Aug. 31, 2025

Fatherhood, Mentorship, and Building a Legacy | Dr Steven Greene - Ep. 174

Fatherhood, Mentorship, and Building a Legacy | Dr Steven Greene - Ep. 174

What truly defines success as a dad? Is it your career, your legacy, or the relationships you build at home? In this special episode of the Make the Grade Experience Podcast, host Dr. Steven Greene explores the deeper meaning of success in fatherhood...

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What truly defines success as a dad?
Is it your career, your legacy, or the relationships you build at home?

In this special episode of the Make the Grade Experience Podcast, host Dr. Steven Greene explores the deeper meaning of success in fatherhood and family life.

Drawing on his experience as a father of two (ages 26 and 28) and his expertise as founder of the Student Entrepreneur Academy, Dr. Greene shares practical tips that dads can apply right away, insights on clear communication, and why creating resources like an eBook can make a lasting difference. This conversation is part of The Ripple Effect of Love for Dads & Families, a movement dedicated to helping fathers define and live their own vision of success. What You’ll Learn in This

🔥 Practical tips every dad can use to succeed at home and in life
🗣 Why clear communication is critical to building strong family bonds
📘 How writing or sharing your story (like an eBook) can leave a legacy
👨‍👧‍👦 Lessons from Dr. Greene’s own journey as a dad and educator

🚀 The role of mentorship and entrepreneurship in shaping future generations
As founder of the Student Entrepreneur Academy, he provides young people with the tools and mentorship they need to build and launch their own businesses. Known as The Success Doctor, Dr. Greene’s passion is helping both students and parents create lasting impact. Call to Action 💬 Question for Dads: What’s ONE success habit you want your kids to learn from you? Share it in the comments or message us directly! 🎥 Join us LIVE: Thursday, August 7th at 1 PM ET

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Of love for dads and families. And today we will

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be talking about the success journey with our very special guest,

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doctor Stephen Green. Let me bring him forward. He's a

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dad of two children, twenty six and twenty eight, and

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he's created a student entrepreneurial academy which provides young people

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with the knowledge, skills and mentorship to develop and launch

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their own businesses. So here we go. Welcome doctor Stephen Green.

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It's so nice to have you here. And what is

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it that truly defines success as a dad. Is it

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their career, their legacy, their relationship that they build at home,

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or something else.

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Well, in my opinion, I think it balance is very important,

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and I think ultimately it's about relationships, whether it's your family,

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whether it's your children, whether it's your spouse, whether it's

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your business. I think being a good person, which I

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define as being honest, being fair, putting other people's needs

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at a high priority is really important. I think specifically

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being a father. Why had two boys, so don't only

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ask me about raising girls, but I think specifically leading

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by example was very very important to me because I

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not only wanted to be a father, I wanted to

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be a role model to a degree. So I always

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felt that maybe I tried a little harder. Maybe, you know,

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when I knew my kids were avolved, like I did

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a lot of coaching baseball, soccer, you know, the whole

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typical sports that kids play. And I made a not

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to be favored to my kids or things like that

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because I thought it was important to show that, you know,

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you have to you have to do the right thing.

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But I think ultimately I would define success my kids

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still talk to.

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Me, and it's very important they still talk to me

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and they're not asking for money.

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So maybe that that's a little sarcastic, but no, I

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think at some point you become you go from being

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like a provid like you know, you're changing diapers so

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they're totally depending on you, to being you know, kind

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of a guide. You know, you have to make dinner,

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you have taken around you. Then you become a chauffeur

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when you know they have sports and they got parties

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and they have friends. Then ultimately, uh, you know, you

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become kind of almost a peer, especially when they start

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to have children and things like that. So I think

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clearly you go through phases. I think looking back and

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looking forward I think successful is feeling like I gave

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them the time that they needed and we're deserving of

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and I think that's ultimately that's the best that you

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can do, right.

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So I love that, and I love how you say

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giving them the time they needed as well. And it's

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not always easy to manage the career and the time

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they need. And sometimes they don't need much, but other times,

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whatever they're going through, they may need a lot more.

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My children are.

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An adult, and you know, sometimes it's a two minute

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call on the phone, and sometimes it's an hour and

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a half, right, because the need is different, you know,

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and look.

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That being a parent, you'll know this, Christine, and everybody

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else will. Sometimes your kids aren't the most communicative. Sometimes

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they trust their friends more than they trust their parents.

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They all go through phases. I had two children that

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happen to be very different, different personalities, different just different priorities,

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different goals. One was kind of a little more introvertibles.

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We're extraverted, so you couldn't be the same parent, so

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to speak to this, every child, sometimes you had to

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do certain things with one that you wouldn't do with

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the other, and vice versa. And I think that's another thing.

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It's I think flexibility has to be in there somewhere.

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But I think ultimately, look, we're all balancing something of

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you know, trying to run a business or have a

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career or have a job, you know, because you have

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to provide for your family. That's still a piece of it.

