of fear Regina: and into your inner. Regina: infinite power. It's actually not limited. And that's also where you find that freedom, by the way, at the same time, we often neglect the these things as Oh, that's not so important. I'll do that when I get to it. Oh, maybe next year, and then we Regina: still are running on the spot, because we do not address this.

19:40 Dr Steve: Well, it's it's I agree with you. Dr Steve: I think often I'll tell you a little story in a second. I learned most people are so worried about the mechanical things, you know, like I gotta make this phone call and that they're they're always like thinking a half hour ahead or half hour behind. I think you're right, and I think there's an absolute power of the focus, the fruitless. If you want to like a Star wars analogy. Dr Steve: So let me ask you this. Let me tell you a little story. Maybe you've heard this. Maybe you haven't. I heard it? I was this. I didn't. I didn't make this up. It was I was at a business event. There was an office, and they made products. Dr Steve: and they were so focused on making their products and making sure they were really good, and getting feedback and getting reviews. And then.

20:26 Dr Steve: you know, whatever machines that made the products that they didn't. They never fixed the lock on the door? Dr Steve: So they they made all these products all this time to ship them out. They couldn't open the door because it was broken. Dr Steve: And it's the metaphor of the story is that Dr Steve: you have to always be prepared for things that you're not expecting. A. And the second part is, everything affects kind of everything right? You get the best thing in the world, but if you can't get it out to people, or you might have a great message, but if you're incapable of communicating it clearly, and that would. The metaphor of the Dr Steve: broken door was the ability for someone to communicate or deliver on what they have, whether it's a physical product, whether it's a service product, whether it's a self improvement or self development product, which is kind of the category you're falling into one of the last 2. So you got to work on everything. You got to work on the lock on the door, metaphorically speaking, and you got to work on the delivery side.

21:26 Dr Steve: So let's let's do this. Dr Steve: If somebody wanted to reach out to you, it's through your website. I assume you do coaching? You have your book. Is it one on one? Is it workshops? What's your what's your model that way? Regina: Yeah. So I work one on one with my clients. And I also teach. And I speak at events at companies and so on, so that but for for the listeners, for most of the listeners here, it's probably about the one on one coaching. Dr Steve: Okay. Regina: Of course, if there are business owners who want to do trainings for their teams, I can do that as well. I also provide leadership, training and other types of.

22:08 Dr Steve: Sarah gonna be a follow up living my freaking, amazing life? Is there going to be like a sequel, or you have more to say? Or is everything. Regina: App. Yeah. Dr Steve: I'm sure you have more to say. It's sort of a leading question, but hmm! Regina: Yeah, so there's a new book idea already, you know, when we write a book, especially when we include Regina: lots of pieces about our own lives. And that is a sort of a it's a kind of self development in itself. Dr Steve: There's a vulnerability, for sure. Regina: Yes, yes, and and we go through all those stories again, and that creates a major change in ourselves. When we actually use it for that right?

22:48 Dr Steve: Without without getting specific. I imagine what you know now, there's things you may have done differently 5, 1015, 20 years ago, but it. But I think your message, if I'm interpreting it correctly, is that all those things lead us to this point. So we are to some degree the sum of everything that's happened before us. If you enable those lessons to be learned Dr Steve: and and. Regina: Absolutely. But it's not just about those external lessons to me anymore. I already grew into somebody else. As soon as I finished the book. Several things happened. 1st of all, I started adding a new methodology that I have been studying in depth to my coaching repertoire, and I'm integrating it into my own. You know my frameworks Regina: and whatnot because I've created several different coaching frameworks and leadership frameworks. But also, as soon as I finish the book, you know, it's not outdated to my readers, of course, but oftentimes what happens is Regina: for the author.

23:52 Regina: It's almost Regina: outdated is not the right word, but it's almost. It's already in the past now. So I'm already thinking about something else, as you suggested with your question, right? And because I grew into someone else just by writing the book. Dr Steve: Yeah, right? Yeah, beautiful. Dr Steve: Hey? We're gonna wrap up soon. But is there anything we did not get into that you want to share with the listeners or the viewers here. Regina: Well, I. Dr Steve: That we haven't already talked about. Regina: Yes, yeah. So I I really, I really want to get you very clear on what success really means to you, because it does not mean the same thing for different people.

24:39 Regina: and it doesn't have to mean the same to you as it means to other people. You know most of my clients. Success goes beyond a paycheck or lots of business. Regina: High business income, I should say, and or a title, you know, it's much more than that for most people. It's also about fulfillment. It's about well-being. So what's important to you in your life. Dr Steve: Yeah, yeah. Regina: In your business. Dr Steve: Define your. This is exactly how you define your freaking, amazing life. You don't have to be a billion Dr Steve: to be happy, although some people link those things, but you're talking on a much more.