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But having enough time to give them the love and

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the you know, intangible support that they need as well,

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I think is critically important. And frankly, and I don't

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want to I don't want to take it beyond any

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statement of face value. I think that's the most difficult

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part of it. You know, people are pulled in so

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many directions, and I don't know that they're always able

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to prioritize their family life as much as they might

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want to.

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So, yes, it is. It is a challenge sometimes. And

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I can remember when I was working for time my

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kids were little and I was a teacher, and during

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report card time I was working sixty to eighty hour.

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I hear you.

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And during those times, though, what we had kind of

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done is they would kind of be the cooks or

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prepare things that would make it easier, and they'd be

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so excited to help me. And then after that I'd

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take over for the rest of the couple of I.

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Will add this because I think it's worth noting. My

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wife was an excellent parent, and it made it easier

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for me because you know, we were sort of like this,

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like there were things she was good at, there were

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things that she became the go to person for the

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things I were or things we were able to both do,

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and then there we for the most part, kind of

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realized we were the things that we were both poor at.

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Like I'll give you an example. Yes, I taught both

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my kids to drive. My wife totally failed at that.

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like like she's going like this, grabb inside her foots,

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like clamping down on the ground like she's jam on

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the break. They come back from driving around an empty

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parking lot screaming at each other. Yeah, that was a yeah,

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Whereas I had a lot more patience, you know, sports,

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you know boys. You know, I tended to do that,

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but you know, she was better, even though I'm in education,

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she was better doing homework and that kind of stuff

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with them because they, you know, kind of just like

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being around her for that. So I think it Listen,

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it's hard being a parent by yourself. Sometimes circumstances are

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what they are. Let's you know, we don't need to

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discuss that. But you know, it's much easier when you

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have a partner who is who is a good co

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parent with you and you agree, because the last thing

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you want is a child comes to you and you

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say no to something. Then they go to the other

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spouse and and they say, oh, that's fine. You know,

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so you have to be you have to coordinate, you

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have to be on the same page. So that's important too.

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I love that tip because I don't think I've talked

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about that in my one hundred and fifteen episodes. It's

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something that.

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To make a baby, but doesn't always take two to

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raise a baby.

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But discover like using your top abilities or your whatever

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it is that you're really good at. So that I mean.

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I taught my daughter how to change her tires from

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summer tires to winter tires. We did it together. How

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to hop on the crowbard it's not called I don't

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know the words, but the wrench ju't want it. You

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can listen the bolt. So we had fun.

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You know, you never know what's going to be a

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bonding experience.

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Right, exactly. There's so many fun things that we have

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done together that were really cool, and there were things

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obviously that I wasn't as good at but did my best.

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So I was gonna say, do you have any other

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I was going to say something earlier when you talked

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about you know, we have two kids and they both

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have their personalities. My daughter we could talk forever about

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a topic, while my son it was only about planting

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a little seed and seeing if it would grow. Sometimes

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it did, sometimes it didn't. But if I started trying

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to have the same kind of conversation with him that

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I would try to have with my daughter, he was

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an absolute no. He would turn the other way. Mom,

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leave me alone.

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You know, how was school today? Fine?

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Oh?

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Yes?

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But what did you like more? Sometimes we learn to question.

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Better given as they used to say in sales, it's

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an open ended answer, right. You don't want to have

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a question that's yes or no. They's still find out

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did you do you think you did well? You know,

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what was your favorite question on your math test?

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Yes?

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One of them. Kids are clever that way too. They

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know how to beat at your own game. Sometimes.

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Oh they're really good at it. And I have found

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in the process was that especially if we if they

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know that we have some judgment around the outcome, and

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that's a really huge challenge because those expectations, I mean,

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we want what's best for them. We have high expectations,

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some of us higher than others, and it puts a

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lot of pressure on the kids. And then they don't

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I have found anyway, they close up a lot more.

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And if we're able to always self regulate when we're

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talking to them so that our expectations don't blow up,

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or when companies over and we're not saying these things, Oh,

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my child's going to be the best one and they're

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going to be an astronaut or whatever it is. You know,

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there's all types of parenting that's true. Well, then we

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take that pressure off.

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I found in my experience, and I saw this with

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a lot of other parents more than myself, was it's

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when the parents tried to impose their priorities or their

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goals onto their kids, Like like, I see this a

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lot with sports, and you know, I have an education business,

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so I see a lot where maybe a parent says,

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you know, you really you got to go play tennis,

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play tennis, play tennis, play tennis. It's an example, because

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they want them to use tennis as a vehicle maybe

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get a college scholarship or some such thing, and the

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kids is not that into tennis, right or you know whatever,

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any sports, basketball, it doesn't matter, you know. And I

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sometimes the parents get overly or you get situations where

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maybe the parents are both lawyers and they want the

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child to be a lawyer. Nothing good or bad. I'm

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just saying it isn't always in alignment that the children

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don't always want what the parents want for them. And

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I think sometimes that's a little bit of having to

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let go. You know, you just have to say at

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some point, look, I okay, you're you're I can't you know,

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you're eighteen, whatever, you're sixteen, you're twenty three, I can't

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you know, I can't make every decision for you anymore.

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At the same time, you never want to see them

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fail when you know they're going down the wrong road,

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you know. And you know, my kids fortunately were pretty good.

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I mean, they smashed up a few cars and you

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know stuff, but you know, I didn't really have issues

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like substances, and you know, thy fortunately stayed away from

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that crowd for the most part. You know, in growing

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up with that certainly a temptation for them. So we

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didn't really have to deal with a lot of that

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sort of thing, and I know a lot of parents

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have and that's very difficult.

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But can I say something very quickly, This is totally

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my opinion, but if you take away all the expectations

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that we can have towards our children, it will take

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away the desire for the drugs and the alcohol, because

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that's an escapism or Netflix that may be an addiction

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or whatever the addiction is, whether it's TV, drugs, alcohol,

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you know, I think it's an escape where you feel

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well safe, or an ability to forget what's going on,

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to just it's always a nervous system down.

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There's an element of realistic communication where you can say,

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the kids, listen, we understand what's going on. I was

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seventeen too at one point, you know, or fifteen whatever,

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and I know what you're going to be exposed to,

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and I know what you're going to be have thrown

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at you in a temptation sense, and you know you

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have to be you have to be smart. You know.

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your life I mean, it'd be contradictory if I'm sitting

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there having a glass of wine at dinner or something

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like that. Time we could never drink. But that's not

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what I'm talking about here. I'm just saying that I

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think sort of understanding that they're learning. Kids experiment, kids,

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kids try things, kids, kids are becoming adults. I mean,

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there's this stuff that they have to learn on their own.

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so you know, eventually they go off to college and

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they're gonna do what they're gonna do there anyway, and

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sometimes you're just better off not thinking about it. I

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guess myry anyway. But I would hope that in a

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success you didn't ask. I didn't say this before, but

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I would hope in a successful parenting child relationship, both

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of them, the parents and children feel comfortable communicating with

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each other when there are issues. And I know that's

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not always the case. Certainly wasn't always the case in

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my world, probably isn't always the case in every dynamic,

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but I would hope in the most part it is,

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maybe not one hundred percent, but primarily you know, so

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look as they say, they don't come with a manual.

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Everyone's looked different and they change just when you think

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you gotta figure it out. They change probably so do we,

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children are our best teachers, right, They're there to educate

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us on flexibility, educate us on you know.

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put it in another way. If you're unwilling to be

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flexible and you're unwilling to learn and to try to

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adapt and improve, I guess you're going to have trouble

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because it's not always going to be static.

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You can't do the same thing from the time of

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child six when they're seventeen. You've got to be able to,

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you know, change with the life changes, you know, and

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the things that are going on. So you know, again,

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the world's greatest dad ever. I mean, I certainly made

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my share of mistakes, for sure, But I think in

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the end I was smart enough to take a step

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back sometimes and maybe or think before where I said

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something that maybe later I would regret a little bit

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or something, because that can happen to when you get

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angry or you know, you just something happened, like like

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when the kids smashed the car off with I wasn't

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happy about that, but at least it wasn't hurt. Nobody

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got hurt. You know, it was just a car, you know.

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at the wide picture, because sometimes we get, you know,

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so focused on the perfection or they are expected, that

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we forget about the whole wide angle. I mean, it's

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okay to make mistakes as long as you're not repeating them,

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is clear communication critical?

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this directly at least, yeah, I you know, it's you know,

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what are people hearing versus what are you saying? Right?

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but I'm also saying as a teacher. I'm also saying

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as a business owner who at works with a lot

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of students, right, So it's important, I think to check

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for understanding it's a sales technique. Sometimes it gets taught

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that way. But to just say, you know, hey, I

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don't I can't think of example of course, right now,

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you know, can you take out the trash? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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you know. And sometimes you got to say, hey, you know,

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when are you going to do it? Like you need

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to sort of confirm that they've understood what you want.

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that same uh respect, I guess is the right word

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when somebody's going to communicate with you, right, So you know,

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this is in the army, you know, being a fan

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in the family's not an army where somebody's given orders.

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Everybody else is just following you orders. There's a there's

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a give and take. So why is why is communication important?

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First of all, for the obvious reason that you want

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people to be on the same page, you want people

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to be in agreeing with what's happening in that way.

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But I also think it's important because when done without

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a lot of friction, it creates a much more harmonious situation.

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Because that's the first thing that happens. People start yelling

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each other, you know, voices get louder, screaming and yelling,

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and that just leads to worse, right, So that's not

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usually something that's habit stuff, that's behavioral stuff, and it

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builds over time. So it's important for many many reasons.