25:20 Dr Steve: I don't want to say spiritual, but but kind of centered level. Maybe it is spiritual to some people too Dr Steve: awesome. Dr Steve: So, Regina Huber, hopefully, I'm saying it right. The book live in my freaking, amazing life. Dr Steve: Create the life that's perfect. You anywhere in the world. Hey? Let me Dr Steve: let's do this. I just let's have a little fun for a second, because you speak like 48 languages. Right? How do you say the title of your book in Portuguese? Regina: Vivendo amia vida! Freaking! Incredible! Dr Steve: Oh, I like that love when she speaks Portuguese. Can you say it in German, too? How many language you said like 7 languages. Regina: I speak I speak 5 and and a little bit of Italy, but that's more like understanding.

26:04 Dr Steve: Your native language is German. Regina: It's German. Yeah. Dr Steve: Yeah. Can you say, you're talking German, too. Regina: Yeah, I'm I'm gonna try. I haven't even really translated it. But it's an absolute Regina: for wirtlichtes. Lieben Lieben. It sounds a little bit less. Dr Steve: Not to knock the German. I don't insult anything. Dr Steve: well, okay, you want to do something. I do this with a lot of my my guests, and I call it the the favorite 5. It's really to learn a little bit more about you real quick. These are like one word answers, okay, anyway, before we get into this Regina Uber, okay, check out her site, check out her book on Amazon.

26:48 Dr Steve: We're on her website. We'll list again in a second. But yeah, I'm going to ask you 5 things real quick. What is your favorite? Your 5 favorite? What's your favorite food? You've been all everywhere. I don't know what you got all kinds of, maybe Dr Steve: culinary experiences. But is there one food, your favorite. Regina: The the grilled fish they serve in the northeast of Brazil. On the beach is one of them. Dr Steve: Nobody's ever answered that before. 190 episodes you're fit Dr Steve: fish on the beach in northeast for wow! Regina: You can look that up.

27:29 Dr Steve: What's it? What is it? Regina: I ping. Dr Steve: IP. Regina: Yeah, it's it's like, what do you call it in English now? I I can't come up with it. Dr Steve: It sounds good. Regina: No. Dr Steve: It's not. Regina: Good. Yeah. Dr Steve: About favorite color. That's probably an easier one. Regina: Yellow. Dr Steve: Yellow. Wow! That's that's not a comedy. You had a favorite song music. Regina: Yeah, I I mean, I I love Donbolo music. So I'm gonna just name the music type. Dr Steve: Okay. Dr Steve: Favorite animal. You, an animal person. Regina: Elephant. Dr Steve: 2 answers. Nobody's ever said before the Ipino, or whatever it's called fish, from Brazil and elephant. Most people say dogs or cats, just Fyi. So after all this, you got a favorite place.

28:18 Dr Steve: I mean a lot of places you've been, is there one? You may end up retiring to. Regina: I love Rio de Janeiro a lot, despite all the difficulties I've lived there. But I did a lot of dancing there, too, and I actually now remember that it's called yucca, and we call it yuca, usually in English, right? Yeah. And it's fried yucca, basically. But in a very specific way. Dr Steve: Wow. Dr Steve: I'll give you a bonus question. This is the one everybody gets right who is your favorite podcast host. Regina: Oh, Regina: It is actually a really difficult one. Dr Steve: It is a hard question for some people. Yes. Regina: It is a difficult one, because I've been on so many different shows, and it and every host has a different style. It's a little bit like dancing. Every time you dance with somebody different it feels different. And it's a completely new experience. And that's why I don't want to choose one.

29:14 Dr Steve: Oh, very diplomatic. Dr Steve: All right, let's let's get your website one last time, and then we're going to wrap this up. So how? What is your site that you want people to go to, to learn more about what you are offering. Regina: Yeah, sure. Thank you for that transformyourperformance.com has all the relevant information, including Youtube links. Everything you need. Dr Steve: Beautiful. Dr Steve: There you have it! Dr Steve: What are you waiting for? Dr Steve: Go get your freaking, amazing life going transform, live it. Dr Steve: Dr. Stephen Green. Here this is the make the great experience podcast. This is about showing you paths to success. My hope is what you've learned today and from the other episodes will help you to level up whatever that means for you, whether it's better grades in school, whether it's better stuff at work, better relationships, all of it.

30:04 Dr Steve: right? So the whole idea is to take what you learned today. Take what you heard today, what you saw today, depending how you're digesting this and putting it into action. Nothing changes unless you do something right, Regina. You got to take action. Dr Steve: I'm telling you. Take action, and I would love if people could share this. The more people this is about helping people is not selfishly motivated. The more people, I think, get this information, the better we live in a stressful world pressures. People need to take responsibility for their own happiness. And I think we had a great example of that today, traveling all over the world, seeing all kinds of things doing what she had to do when sometimes the going got a little difficult.

30:47 Dr Steve: So once again, Regina, thank you for coming on the show. Wish you a lot of luck with what you're doing. Great success with your new book and your coaching program. And that's it for today. So thanks everyone. Regina: Thank you.