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I think the most important ones are just to get

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a message across that's clear. That's sort of the base level,

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but just from a sense of understanding and somebody feeling

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like they're respected and their opinions respected when it comes

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to that. So you don't degree on everything nobody does

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all the time. Adults don't. Certainly they don't start screaming

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and yelling at everybody at each other, so, you know,

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I think that's why that's the key. But the real

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thing there is not the word critical, it's the word clear. Right,

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if you're talking and double speak, what do you think

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your kids are going to hear? Right? You know, if

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you're not, if you're not lucid in what you were

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trying to communicate, why would you expect them to have

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a clear understanding of what you want them to do

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or what you want their behavior to be.

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So and and like you said earlier just before we

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went on the air, is you want to be that

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role model and it's being a role model with the

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tasks that are hand. I used to like to say, Okay,

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who's going to do this, this, this, this week, you know,

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according to the schedules the exams when they got to

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high school, so that we could obviously, the week that

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I was doing report cards, I wasn't doing all these tasks,

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you know. But on the other maybe I'd take over

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on other times so that it would be easier to

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manage everything. But sometimes we need tips on how to

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keep the communication clear. Do you have some tips on that.

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How do you do that so it doesn't get into

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these old patterns.

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Yeah, And again, let me let me preface this by

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saying I've certainly made many mistakes in poor communication. But

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I think one of the things that I would say

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is when it's just when it's when it's something simple,

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it's not it's not what I thought about. When you

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get I'm a little more dense or something emotional, sometimes

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just think a little bit before you say something. Because

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people say things on reflex and the anger that don't

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always come out the way they want, and then that

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just creates another layer of conflict, I suppose. And I

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think the other thing is just consistency. Just when you

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have a relationship with anyone where you've been able to communicate,

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it's so much easier doing moving forward. I mean, I

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there's so many stories where you know, a parent kid

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will say like, I don't talk to my mother, like

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we just don't get along, And that's not going to

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change overnight, right, And it didn't happen overnight. It probably

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was the end result of a series of of whatever

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you know, of events or something. So I'd say that.

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I would also say again, it's an example thing. And

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and you gotta remember the kids first teacher is their parents.

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So if you have a situation with your spouse or

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your co parent or partner whatever, where you're always fighting

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or you're it's like one person telling the other person

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being kind of you know, timid about it, what do

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you expect the kids to learn? They're going to model

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what They're going to model what they see. That's what

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anybody would do, right, So again, it kind of goes

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back to the co parenting a little bit. And you know,

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you know, and and sometimes there's a lot of nonverbal

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communication obviously, and kids they're super sensitive to that. Yes,

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in the same that like dogs and cats are Sometimes

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they kind of just tell when you're upset things and

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tell when you're angry, and tell them you're happy, and

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the children pick up on that, and you know, it's

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like you know you were a teacher. Kids will do

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in a class essentially what they're asked to do as

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long as it's reasonable and fair. Right, you're not going

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to jump out of the window. But I'm saying, like

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if you if you lead a class with structure, and

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you lead a class with purposeful objectives, kids will do

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it because that's what children, that's what people do. And

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running a family, I guess if you want to call

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it that, operating a family is sort of the same

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thing totally. There's expectations, there's rules, there's boundaries, you know,

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but you know it should The communications is not an isolated,

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standalone thing. It's part of the larger package. So why

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is important because I think it binds everything together, but

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getting to it involves other important things as well.

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Totally totally agree with you, doctor Steven. I mean, it's

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a whole. It's like a web.

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Right, let's let's use a big word. It's a multi

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dimensional process.

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Yes, totally right.

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Everything kind of affects everything so it's sort of like

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a web, and if one piece would breaks down, it's

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going to have this ripple effect potentially through everything, but

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certainly through other things. And sometimes would have like, okay,

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I'll give you a little example of my family. My

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one kid was very sensitive about school. Like he was

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a perfectionist. He always wanted to get ease and you know,

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it's not always realistic, yes, and challenging classes, and he

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didn't like to talk about it, you know, And we

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would see his report card, of course eventually, and my

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wife would say, well, you know, you got to B

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plus and whatever. You know, that's fine. She would try

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to say it in like this accepting way, but he

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would didn't. He didn't take it that way. No, even

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though the comment was gone with love and the comment

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was done with sincerity, it still wasn't received that way. Right,

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What are you going to do? I mean, that's just

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part of it, right, So even if you do your best,

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sometimes it just doesn't always work out.

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I totally agree. And I have a neighbor who when

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her son was seven, like, he's an engineer. He was

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a born engineer. Creating things, putting things together is like

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what feeds him. But such a perfectionist and she isn't

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and she didn't know quite how to deal with it.

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So I hired him to shovel my snow at seven, right,

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and I said, oh, we need to have a contract

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and blah blah blah. So then I, of course a

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seven year old was not going to be here shoveling

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my driveway every time there's snow, you know, So I said,

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why don't we put a clause in the contract. So

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I'm teaching him about contracts through the whole process. I said,

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why don't we put a clause that you come whenever

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you want and when you want, I give you this

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amount of money. And it was like, oh wow, Well

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he learned that he could negotiate contracts right and he

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didn't have to be a perfectionist in it. And Mom

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was able to implement this strategy in in their life,

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and a few years down the road, this child will

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not panic if his project isn't working out exactly the

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same way.

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You never know with that stuff. You're right though, Yeah

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you're you're Canadian.

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Right, Yes, I'm Canadian.

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So we have got than we do down here. Yeah

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that's a pretty big The snow might be hired in

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the seven year old.

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Yes, on some snowstorms, we can get a meter over

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three feet of snow.

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On those we don't get that kind of snow. We

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get that and nobody leaves their house. We just we

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just wait till it melts.

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Yeah, it's a bit different, but the point is it's

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we really need to be creative when we're looking for solutions. Okay,

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So I wanted you to be able to talk a

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little bit about this student entrepreneur academy because you also

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wanted to talk about the power of the ebooks. So

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I'm assuming it's interrelated.

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Yeah, a little bit. Let me let me tell you

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what I did about ten years ago. I was hired

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by a like a high school college program. Okay, I

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create a to write a course to help students who

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wanted to learn about the entrepreneurial slash business world. And

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it was kind of there's a thing called fbla's Future

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00:26:00.039 --> 00:26:03.680
your Future Business Leaders of America, I think, is what

465
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it is. It was sort of a conjunction of that

466
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and other things. And because they perceived me as an entrepreneur, well,

467
00:26:11.279 --> 00:26:12.720
I mean I was running my own business. I never

468
00:26:12.759 --> 00:26:15.920
thought it myself as like a shark Tank, entrepreneur but whatever.

469
00:26:16.519 --> 00:26:19.920
So I created this course and we started doing it

470
00:26:20.200 --> 00:26:23.480
and it was it was on Saturday, and it just

471
00:26:23.599 --> 00:26:26.039
rotated through six lessons. Then we'd take two weeks off,

472
00:26:26.119 --> 00:26:28.440
so basically did it six times a year. It got

473
00:26:28.559 --> 00:26:32.440
very popular and it was really what it really was

474
00:26:32.440 --> 00:26:38.599
was just interpersonal skills, communication skills, presentation skills, resume writing

475
00:26:39.039 --> 00:26:42.359
to appoint a small scale business, planning, being able to

476
00:26:42.400 --> 00:26:46.359
do a short thirty second commercial, whatever, one about your business,

477
00:26:46.400 --> 00:26:50.119
about yourself, doing a goal statement. And what I realized

478
00:26:50.160 --> 00:26:52.079
after about three cycles of it was I was having

479
00:26:52.160 --> 00:26:54.640
kids come to me and they're saying, you know this,

480
00:26:54.799 --> 00:26:56.599
I learned a lot about this. But it also really

481
00:26:56.640 --> 00:26:59.039
helped me because I just had a job interview. Yeah

482
00:26:59.160 --> 00:27:01.640
it wasn't like they were for president of a ford,

483
00:27:02.119 --> 00:27:03.920
but you know, they had an interview for like to

484
00:27:03.920 --> 00:27:05.480
be a waiter in a restaurant, and they just felt

485
00:27:05.480 --> 00:27:08.359
more comfortable. And I was like, WHOA, we need to

486
00:27:08.400 --> 00:27:11.079
expand this. So right now, what it is. It's called

487
00:27:11.119 --> 00:27:15.240
the Student Entrepreneur Academy. It's student Entrepreneur dot Academy is

488
00:27:15.279 --> 00:27:18.720
the website, and it's twelve modules and it's it's like

489
00:27:18.759 --> 00:27:21.400
a medium dive, not a deep dive. A medium dive

490
00:27:21.920 --> 00:27:26.920
into all things kind of business entrepreneur, but but not

491
00:27:26.960 --> 00:27:28.319
that they have to run their own business, because it

492
00:27:28.359 --> 00:27:31.200
will help in any interpersonal thing. Now I've been doing

493
00:27:31.240 --> 00:27:32.640
it long enough. I have kids who are going through

494
00:27:32.680 --> 00:27:35.960
college are now in the job world who've come back

495
00:27:36.000 --> 00:27:38.039
and told me that they use the skills that they learn,

496
00:27:38.079 --> 00:27:42.519
which I find very rewarding. More recently, I've partnered with

497
00:27:42.559 --> 00:27:45.839
some networking groups where we're bringing these kids into networking

498
00:27:45.880 --> 00:27:49.000
meetings and they're doing you know, short presentations, and they're

499
00:27:49.000 --> 00:27:53.519
being mentored by other business people. In some cases are

500
00:27:53.599 --> 00:27:57.279
they're getting jobs this way, they're starting early career decisions

501
00:27:57.319 --> 00:28:01.359
this way. So it's it's there for anybody who's interested.

502
00:28:02.400 --> 00:28:04.759
The youngest we have in it is fourteen, but I

503
00:28:04.799 --> 00:28:08.559
think probably sixteen and older is maybe suit a little

504
00:28:08.599 --> 00:28:11.359
more for that, but we don't rule anybody out who's

505
00:28:11.440 --> 00:28:16.000
really enthusiastic. There's several instructors. I am one of them,

506
00:28:16.039 --> 00:28:18.640
but we tend to bring people in who are well

507
00:28:18.759 --> 00:28:21.160
versed and expertise in their field. Like, for example, the

508
00:28:21.160 --> 00:28:25.160
resume coach does resume writing for people for her job.

509
00:28:25.240 --> 00:28:30.039
That's her like her business, just for example. But it's exciting.

510
00:28:30.079 --> 00:28:33.799
I enjoy it, and it's you know, as it's a

511
00:28:33.799 --> 00:28:36.799
former teacher or president teacher. You know, it's the feeling

512
00:28:36.799 --> 00:28:39.400
you get. There's a feeling you get from helping people

513
00:28:39.720 --> 00:28:42.799
that you can't get any other way. Yeah. I don't

514
00:28:42.839 --> 00:28:46.559
know how to describe it or whatever characterize it. But

515
00:28:47.359 --> 00:28:49.200
when you see somebody who might be struggling a little

516
00:28:49.200 --> 00:28:51.759
bit or really wants to get ahead, and you give

517
00:28:51.799 --> 00:28:53.400
them the tools, and you give them the path, and

518
00:28:53.440 --> 00:28:55.839
you give them the direction, and then they do it

519
00:28:55.880 --> 00:29:00.359
and you see the energy and the happiness it creates.

520
00:29:00.160 --> 00:29:03.400
It's it's extremely rewarding. And it's not a money thing.

521
00:29:03.799 --> 00:29:05.599
I mean, there can be money above, but it's not

522
00:29:05.640 --> 00:29:10.920
a financial thing. It's a stepping up of skill and

523
00:29:11.160 --> 00:29:15.440
it's a realization of potential. So yeah, they're just do

524
00:29:15.519 --> 00:29:19.480
not share Academy beautiful and and you know it's growing.

525
00:29:19.880 --> 00:29:22.480
So it's becoming for me at least, kind of a

526
00:29:22.519 --> 00:29:25.359
legacy project to a degree. I look at all the

527
00:29:25.440 --> 00:29:27.039
kids that come through these things, and all the kids

528
00:29:27.039 --> 00:29:29.440
I've taught in the past is kind of like sort

529
00:29:29.480 --> 00:29:33.720
of adjunct children of mine. You know, I could tell

530
00:29:33.720 --> 00:29:36.359
a million stories. I tell you a quick one because

531
00:29:36.359 --> 00:29:39.359
I know we're coming up on time Thanksgiving. We're cooking

532
00:29:39.400 --> 00:29:41.559
and my wife forgot something, so for the fourth time

533
00:29:41.599 --> 00:29:43.480
in two days, I run to the supermarket to get

534
00:29:44.000 --> 00:29:47.359
like one item. Right then we needed to finish the stuffing.

535
00:29:47.359 --> 00:29:49.640
I say, some herb that went and stuffing I don't remember.

536
00:29:49.960 --> 00:29:53.559
I'm standing in line and there's a person behind me

537
00:29:53.640 --> 00:29:56.319
and it looked really failiar but I couldn't place them right,

538
00:29:56.880 --> 00:29:58.839
and we're kind of looking at each other. And I

539
00:29:59.039 --> 00:30:01.039
got like two things, got like three things, and the

540
00:30:01.039 --> 00:30:03.160
person ended me had like a turkey. And they're taking

541
00:30:03.200 --> 00:30:05.599
a lot of time. Anyway. Point is, after like thirty seconds,

542
00:30:05.640 --> 00:30:08.000
kid says to me, aren't you doctor Green? I said yeah,

543
00:30:08.079 --> 00:30:11.000
because on so and so you tutored me in biology

544
00:30:11.000 --> 00:30:14.240
when I was in ninth grade. Cool and I and

545
00:30:14.720 --> 00:30:17.640
I tooted to the mines ats as well. The kid

546
00:30:17.680 --> 00:30:19.920
is now, I said, what are you doing now? Oh,

547
00:30:20.440 --> 00:30:26.279
I'm a thoracic surgeon, right. So he graduated high school,

548
00:30:26.519 --> 00:30:30.440
graduately college school, did an internship, did a regiscy is

549
00:30:30.480 --> 00:30:34.720
now attending thoracic surgeon at a pretty well known hospital

550
00:30:34.759 --> 00:30:38.400
in my area. This is like twenty six years later, right,

551
00:30:38.400 --> 00:30:40.640
he's been He's been at the hospital like eight years already,

552
00:30:41.160 --> 00:30:42.799
and I'm like, yeah, I guess, I guess I did

553
00:30:42.799 --> 00:30:47.200
a good job teaching a biology back when. But you know,

554
00:30:47.480 --> 00:30:49.839
you create this is all part of the legacy, right.

555
00:30:50.119 --> 00:30:52.119
It's the same with anybody who does coaching, and same

556
00:30:52.160 --> 00:30:54.839
with anybody who works with other people. Is you know,

557
00:30:54.880 --> 00:30:56.960
you see these people and sometimes you don't even know

558
00:30:56.960 --> 00:30:59.319
what happens to them, you lose track and all. But

559
00:31:00.119 --> 00:31:03.680
stories like that to me is what has made I

560
00:31:03.720 --> 00:31:06.680
wouldn't say my life worthwhile completely because there's other aspects,

561
00:31:06.839 --> 00:31:09.640
but certainly part of my career is knowing that you've

562
00:31:09.640 --> 00:31:12.519
touched a lot of people that way in a positive

563
00:31:12.559 --> 00:31:16.279
sense and there's been a tangible result. So this is

564
00:31:16.319 --> 00:31:18.519
the goal in the mission. One of the mission statement

565
00:31:18.559 --> 00:31:22.000
goals of the Academy, the Student Entreneur Academy, is to

566
00:31:22.039 --> 00:31:27.000
create our tagline is launching ten thousand entrepreneurs. That's our goal.

567
00:31:27.079 --> 00:31:29.079
It's lofty, but do you think how many kids are

568
00:31:29.079 --> 00:31:30.839
in high school, how many kids are in college. I

569
00:31:30.839 --> 00:31:34.519
think we can do it, oh for sure. Sure, you know,

570
00:31:34.559 --> 00:31:37.480
if anybody's interested, you know, we have cohorts launching all

571
00:31:37.519 --> 00:31:40.559
the time. You don't have to be super business minded.

572
00:31:40.640 --> 00:31:43.319
You just have to be willing to learn and be

573
00:31:43.400 --> 00:31:44.559
a little bit out going.

574
00:31:45.480 --> 00:31:47.839
And I love how when we talked about the co

575
00:31:48.079 --> 00:31:51.799
parenting and each person taking their the lead and a

576
00:31:51.880 --> 00:31:55.359
part of where your child is going. And if you

577
00:31:55.519 --> 00:31:58.680
have a child who's kind of independent and wants to

578
00:31:58.720 --> 00:32:02.960
be wants to know more about entrepreneurship, I mean, this

579
00:32:03.160 --> 00:32:07.599
is excellent, especially if you're not an entrepreneur. This will

580
00:32:07.599 --> 00:32:10.480
help them. And I believe that doing it younger and

581
00:32:10.519 --> 00:32:13.640
even redoing it later on when they're ready to start,

582
00:32:13.759 --> 00:32:17.359
or they can start a little entrepreneurship project and then

583
00:32:17.440 --> 00:32:18.559
get to a bigger one.

584
00:32:18.640 --> 00:32:20.240
Well you should have seen something. You should see some

585
00:32:20.319 --> 00:32:22.240
of the projects these kids have done and they don't

586
00:32:22.240 --> 00:32:24.720
have It's not requisite you have to have a business,

587
00:32:25.160 --> 00:32:26.920
but it's part of it if they want. I mean

588
00:32:27.440 --> 00:32:30.279
kids really creative stuff and some of the really have

589
00:32:30.359 --> 00:32:34.319
done very well financially well, I mean like six figures.

590
00:32:35.440 --> 00:32:37.960
It's really pretty amazing when you have the right tools,

591
00:32:37.960 --> 00:32:40.440
you have the right motivation, which you can say about anything.

592
00:32:41.240 --> 00:32:44.000
So this is it the ebook we can sit for

593
00:32:44.039 --> 00:32:46.160
an our time it's one of the tools we teach

594
00:32:46.200 --> 00:32:49.200
within the academy. That's become sort of one of our

595
00:32:49.240 --> 00:32:51.960
signature things of how people kind of it's like a

596
00:32:52.000 --> 00:32:56.079
portfolio people put it. The graduation as it were from

597
00:32:56.119 --> 00:32:57.839
this for phase one is they have to do a

598
00:32:57.839 --> 00:33:03.039
presentation and part of the presentations they have to provide

599
00:33:04.599 --> 00:33:07.079
a product, like something they can give out to everybody there.

600
00:33:07.480 --> 00:33:09.400
And because it's a lot of us unvirtually we do

601
00:33:09.440 --> 00:33:12.039
it virtually in an ebook, so the kids learn how

602
00:33:12.039 --> 00:33:13.400
to do it, they learn how to load it up

603
00:33:13.440 --> 00:33:16.839
with their information, they do videos to do podcasting. It's

604
00:33:17.039 --> 00:33:20.799
really very fully featured, I guess if you want to

605
00:33:20.799 --> 00:33:23.839
call it that. But yeah, so there's a lot going

606
00:33:23.880 --> 00:33:25.880
on here. So it's like I'm parents of thousands of

607
00:33:25.960 --> 00:33:27.799
kids in a vicarious way, I suppose.

608
00:33:29.759 --> 00:33:33.440
Yeah, I'm going to plan to see because here in

609
00:33:33.480 --> 00:33:37.720
the province of Quebec, there's a big project to help kids,

610
00:33:37.920 --> 00:33:45.759
even in elementary school, do small entrepreneurial oh project you

611
00:33:45.799 --> 00:33:48.799
know that they do with the teachers' help. Obviously we

612
00:33:48.960 --> 00:33:50.759
have to go out of our way to support them

613
00:33:50.759 --> 00:33:54.000
in this project. But I had a student who was

614
00:33:54.160 --> 00:33:57.720
very shy and wouldn't talk but she wanted to start

615
00:33:57.960 --> 00:34:02.160
an art project. She's in great buy for the grade

616
00:34:02.240 --> 00:34:06.119
ones and two at lunchtime that did not like going outside,

617
00:34:06.200 --> 00:34:10.719
and she hated going outside, so one she found something

618
00:34:10.760 --> 00:34:14.000
to do that could keep her in the classroom, you know,

619
00:34:14.159 --> 00:34:17.199
with me during lunchtime, so she didn't have to go

620
00:34:17.280 --> 00:34:22.440
out as often. And when she started her project, quite

621
00:34:22.440 --> 00:34:25.400
a few kids joined. But at one point she had

622
00:34:25.480 --> 00:34:29.360
so many kids joining that she had to get a

623
00:34:29.400 --> 00:34:32.880
team going. And when she would talk to these kids,

624
00:34:33.400 --> 00:34:36.119
she learned to talk to them nice and loud, like

625
00:34:36.159 --> 00:34:38.760
every time I'd be in the classroom supervising, so I

626
00:34:38.800 --> 00:34:42.599
could give her some little tips, and she flew with

627
00:34:42.760 --> 00:34:45.800
the project. And because we would stay with the kids

628
00:34:45.800 --> 00:34:49.239
for two years grade five and six, she got to

629
00:34:49.280 --> 00:34:51.519
continue on to grade six and she had a team

630
00:34:52.119 --> 00:34:56.559
of four other grade six students helping her with this

631
00:34:56.679 --> 00:35:00.760
project because she had twenty twenty five kids coming at lunch.

632
00:35:00.800 --> 00:35:04.840
Showery, that's the thing. Sometimes a little idea becomes a

633
00:35:04.880 --> 00:35:09.119
life changing thing. It's really interesting. Yeah, and that's eternal.

634
00:35:09.159 --> 00:35:11.599
I've seen that so many times.

635
00:35:11.480 --> 00:35:14.440
And that's why we need to go along with what

636
00:35:14.599 --> 00:35:18.199
our children want to discover, try out to see if

637
00:35:18.239 --> 00:35:20.800
it is for them or not for them. You know,

638
00:35:20.960 --> 00:35:23.679
at four, my daughter wanted to be a ballerina. She

639
00:35:23.800 --> 00:35:27.519
took the class, she didn't like it, so she finished

640
00:35:27.519 --> 00:35:30.800
her class, but then she moved on to something else.

641
00:35:30.920 --> 00:35:31.159
You know.

642
00:35:31.280 --> 00:35:35.199
Now she's doing something totally different that has nothing to

643
00:35:35.280 --> 00:35:38.679
do with that, and it's okay allowing them that space.

644
00:35:39.159 --> 00:35:42.960
So thank you so much, doctor Stephen Green. It was

645
00:35:43.239 --> 00:35:48.760
nice to have you and wishing you all the best.

646
00:35:49.199 --> 00:35:51.800
And oh I have a closing that I usually do.

647
00:35:51.880 --> 00:35:55.440
I'm a little bit off here today, but anyway, so

648
00:35:56.239 --> 00:36:01.719
the ripple effect of love for dads and families. Look

649
00:36:01.760 --> 00:36:05.599
at check out on YouTube the other episodes that we

650
00:36:05.760 --> 00:36:08.719
have so that you can and in the blurb you

651
00:36:08.880 --> 00:36:16.440
will find the information to connect with doctor Green and

652
00:36:16.480 --> 00:36:21.039
with myself. You can find him on LinkedIn and you

653
00:36:21.079 --> 00:36:26.960
can also find him on some of the other platforms,

654
00:36:27.199 --> 00:36:32.000
and in the YouTube I've written his information. So wishing

655
00:36:32.039 --> 00:36:35.400
you all the best to you and your children and

656
00:36:35.480 --> 00:36:40.599
for you to step forward to be the best dad

657
00:36:41.079 --> 00:36:43.000
that you can be. Learning